My friend’s little sister is pregnant with her first baby, her shower is in a few weeks. She emailed me today to tell me my invitation is in the mail and that she and her sister expect me to be there.
The problem is that I don’t really like my friend’s sister, she is not even my friend. She is very into herself and brags about money they don’t have.
I am pregnant myself and have been very sick and honestly even if I did like her I wouldn’t want to go because I have been so ill.
How do I politely tell her that I can’t make it, and should I wait until I get the invite and know the date? Should I lie and say I have a family event that day?
We are not close so I don’t see why she would expect me there!
2007-01-04 07:57:18 · 21 answers · asked by PrettyWifey 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just be "sick" that day. surely they will understand. If you have to, get a small gift and send it later to show that you were planning on going, but just didnt make it. I know you shouldnt even have to buy a gift, but even a little baby blanket or something like that couldnt hurt.
I dont think you should go, but it sounds like your friend is putting on the pressure. If you are really good friends with her, and are honest with each other, just tell her you are not up to it, otherwise just be sick that day and call and tell them you are not well but you have a gift... If you really like your friend, dont risk your friendship over her sister.
You need to take care of you... or better yet, even just a thought... show up for a bit, leave a little early. when you have your baby shower, invite both of them (and be sure to tell them you expect both of them to be there!), and you will get double gifts :)
2007-01-04 08:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by designerista 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"We are not close so I don’t see why she would expect me there!" -- well, there's your answer. Those people who invite everybody they've ever heard of to showers, weddings, etc, just to get presents don't really deserve an elaborately polite let-down.
But if you're set on being polite to this little present-grubber -- "honestly...I wouldn’t want to go because I have been so ill" -- there's your answer again. You don't have to lie a bit. Just pass along that you're too sick. Perhaps a bit closer to the date of the shower, though.
That said, friends' little sisters tend to look up to their big sisters' friends. If they've known them for a long time, I mean. You might send a card or something if that's the case.
2007-01-04 08:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I personally would handle this is by being up front and honest.Tell call her and tell her you can't make it because you are sick and tell her you are sorry.If your sister goes,send a card with her from you wishing her the best and again say your sorry for not being able to make it.If you want you could send a small gift,but I think the card should be enough.Good luck!And Congrats on the baby!
2007-01-04 08:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by jill@doodle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you get the invitation, then deliver a gift to the friend and say you'll not be able to attend. If she presses you, tell her you aren't friends with the sister and wouldn't be comfortable there, but still wish her the best and got her a gift.
2007-01-04 08:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to decline your invite, but I have another baby shower to attend at that same time and day! OR, With the pregnancy Im going through, I am not able to make it. But here is a small gift for you and yourr baby even though I was not able to attend...
hope this helped!
2007-01-04 08:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by tropikanagirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me, which it never would be because Im a man..anyway if it were me id go dressed like I had some other plans...tell my friend i have to meet someone for something important(add your own important thing) and I could only stay to drop off the gift and say hi and bye...this way they cant complain about you not showing up and cant say anything about you being rude..
2007-01-04 08:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by INFINITE CONSCIOUSNESS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU are pregnant.....use that as the excuse for not going!! Send a gift (a small one) if that will help assuage any guilt you happen to have.....and beg off with your own pregnancy ailments (be they real or created)!
Wait until you get the invite....and just call with your excuse!! White lies are truly okay sometimes....especially to spare feelings or embarassment!!
To me it sounds like they are inviting people for the gifts. Weird.
Good luck with YOUR upcoming attraction!!
2007-01-05 21:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by diapercakesbybecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i think youre being selfish! so you and the girl aren't close and she has issues, who doesn't she may be looking for attention that she doesn't get at home pregnancy is supposed to be a time where you have alot of support i know youre not feeling good trust me i've been pregnant twice, but even if i wasn't feeling good i still at least tried to make it to people's babyshowers even if we weren't close i would take a present (whatever i could afford anything helps especially with a first child) and i would stay for 15-30 minutes i know it made me feel great when people showed up to my babyshower imagine if no one showed up to her babyshower because they didn't feel like going, that would probably break her heart! this is an important day for her and everyone who has had a child knows how hard it is to get the necessities for your first child and how important it is to have support! i hate when people act like they're back in middle school get over the i don't like her i don't like him i won't go here if she is here bull crap. there are alot of people in the world that are in need im not saying she is but remember what goes around comes around i may not care for someone but half the time i don't know their story there could be alot going on that you don't know about!!! i hope you make the right decision!
2007-01-04 08:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by tiffany b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Say that you been having a really hard time with your pregnancy and that you would really love to go but you think it's a better idea to rest, but still send a gift for her with your friend to give to her sister.
2007-01-04 08:02:01 · answer #9 · answered by daddys_girl319 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh gee have the flu you know the pooping an vomiting kind. They will be glad you stayed home. You could send a little gift for the baby if you wish.
2007-01-04 07:59:32 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋