ive tried everything and everyone 4 help with my son,noone seems to want to no only when he`s done something wrong.at the end of my tether,any suggestions.
2007-01-04 08:09:09 · 13 answers · asked by micky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
try -i know it's hard --but look for all the good things in your son -he must have some ! everyone else will pick out the bad things
2007-01-04 08:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by emarston@btinternet.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get what you mean by 'tearaway,' but I too have a teenage son who has been quite a challenge. Some days I just want to give him away, but, i (we) are loving him unconditionally, setting firm boundaries & sticking to them, remaining consistent w/what we expect & so on. He does not have a cell phone, ipod or any video games, xbox, nothing...he surfs & plays volleyball, oh & he has been raised in a Christian home & our church is a big part of our lives. All to say - we are doing our best & if he doesn't go to college, he will be off to work! or the military! We tell him almost everyday, we love you but will not stand for rudeness or disrespect - he has a good heart, I think he's just working it out & most likely, your son is too. Stay firm, let him know what you expect and stay strong! Happy New Year!
2007-01-04 08:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Forever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids - my daughter, who is 21 and my son who is 15. I can honestly say that I have never had a day with either one of them in which I have had any bother.
How? Easy. By always making sure they know the limits. And by that, I don't mean in a military kind of way (I am, if anything, too easy going with my kids, as my wife often reminds me). rather, if the rules are fair and equal for all members of the family, then no-one in it can complain they have more to do/more rules to follow/less independence.
I have seen many teenage kids who go a bit 'wild' (I am a university teacher who has taught in high schools in the past). But, there are no bad kids, rather, the reason they are like this is because they have bad parents who do not do their share without complaining about it.
If your son is as 'out of control' as you say he is, then try this. Stop trying to control him. Let him be independent. BUT, on the condition that giving him his independence means you have your independence from him too. So, no prepared meals when he comes home. No washing/ironing/cleaning done for him. No free taxi service. No money without working for it. He'll get the idea damned quick.
Good luck and, if all else fails, call the Police yourself next time he breaks the law.
2007-01-04 08:20:32 · answer #3 · answered by Superdog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what "tearaway" means, but I'm guessing rebellious or wild? All children act out for a primary reason and that is attention. If they can't get positive attention they'll get negative, consciously or subconsciously. Try spending more time with him doing things you both enjoy. Teenagers need boundaries and limits, but they also need to know what is behind that is love and concern, not just parents asserting their power/authority. When he misbehaves let him know there are consequences for that, such as loss of priviledges. Be consistent and be fair. For example grounding a teen for a month is punishment and not neccessarily teaching him to be responsible for his actions.
2007-01-04 08:16:55 · answer #4 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apart from talking to him like he is a grown up, try to teach him about the consequences of his actions and the possible outcomes these will have.
Appeal to his nicer side IF he has one.
All the best for the future.
2007-01-04 09:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as harsh as it might sound, give him a belt.....it was used on me when i was growing up and it kept me on the straight and narrow....give a child or a teen an inch and theyll take a yard!!! i did and luckily my parents knew it!
if all else fails, take away his possessions.
Discipline!
In fact take back everything ive just said ive just remembered what my mum used to do when i REALLY upset her, she would shout or anything she would just go "youve really let me down thats it im not intrested anymore" and then **** off out the room, thats when id think "oh **** ive really done it now!!" it really worried me to the point of a serious apology!
2007-01-04 08:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im having the same issue with my son,he only started being being stroppy after starting secondary school,my answer to you is he wont always be like this ,maybe its there hormones or something, just try and keep calm,dont let it get on top of you,goodluck
2007-01-04 08:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by LYNDA M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see social services...they will have him assessed, the could help you get some counselling, maybe teel boot camp may help./...or even a place for unruly teens...you have to speak to the authorities.
2007-01-04 09:15:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
clip on the tab normally works
2007-01-04 08:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and sit him down and talk to him. also think about if there's anything you can think of that makes him behave in this way and if you have a part in it.
2007-01-04 08:12:11 · answer #10 · answered by missree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋