Im in a Lesbian relationship with someone whom i've been with for about 7 or 8 months. We got along just fine until she found out i was still great friends with an ex of mine. After a while she began to complain...so i began to complain of all the female friends she has period....which makes up about 70% of her friends. She said i dont trust her if i have to ask...
2007-01-04 08:12:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I tell my boyfriend I don't trust him when he leaves out of town. A part of me doesn't trust him, but I am reasonable.
Ask where her insecurity comes from, maybe introduce her to your ex and prove to her you have nothing to hide, and don't stop there keep on going. Tell her anything she wants to know and talk it over until she is happy.
Just think your ex is someone you for some reason or another you had feelings for her similar to your now girlfriend that has to be a bit threatening.
=D good luck.
2007-01-04 11:52:21 · answer #1 · answered by Alim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Someone as HUMAN as I am! Yeah!
Its a Lesbian thing. I had the same problem, and still do. My girlfriend, was friends with her ex girlfriend, and without my knowledge, she kept hold of her. They would talk and, being as how my girlfriend is a natural flirt anyways, was just always all over her.
Well, I finally had to sit and talk to her about the fact that I didn't like it.
She still kept doing it, so I went out and found one of my ex's and was friends with her, just to show my ex what it was like.
Talk to her. Really. Tell her that you are only wanting to be with her and if she cannot trust you, then its pointless to be in a realtionship.
Its a misconception among lesbians that oh, if your friends with your ex, you must be fooling around behind her back. Its jealousy. It means she cares. Maybe...just work with her at it..?
You have to see from her point, that maybe she has been hurt a lot due to the fact that, maybe that being friends with an ex, her girlfriend was taken from her? If your ONLY friends with your EX let her know that. I told my girlfriend that if she ever wanted to be more than just friends with another girl, that I would like to be told first, and that was the end of our convo.
The rest of the time, I just get jelous enough, that my girlfriend ends up seeing that they were just trying to get her to sleep with them in the first place, so maybe its not all bad?
Its rough, but she will understand...just talk to her.
2007-01-04 16:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, "Let's go see a marriage counselor."
2007-01-04 16:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say let's go to hell
2007-01-04 16:22:53 · answer #4 · answered by Maro's mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋