He was going to e-mail her and tell her he was getting married and leave him alone. Then he said he would just ignore her and maybe she would leave him alone. However, he is still reading them. Most are cartoons, etc. He doesn't answer, though. I say he should let her know he is married and to leave him alone. He said that if my exes contact me, I am supposed to tell them I'm married. I say that's a double standard. He has lied to me before--she lives in his apt building and he told me she didn't when I asked. He said I would be upset--which is true. He knows the e-mails bother me but so far hasn't let her know. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to let her know we are married and to please quit w/the e-mails. I don't think anything is going on with her, but it still bothers me. I think my feelings are more important than hers. Your opinion?
2007-01-04 08:05:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think your feelings are more important than hers too...and I'm a little concerned that your hubby seems to feel differently. If he feels ignoring her is the answer - great - he can easily block her emails. That way your happy and he's happy. If he's unwilling to do this you may want to dig a little deeper...
2007-01-04 08:08:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I understand it, perishing means the Second Death. Not many talk about it in that term, but the Bible does; Examples: Revelation 2:11 He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. He who overcomes will not be hurt at all by the second death. Revelation 20:6 Blessed and holy are those who have part in the first resurrection. The second death has no power over them, but they will be priests of God and of Christ and will reign with him for a thousand years. Revelation 20:14 Then death and Hades were thrown into the lake of fire. The lake of fire is the second death. Revelation 21:8 But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practice magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulfur. This is the second death." So either you are covered and so wont suffer "Second Death", which to my understanding is perishing, or you are not. As far as what happens to someone who suffers the second death, this is where I look for that: Revelation 20 10 And the devil, who deceived them, was thrown into the lake of burning sulfur, where the beast and the false prophet had been thrown. They will be tormented day and night for ever and ever. So it is a conscious, eternal torment as I understand it. It's not falling asleep or being unaware of the pain.
2016-05-23 03:28:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has double standards because most men do and he's not going to tell her about being married because he likes having options. So, if you say that he needs to let her know, he'll get upset turning the situation around on you about jealousy or whatever, but bottom line is he knows that his ex will still let him have his way which is why he's not willing to tell her. Make up your mind about what you want and go for it before it's too late for your marriage to be saved.
2007-01-04 08:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It only bothers you because you are invading his privacy. I'm sure if he opened and read your emails you'd get mad as heck. You have to have trust that what he is telling you is the truth otherwise you're just being paranoid. Leave it alone, guys are weird when it comes to dealing with other women. Don't be so insecure, he married you and seems happy about it. Take your mind off of it and focus on the two of you. Good luck
2007-01-04 08:21:29 · answer #4 · answered by odessa2469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married to you. He loves you and I don't think you have much to worry about. Maybe he has a good reason for just ignoring her, and not telling her to stop. In the past, I have seen exes that start to cause more trouble if they're told to go away. There's some strange people out there who just can't take rejection and she might be one of them. He would be the only one to know.
2007-01-04 08:54:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your hubby should continue to ignore the e-mails from the ex-girlfriend and should respect you and not open them at all! Tell him that you would prefer that he deletes them as he gets them.
Let him know how you feel about it--and be honest about it, I can only guess that it bothers you 100%. I know because it's happening to me as well.
When you ignore the "ex" in time they do go away! Keep the Ex out of your business! She does not need to know your business, it just adds fuel to the Ex and she will continue to e-mail him just to piss you off......oh, and men do lie about things like this because they just don't want you to get upset about it---but not telling you is still a lie...
2007-01-04 08:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by lazykat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That husband of yours should send one e-mail to her and
tell her to bug off as he is a married man and does not
want her sending any other e-mails. TELL your husband
that he needs to do that and if he still does not then you
will be given the hint that he is still interested in her. To
heck with the feelings as you have the right as a wife to
detest his actions and let him know that as a woman. If
he still does not do it then you set the rules and let him
know what will happen if he doesn't. Be strong and be
a woman and you will come out ahead at the end.
2007-01-04 15:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do understand your concern, and I don't think that you are being unreasonable, but I would suggest that you stop stressing yourself out for no reason, since the emails don't have anything important in them, if its just cartoons and jokes, its no big deal, but I think that you are right to ask him to let her know about the marriage. I would suggest discussing it with him and letting him know that its bothers you that she doesn't know, and that you would like to stop the emails from coming. Let him know how i makes you feel, and say that its disrespectful towards you and the marriage!
2007-01-04 08:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by wantstoknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are the emails he receives from his ex just cartoons or jokes? If so, get over it. If not, then he needs to let her know he is getting married an to leave him alone because it's disrespectful to the both of you!
2007-01-04 08:12:56 · answer #9 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a double standard. He obviously cannot let go of the past cold turkey, but expects you to do so. Even if he says nothing is going on, his ex-girlfriend should know that he is now happily(????) married. Your hubby doesn't seem to be sensitive to your emotions, which would concern me.
2007-01-04 08:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by elljay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋