There's this girl at my junior high who used to be friends with and who ALL of my friends hang out with or at least talk about. She drives me crazy. Last year i just getting to know her and i thought she was really sweet and that we could become really good friends. But this year she has definately changed my mind. She's gotten so popular from being best on the basketball team to having the best grades to wearing name brand clothes and never having a jewelry or makeup mishap. She has is all going for her but i just don't understand why she doesn't treat it with respect. It's like everytime i turn around she's rubbing it in everyone's face how she just got the hottest guy at school to date her, or how she knows that everyone loves her. But not me. I'm sick of how everyone falls for her phony act. It's all just fake faces and all she want's is the extra attention.
My ? is...how do i respond to her when she say's everyone is in love with her. I'm sick of lying, "We can't live w/out u."
2007-01-04 08:05:58 · 30 answers · asked by Sample ID 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Celebrities
When she is alone (it sounds like that will take a while) ask her why she isn't the same person she used to be, why she's treating you the way she is. If she really turned into a brat (more then half of my friends in elementary school became "enemies" in middle school when they got full of themselves. I made better friends in middle school and all of their egos are still normal), then just stick with your other friends and hang out with them. Making new friends is good too.
2007-01-04 08:09:01 · answer #1 · answered by ~Geeks Will Rule The World~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a girl like that. I used to be practically best friends with her, but then she got too competitive with grades and too braggy about her 18-boyfriends-in-a-year, as well as her "popularity."
I don't think you should lie. I think whenever you are expected to say "I can't live without you," just smile instead. She won't know what you mean. That way, you can say what you want in your head, and not be "mean". Maybe you can add a "yeah..." with a dash of sarcasm.
I also think that you should, if you can, stay away from her. If you're around her all the time on purpose, she might take that as a sign that you respect her, revere her. You don't want that. Join a club or some group outside of school. That way you can have something to do without hanging out with the people that are obsessed with her, and whenever she talks to you, you can reference your friends. Then she'll be, "Who's that? I don't know them." And her ego will be lowered a little.
You should also know that if not now, then very soon, you will find verification that no one REALLY likes her. They are probably just appeasing her, and that just looks like actual love or friendship. Chances are, a lot of them are just putting on faces so they can be on good terms with her; everyone likes a bit of popularity.
But don't worry. People like her are not really valued in society. I see she wears a lot of name brands. A lot of the girls that tons of guys at my school chase are girls that generally don't care about what they look like. They really aren't amazingly beautiful, either. They are simple and sincere. In terms of personality, none of these girls are popular or loose. Instead, they're quiet and loyal to a few close friends. Instead of using their mouths to brag, they smile quietly, and they usually prefer close friends and a sport/art/activity as a passion, rather than just lavishing in the spotlight.
Take comfort in the fact that people like her will not survive in the real world, and high school is only 4 years. And don't worry about looking back on high school memories; by the time you want to remember high school, you'll probably have forgotten all about her annoying you.
And if none of these work, find at least one person that feels the same way you do. Talking about it really helps (though it would be just mean and childish to spread rumors, so don't). And then you both will probably talk about her so much that you'll get sick of her and banish her from your conscious altogether.
But whatever you do, make sure you trust this person. In fact, if you say anything at all, people will think that you're the bad guy. Just keep quiet and don't complain. You don't have to be nice to her either, just ignore her, and then when she talks to you, be polite. That way, you'll be the bigger person, feel better, and have a lot more high ground to stand on when you start hating on her. Not to mention be respected and loved by, not just everyone around her, but everyone that hates you too. On a deeper level, I guess you could say that this won't make you the new popular girl, but it will make you the girl everyone loves. At least moreso than her.
Good luck with the diva!
2007-01-04 08:22:27 · answer #2 · answered by Emmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know stupid bitc*hs your friends in high school or junior can be such JERKS! First you'll friends then the next year, BAM! They're all popular, that happened to me last year. I was in high school when I was in grade 7 now i'm in grade 8. Most of my friends are all "popular". But hey that was last year, I'm more confident now. I don't care what other people say about me, I just use it against them. If a person says somthing about you face to face don't IGNORE them say somthing BACK at them to make them look bad or use a good comback, one good comeback I usely to the "popular" girls are : "Hey at lest I'm not trying loose fat by being anorexic", "Well hey at least I'm not a bitchy emo whore like you are". < girls HATE that comeback, they don't know how to respond to it. And learn to use a "Poker face" so they don't make you laugh. Think of sothing that makes you SO mad about them and just concentrate on it not there expressions. And remember to talk with a confident and strong LOUND voice! If you need any more help, I be happy to help you with these kind of issues. nikehoops499@yahoo.ca
2007-01-04 08:26:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest with you its not good to dwell on jealousy. but if you really want to trip up little miss popular then pull a good prank to embarrass the **** out of her. if you have the guts you can write on the bathroom walls. right it really big in marker on the wall so everyone can see. Say that "so ans so" stuck a frozen hot dog in her pussy and it broke off. then tape some empty hot dog wrappers to her locker before everybody comes to school that day. It will bring down her confidence enough to make her less popular and she wont think that everyone loves her any more!
2007-01-04 10:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just smile and walk away. don't even answer. it's not mean because you're not blowing up at her and telling her how you really feel, you're just politely bowing out of the conversation and leaving. reassess you're feelings and make sure your not jealous of her, if you truly are not then the next time she's rubbing something in your face sarcastically say, "yeah, yeah, we're all SO jealous of you." say it in a flat voice with no enthusiasm and then immediately follow that statement with something else, like a good book/ CD/ DVD you got. tell her she would love it. that's just a slightly more obvious way of letting her know she needs to change the subject. good luck and stop lying, there are plenty of ways to tell the truth nicely!
2007-01-04 08:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by swsbcabg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well everyone says turn the other cheek but it's really hard i would say listen (girl's name) i kno ur a attention deprived kid and u phony act is not fooling anyone cuz all u are is a snobby stuck up wanna be Paris Hilton or jus get creative with it.
2007-01-04 08:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by BigBallerGurl2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 15:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. The only reason to pretend is because YOU crave that popular acceptance too. She want's to be popular and well liked, she gets it and she's wallowing in it. Popularity doesn't really get you anything of value (unless you get into politics or entertainment). Be yourself, express your opinions appropriately and don't hide your feelings.
Let her know you findher behaviour rude and let her know that your always there to be her friend when she realizes what real friendship is.
2007-01-04 08:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by zen_cop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "Look, everyone knows that your popular, so don't rub it in our faces." Explain to her that people would like her even more if she was a bit more humble. Obviously, even though she is very popular and seems to have it all, she is insecure. She solves this innner issue by making sure that everybody knows how popular she is.
2007-01-04 08:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by fluffysheep12345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im really good at getting back at people, for a good treason thou, and you are just jealous of her even thou she hasnt done nothing to you. il still help thou, #1. start a rumor about her, like that she goes around, has an STD. #2.get a stink bomb, break it and spill it on her. you can do this when she is going up the stairs, therefore giving you time to run so they wont see you. But seriously you shouldnt do this, let het give you a reason, dont just do it cause your jealous.
2007-01-04 08:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋