Ok as I'm sure some of yall have seen the many of question I've posting asking for help how do to help my sister deal with her miscarriage here is another. Tommorow makes 1 year since she found out she had a miscarriage what can I do to help? Here the story for those of you who haven't seen my past questions. She and I got pregnant at the same time. We was due only a few days apart. Well she had a miscarriage when we was 3 months. I had my son. He is now 6 months. She is his God mother. But she doesn't talk to me or anyone not even her husband. What would be something to help her deal with tommorow. like sending follows to her work or what would be something small but let her know it'll be ok and I'm here??
2007-01-04 07:49:38 · 11 answers · asked by tweetygirl4today 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I would get her a small figurine or something of an angel. Generally people just want others to acknowledge their loss and remember with them. It should make her feel good that you remember her loss and potential niece/nephew and also remind her that her little angel is in heaven always watching over her and helping her.
In addition, I might recommend counseling for her. It is very hard for people to deal with the loss of a child at any stage. If after a year she is still having difficulty coping she may want to seek outside help. While she will never "get over" her loss, it may help her deal with the emotions better so that she can move on and live in honor of her lost baby rather than in grief. (I only mention this because I know what it's like to lose a child).
2007-01-04 07:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by I Know - Pick ME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for filling me in as I have not read your past posts.
I can say that I know what your sister is going through. In June of 2004 I had a miscarriage around 24 weeks. Although my (now) husband and I hadn't really shared the news, it was very tough. My husband doesn't remember the day it happened or anything. However, June 4th is very hard. And although it was almost 3 years ago doesn't make it easier.
I would suggest that you look at your relationship with her. If she hasn't talked to you, nor her husband, then maybe you shouldn't do anything. It is always harder when someone brings it up. If she wants to talk about it then let her talk to you and let her bring it up.
At most, I would suggest a phone call. Not to bring up the anniversary, but to let her know you are there if she needs something. If she wants to talk about it she will bring it up!
I hope this helps, and by no means have I tried to be ugly towards what others have said. It's simply that I've been there.
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-01-04 08:21:14 · answer #2 · answered by pinktoenails 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to look for the advice of a scientific expert. She would not choose you sending her flowers and candy to remind her of that undesirable day. have faith ME--I had a miscarriage in June of 2005. Get her some expert help yet end with the a million 3 hundred and sixty 5 days anniversary occasion. You had your baby, she did no longer!
2016-10-06 10:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by murchison 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally i think you should give her something nice. flowers, roses, a card etc... It is very hard for the day to come back where you had a miscarrige. It brings sorrow and greif. She may think avout you or she wont if she feels ok she might even contact you again. Try it. it may work.
2007-01-04 07:53:55 · answer #4 · answered by Asheypooh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what, I would not send flowers, especally since she does not want to talk about it, and I understand first hand. I would just call her and talk about things that are in your every day life, or maybe just take her to lunch, or dinner. Give her a big hug, tell her you are thinking of her and that you love her very much.
2007-01-05 00:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be nice to send her 1 white rose or another single flower(in memory of the baby she lost) & a handwritten note from you (saying you are thinking of her today & proud to be her sister). You don't want to make a huge deal of the day, but want her to know that you didn't forget either...good luck to you.
2007-01-04 07:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Karen C 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage. It upsets me more when people pretend nothing happened. Personally, I find it comforting when people mention my little one.
2007-01-04 09:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well am sorry for your sister and i want u to maybe continue to pray for her that GOD should give her another baby and when u have your baby, u should let them go to her, call her mommy, i think that will make her happy even thou it not her, it is still part of her own and i think she will be great full.
2007-01-04 07:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by nikky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that I would do anything out of the ordinary. For me, bringing that up would be hard and she should be able to move on.
2007-01-04 07:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Robin W 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Pay for counseling, she needs it! She should have been over this by now! Best thing for her to do is get pg again!
2007-01-04 07:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋