I was married for 15 years with three kids , and have been divorce for 10 years . I have been living with my boyfriend 4 years . He tells me I am a great women and mother , but I am not sure if I ever want to get marreid again, he knows this about me , and wants to stay with me . I am not sure why I do not want to get married again . help!!
2007-01-04 07:43:43 · 6 answers · asked by christina3661@yahoo.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Might be fear of failure once again. If you believe in your relationship and he is good to you and a good stepfather to your children then I would say go for it. You must be aware that communication is the number one thing in any relationship and if you and he can do so in an open and mature manner once again I say go for it. I have been married 3 times before and am going for my fourth next May. Reason for previous marriage breakdowns are various. First one was because we were just kids and it only lasted for 2 years. We did have a wonderful son together who is now 32 years old and me and his mom remain very good friends to this day. Second time we just grew apart. Third time I became a widower after my wife passed away. Found a lady now though that I am certain I will be sharing the rest of my life with. If I can go through this then so can you as we all deserve to be happy and have a life partner. If he wants to marry you after living with him for 4 years he must think your the one for him also. Have some faith in yourself and your relationship and take the dive. Best of luck and have a happy 2007.
2007-01-04 07:54:52 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your scared about being left again
from your first husband
so you are too scared to commit
you gotta move on about your ex husband and see that another man loves you even more from your first
its just a matter of moving on
you are deeply scar from your first relationship
and cause of that you cant open your heart to another man
its all understandable
he understands that and loves you
that is why he is still with you for 4 years
you gotta understand that you have to open up before its too late
its like now or never
and make sure he will never ask you this question
2007-01-04 07:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by MightyHyphy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are afraid of things turning sour. Agree to marry him but make it one year from now. You have been divorced before and it didn't kill you and that is the worse that can happen. He sounds like a great guy.
2007-01-04 07:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you dont love him enough to marry him if you have been with him for 4 years you should know him well enough to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with him. No one can answer this question except you because only you know how you feel and think.
2007-01-04 07:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by Binky 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you and he are both happy with your current situation, leave it. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to remarry. You know how hard divorce is and don't want to go through it again. Marriage by law is a piece of paper. You probably already married him with your heart, and that is what counts.
2007-01-04 07:49:09 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have any doubt at all I say NO
2007-01-04 09:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋