me and my bf have been 2gether 4 over a year but i feel like im being used. he never comes to my house i always go to his and it is about an hour away he never asks me did i get home safe. but he does provide me tea and drinks etc.he is meant to meet me at the bus stop were i get off so that we can walk to his house 2gether but half the times he is never thier. he dosent even pay 4 my bus fair. he really loves me tho he always tell me this and makes me feel wanted. he has hit me a few times but i did annoy him to do this. one day he had hold of my phone and i wanted it bk so i asked him over and over again because it had personal info on it and he said no and so i hit him and he give me the phone but he pushed me really hard. half the time he would do anyfink 4 me and acts sooo nice to me so i dunno whether is it just me being stubborn and stupid or i am being used and i cant see it?
2007-01-04 07:43:34 · 10 answers · asked by kelly t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you need to get out of this relationship, the guy is clearly using you and abusing you, relationships are about compromise and you are doing all the work to keep this relationship going while he does nothing but says words to you to make you feel he cares, actions speak louder than words and he doesn't care about you or your well-being, a man should never hit you, it doesn't matter if he feels you annoyed him, etc he should be man enough to control his anger and his emotions, get out while you can because this relationship will only get worse you deserve someone who will love you, respect you and put forth some effort in the relationship, good luck...
2007-01-04 08:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are being used and abused! Seriously! He should not be hitting or pushing you no matter how much you annoyed him. That's just making an excuse for him. You need to get out of this relationship before it gets worse.
Please end this relationship! Pretty soon he could start hitting you just because he had a bad day, or because he felt like it. I've seen this so many times and you are heading for trouble.
He's not worth it, no man that hits a woman is. You can find someone who will treat you the way you should be treated. Do it for yourself. You deserve a HAPPY AND HEALTHY relationship and this relationship is not it!
Good luck. I hope you get yourself out of this relationship.
2007-01-04 15:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by Positively Pink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow seems like this relationship can get REALLY abusive if you don't leave soon. in order for a relationship to work you both have to throw in 100% it seems like you're the only one throwing in your 100% and he's not even at 50%. annoying or not, he shouldn't have to hit or push you. aren't you scared of what he MAY do next? talk it over with him, and if things don't go well, i suggest you leave the relationship. and from your details it doesn't seem like you['re being used because you never really mentioned anything that he had used you for? i just suggest that you be careful.
2007-01-04 15:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by T-NEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is hitting you then leave him alone. do you know how many women end up dead because she thinks he likes her.and he could be cheating on you. but if he gives you tea it is probaly his way of saying stay with him. if he is never there then stop going. if he akss you why you are not there then tell him. and also if when you pushed him then he pushed oyu even harder then that is not love it is abuse. in other words yes he is using you. you just do not want to have to believe that you are being used.
2007-01-04 16:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by baby boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being used. Btw, just because you annoyed him didn't give him any excuse to hit you. A real man won't do that to their woman. Dump him there are plenty of good men out there.
2007-01-04 15:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by Momof1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being used and abused. This relationship is all one way. He gets everything (and doesn't have to go out of his way for it) and you are getting nothing. Drop the loser!! Find someone who will come to your house to see you!
2007-01-04 16:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN!! This guy s a real monster and there's no changing him an d it's not your fault, no matter what you did!!!
2007-01-04 17:11:46 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u are being used...also the violence will get worse....stop seeing him...break up and do not return his calls....lots of great dudes out there...searrch a little harder
2007-01-04 15:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by Tikcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
reading your story makes me feel angry on those people...confront him..remember always, you have the right to be happy..hope you know what i mean,,,gud luck!
2007-01-04 15:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by Julz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, you're dumb.
2007-01-04 15:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋