How do I get over him.....?

Question

Well im currently in a relationship but before I started going out with my boyfriend I was seeing this one guy who I fell in love with. We were never an actual couple but i fell for him eventhough he told me since day one that he did not want a relationship. I still went out with him wishing that one day he would fall in love with me but it never happened. So I came across my boyfriend and developed feelings for him. But i still cant get over the other guy. I get so depressed because i feel like im lying to my bf. I think that if the other guy were to tell me to get back with him I probably would. But when I was with him he was seeing other girls and it really hurt me. I didnt want to be in that type of relationship cause it wasnt healthy for me. However dispite everything that the other guy did I still cant forget about him. Its so hard cause theres times when im with my bf and think about the other guy. I dont want to keep on doing this to him. Please help get over the other guy. I do have self respect thats why I chose to end this and move on. I wouldnt want to leave my bf because he is my joy now. I need to know how can I tell the other guy to stop calling me or asking me to hang out.

Answer 1

You just need to be honest with him. Tell the other guy you're in a relationship and you will not consider being with him. Just be honest with the other guy. It's the best way to nip this in the bud quickly.

Answer 2

The key is to GET THAT OTHER GUY OUT OF YOUR LIFE. Do NOT answer his calls. Do NOT go see him. Do NOT hang out with him. If he keeps calling you after you do this, then report him for harrassing you. As long as he is involved with you in any way, he will be on your mind, and then he is an obstacle you are going to have to face. Then cultivate your current relationship and in time you'll totally get over the loser ex. That is the only way. Good luck!