I wanna have a baby but my bf dont want one.
we both said we wanted one but the he said no.
I really want a baby but he dont. And i told him i would wait till he wanted a baby.
Should i wait till he wants one or just stop takeing my pills and not tell him?
I need help, I dont know wat to do.
SomeOne Help Me Plz.
2007-01-04 07:59:00 · 6 answers · asked by carole H 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
You should wait until he's ready. And you should really be making a commitment to each other - such as marriage. You could just stop taking the pills, but don't be at all surprised when he leaves you. Then you will be left on your own with a baby. And that is not fair to the child. Think of someone besides yourself when you're bringing a child into this world, you need to think of the impact this would have on your child. If you're not ready to think of the consequences of your actions then you are definitely not ready to have a baby.
2007-01-04 08:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs_M 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend had enough respect for you to be honest with you and tell you he doesn't want a baby. Do you really think being dishonest with him by not taking your birth control pills is a mature idea? Either respect his wishes or find someone who wants a child in the future. Nagging your boyfriend probably won't make him change his mind and lying to him will make him resent you.
2007-01-04 16:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should wait until he is ready. A child deserves to have both parents actively involved in it's life. And your boyfriend deserves to live child free as long as he wants. Your wants shouldn't overtake his wants. Do the right thing and continue taking your birth control. If you stop taking it, tell him so he can use condoms.
2007-01-04 16:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by *Just Married* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No that would be very deceitfully, unless your at the point where your clock is starting to tick. Even then its wrong , your boyfriend may feel he isn’t ready at this point to be a father. He clearly has expressed the desire to one day be a father he just isnt ready for it now. If you truly need a baby right now then you'll just have to find a man who is ready to be a father.
2007-01-04 16:41:24 · answer #4 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he is ready. I think stopping your pills and not telling him is very deceitful and wrong. What are you gonna do if you decide to do that and he says the baby isn't his and you have to do the pregnancy all alone? I say wait. Perhaps get married first. Good luck
2007-01-04 16:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
first off if he doesnt want one then you should respect that and second off why are you in a rush to get pregnat you should be enjoying being with him and getting to know him and you should never ever trick him into becomong a dad if he is not ready and you become pregnat chances are he is gonna leave and i agree with the above messege the child deserves to have both parents
2007-01-04 16:31:02 · answer #6 · answered by MS DAHL 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋