Ive explored our sexual boundaries. We can have anal sex, oral sex, he'll let me use a strap on, he talks nasty like if you had a dick I'd suck the **** out of it and swallow the nutt. We've haven't done this stuff yet but then to find out if he was gay i asked would he let another man watch or join and he said hell no, never happen. So my question is what am i missing? he's starting to make me feel like he needs to have a man in the bed with him not me....
2007-01-04 07:34:16 · 27 answers · asked by Chocolate_Tai_69 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You asked if he is gay, and he gave you his answer. Is it that you don't believe him?
Liking anal sex does not make a man gay. In fact, there are lots of gay men who actually DON'T like anal sex [I'm not one of them :o) ]. Nor does dirty sex talk.
If you are feeling uncomfortable with the nature of this sex talk and sex acts, say so. Otherwise, you have the answer to your question.
2007-01-04 07:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
My first thought would be that it has nothing at all to do with being gay ! Being gay means you are attracted to men !!!!! (Don't get me wrong, he could be gay, but this alone is not evidence). But let me give you an alternative view to consider. My girl friend and I began experimenting with toys and light bondage over a year ago. It is a very trusting and sensual experience to be restrained while your lover pleases you. We aren't into to whips and pain and stuff like that ........ just completely allowing your partner to pleasure you. Eventually, she decided to try using a strap-on on me. I was nervous at first but also excited about the idea. We both enjoyed it. The sensation was pleasurable (there is definately some pleasure from prostate stimulation), and I get as hard as a rock when she does it, but what we both really got off on was her being in control and me being completely submissive and trusting. And as she put it, "you get to feel what it is like to have your lover inside of you". There was also a little bit of pain associated with the pleasure, but that also heightened the experience - it was really all about her being in control, and me being submissive (used to always be the other way around - now we take turns). She actually orgasms during the act, sometimes more than once. So at least for me ....... it has nothing to do with being gay ......... it is all about letting go and letting the other person be in control ....... and the strap-on signifies role reversal and control. He may not express it this way, but I am sure that is probably part of it. It can be hard to really let go of that and be o.k. with being that submissive, but once you do it, it is is very liberating and opens up a whole lot of avenues. I can also tell you that my girlfriend said she enjoys this role more than she ever thought possible. Of course, I still get my turn to be in charge also !!!!!
I doubt he will admit this but my guess is that he really like the submissiveness and the release of his role when you guys are into this stuff. But just my guess.
Feel free to holler at me mikeallen555555 at yahoo dot com of course. I have a story I wrote that could describe what we did in more detail - it might help explain it more. Write me and I will send it to you.
2007-01-08 06:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by mikeallen555555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW mama!!!! You've got a wild one there! I really feel he could just be saying all this stuff to try and please you sexually. Saying things he'll let only you do to him so you can explore... i guess. Obviously you hurt his man hood by asking if a guy could join or watch, but how else is he suppose to suck the **** out, and swallow the nutt from a penis?????
2007-01-04 08:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by mscity05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither.
To me this sounds like a man who is extremely open and comfortable enough to try almost anything with YOU. I think that you should appreciate him for that.
So often women complain that men don't share thier fantasies. But this is not the case with him.
You should share with your man these uncomfortable feelings. Explain why you asked him "if he was gay i asked would he let another man watch or join". He's probably just very freaky and needs to reassure you that he only wants to be freaky with you.
2007-01-04 08:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by eboue1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from the gay "community" my personal answer would be YES he is so gay! He is not just curious, he is gay! A strap on is enough to make me believe that, but talking dirty to you about another man??? You have to find someone else, and tell him to get out of the closet for both of your sakes, plus, you never know, what if he is messing around with another man? Do you want his dick in you while it's been in another mans dick??? Good Luck Girl!
2007-01-04 07:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
lol...most likely the dude is curious but I am inclined to think he watches too much porn rather that stick with the 'curious' label. Some of the stuff he lets you do is really out there but I think honestly there are some men out there who are straight and would try nearly anything to derive some pleasure...including allowing his female partner to use a strap-on. I for one won't but it looks like you have one of these dudes on yours hands.
So...what are you gonna do? Evidently, you aren't comfortable with it so you may have to move on. The thing is, you may get a dude who is not as willing to experiment and you may, in fact, miss old boy...lol
2007-01-04 07:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by David C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember a lot of people get drawn into this section because they don't look at the catagory of a question before answering. Just because someone spends time here doesn't mean they are anything.
2016-05-23 03:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds curious or a step away from acting on the downlow. Just keep letting him know you are cool so he can at least feel comfortable to be honest with you. And condoms, condoms, CONDOMS, especially if he's talking about swallowing folks.
2007-01-04 08:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Sugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, liking anal sex doesn't make him gay but saying if you had a dick he'd suck the **** out of it sounds pretty gay to me unless he's playing head games with you (no pun intended). It could be that he'll mess with guys but don't want to label himself as gay because of the stigma.
2007-01-04 07:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
nah. he's kinky but only with you. having a strap on up his butt doesn't make him gay. a lot of men like the feeling of the prostate getting massaged.
ya got all those nerve endings down there. why not use them!!
You are lucky to have a fun person like that in bed.
2007-01-04 07:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by a1tommyL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋