education is among the group.
2007-01-04 07:50:58 · 41 answers · asked by alpha & omega 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion there are two reasons for the failure of marriage. The first one and the most important one is, the lack of God in a marriage. The second one is, many people feel that marriage is a give and take relationship, but they are wrong. Marriage is a give and give relationship.
2007-01-04 07:56:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ron P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay everyone has their own set of problems and when I got married, we both had already gone through a divorce and I had a 6yr old boy going into the marriage and as he grew up and decided that he didn't have to listen to my husband because that is not his real dad than it really created a lot of problems and still does. Even though my son is 19 now and living a life on his own, he is very angry and rebellious, so I would have to say that trying to blend families can create major problems, not always I know. I also believe that if God was not in our lives we would have never made it. So really marriage takes three!
2007-01-04 08:04:33 · answer #2 · answered by Louise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Finances and communication and commitment. If you don't or can't make enough to pay bills and be independent it is hard to stay married and make a relationship work. I don't mean you need to be rich just that you need around $1,500 or $2,000 minimum take home pay to make ends meet, at least where I live. Also if you don't communicate well or aren't committed then even if you make enough to live on your marriage is worthless cuz if you arent committed to the other person then what do you have to get you thru the hard times? There's a reason why you pledge for good times and BAD and SICKNESS and health....for richer and POORER...you're suppose to be committed to each other no matter what happens
2007-01-04 07:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by trishay79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest problem with marriage is the fact that government is involved with issuing liscences.
If only churches were allowed to ordain and authorize marriages, the success rate would rise dramatically. Why? Becuase most churches require members to attend marrriage counseling and other self-help instructions before they will officiate a marriage.
Our goverment does not care WHO gets married, or WHY, so long as you meet two easy tests: You are both over 18 and one of you is a male and one is a female.
Now how silly is that?
The government should only issue domestic partnership liscences, and let churchs oversee who can and cannot get married in their church.
2007-01-04 07:55:38 · answer #4 · answered by Gabzilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The inability to compromise, because all of those things can be tied into it.
Finances: the inability to consult the other on major purchases.
Sex: The inability to pleasure one another rather than only one or the other.
Selfishness: The inability to share or communicate ones wants and needs effectively.
Education: The inability to recognize that both are entitled to the same education and provisions.
2007-01-04 07:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main issue is that women change and their expectations grow. Men pretty much stay the same as when you marry them. Often women think either they will change him or his issues she can live with. Down the road she won't put up with things that were once OK and expect emotional evolving that many men are oblivious to.
She feels angry or despondent he starts to recoil or fight back or just gives up.
Any woman considering marriage needs to read Dr Laura's Proper Care and Feeding of a Husband. This the owners manual for a man. Many divorces could be avoided by reading it.
2007-01-04 08:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Duane Allman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Education? What does education have to do with problems in a marriage? Education, in itself, is not a problem. I do not think this is a common issue.
My answer: Selfishness. #1. Easy. Everything else that causes problems in a marriage: money, sex, poor communication... it all comes down to one or both partners being selfish. It is selfish not to want to communicate. It is selfish not to listen to someone's problems or feelings. It is selfish to withhold sex. It is selfish to pressure for more sex. It is selfish to not compromise on money issues. It is selfish not to agree to go to a marriage counselor when you're stuck with problems like this in the first place!
2007-01-04 07:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say the number 1# problem in a marriage would be the lack of each spouse willing to fight for the marriage. Yes, all the other problems mentioned like respect, honesty, fidelity, communication, job, career, all of that, but if you are both willing to hang in there and fight for your marriage all of those problems seem small, like attainable goals. But if you have the mindset of if this doesn't work out I am out of here, there lies your problem. If you each enter the marriage saying that no matter what (except for abuse) we will not divorce, anything is possible.
L.
2007-01-04 07:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by tink3610 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is control. One person is always the "boss" in a relationship, one is the strong one and the other is weaker. That can cause a lot of resentment for the weaker one. People get tired of always compromising and waiting to be the priortiy in the other's life, giving in and taking a back seat, putting their wants and needs on hold for the sake of the other person. Sooner or later, even a saint would explode from the frustration and inequality.
2007-01-04 07:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotional and mental neglect.
I feel that if a person who desires attention and needs some romantic time with the love of their life and are neglected for so long that they tend to stray. I have had thoughts of straying from my marriage simply from lack of attention or romance. I don't feel special enough, I don't feel happy. I know communication is a big problem with married couples. I communicate my feelings of neglect and get nowhere. I am not going to stray due to I know what it'll do to our marriage. But, I think that neglect is a big problem in marriages.
2007-01-04 08:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by odessa2469 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋