Whats wrong with me?
I love my husband very much but so many bad things have happend ever since I got pregnant with his child. Before we got married I found out I was pregnant. I was so happy and he seemed sort of happy. Well we decided we have been together for a long time to get married. Well 2 months before the baby comes we get married and then we have the baby in october. in nov. I find out he cheated in sept. Then I forgave and he doesn't help me at all with the baby, house, or dog. i dont get any attenion unless he want something. Example he wants me 2 have a 3 sum but I don't so he told me that he would stop smoking if I would. I haven't but I don't know what to do. Everyday I wonder if marrying him was a mistake I love my little girl so I will never think that of her. But I think sometimes about leaving him but then I realize i love him so much... What do I do??? I am kinda scared to talk to him.
2007-01-04 07:29:09 · 28 answers · asked by jharris8506 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you should go see someone about this. Talk to someone of the church if your religious. If not go seek help from a psychologist or a counselor. It sounds like you need to communicate with your husband more. I am not a professional psychologist so I feel it is inappropriate to counsel you on this. But I believe there is no need for you to be unhappy. Talk to your husband. He should understand and you can work this out together. If you feel you cannot do that, then go speak with someone about this. I wish you the best and hope that everything works out for you!
God Bless,
Michael DeCourcy
2007-01-04 07:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you really love him. Why do you think something is wrong with you ? That is the first sign of abuse. Having a three some. Bad Girl ! don't do it. Take your baby and raise it in a better environment before it's to late. I think you are afraid to go out on your own, and therefore think you love him. But honestly this is not love. He is bargaining with you to get what he wants. How far will this go ? If it was real love you would have not fear ! Your afraid to talk to him.? What does that tell you. He has cheated on you and I suppose you think that is your fault too? NOT ..Get out while you are young and the baby is young . Find a man that you deserve. There are men out there would treat you right. Not cheat. And will not tolerate a three some. This marriage is going no where. It has no signs of being any good for you anywhere. Get a job, find a place, save some cash, keep the peace until you can leave. Do not back up, you will never be happy. He will cheat again. He is not happy with one women or he would not be saying three some, and cheating. He will not change. Get out while you can.....
2007-01-04 07:41:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GET OUT. He will never e faithfulit doesn't sound like and he wants to bring someone else in the bedroom. OUCH. doesn't that hurt your pride just a little. I had a husband like this and we split and I tell you what we are great parents and best friends but we are not a good married couple. There are a million men out there that will not treat you this way. If you are doing it by your self any way why not just tell him to go have his flings and find a girl that will do all that stuff for him. Then try the personal adds if you really need to date. I would love that baby as much as you can right now that should be your focus. Dump that dirty dog.
2007-01-04 07:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by emtjen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a BAD marriage.He cheated on you,he doesn't help you with the baby,house,dog,whatnot,and he wants a threesome.He doesn't have any respect for you,it's so sad because you are his wife and also the mother of his baby.I really don't think that he has any respect for women in general with the fact that he wants a threesome.You're not getting the attention you need and I doubt that you'll ever get it.Would you like to see yourself in the same situation 10 years from now?For you and your baby's sake get out of the marriage now.Get some therapy and gain your self-esteem back.Don't worry about his smoking he's the one that has to fork out a dollar more to get cancer.Take care & good luck.
2007-01-04 07:53:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm unsure this somewhat works as an the two/or. the two are issues which would be better on. Are we assuming that it is one or the different without wish of coming up the marriage or the intercourse greater advantageous? How undesirable is a undesirable marriage? Like cheating, an entire loss of believe, and nil understand for the different? Or are we purely talking a loss of shared hobbies and conventional apathy exterior the mattress room?
2016-12-12 03:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, listen, people treat you the way you let them treat you...read that again until is soaks in. You are letting him treat you like dirt. You need to leave him! Its so obvious that he is not ready to be a family man. I think you and your baby will be much better off by yourselves. Stand up for yourself. He doesn't love you. Why would you want to love someone that doesn't love you back?
You need to get yourself a back bone. Make a decision and STICK TO IT. Don't let him talk you out of moving on, our moving out. YOU know what's best for you, and you are not going to let some dude with a di ck think he can boss you around and treat you like this. Just b/c you are married and have a baby doesn't make him a dad. You are being USED!!!!!
2007-01-04 07:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a jerk that will never change. he treating you like that now imagine later on it only gets worst sweetie. Don't let any man force you into something you not into either. he thinks becasue you had his baby he owns you. Well news is he doesnt you been taking care of baby from day one by yourself and you are all the parent you child really needs. Leave his *** now before worst happens. He doesn't sound like the type you could sit down with to have a heart to heart talk with anyhow. Think of your daughter would you want her to be treated that way or to see or hear and think later on that its accpetable behaviour from a man. Break the cycle honey.
2007-01-04 07:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately the words till death do us part are legally boned in between you two... but guess what? Ur in love, he may not be... it hurts to hear when you get advice and people tell you to leave, but there's other things you can do before you just quit on him which seems like your not wanting to do, threaten him, tell him you can't take it anymore, tell him that you'd like him to change, and it can't be nothing drastic, cause you love him so you accepted him, but the emotional part, and the helping around the house, he can do that... so if you have to leave even if its for a week, you have to test him, if hes OK with you gone then you need to open your eyes and come to reality that its not worth it, hes not the one for you, do it for yourself and your little girl, you have to set an example for her... its going to hurt. but love is not enough to hold the marriage, and to be taken for a fool. Be strong and make the right choice!!!!!! Good Luck.
2007-01-04 07:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by prettygirlme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like marring him was a mistake. but dont jump up and go divorce him, talk to him. maybe something bothering him. hes married to you, and on some level he loves you, so you shouldnt be scared to talk to him. tell him what you just told all of us. ask him why, tell him to you, it feels like youre being used. and if he doesnt change then youll concider leaving him. but make sure you let him know that you love him. but this can be a very hard choice for you, even if you do talk to him and he doesnt change. ive talked to people who have been in an abusive, physically abusive, marrage. i asked them why they stuck around so long. i got around the same answer every time, yeah, youre scared to even talk to them, but youre even more scared to live without them. and i can understand that. so before you go and leave him, talk to him. if you really love him, do every thing you can to save your marrage. it will be worth it. and if you do try, and it just doenst work out, then atleast you can say you tried, and you didnt just throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble. good luck.
2007-01-04 08:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by So in love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing, sit down, talk things over and see if he is willing to make compromises and to also respect you.
There is no respect in saying things like "Be part of a threesome or I don't stop smoking".
But personally, cheating would be a no-go for me, and he'd be told to leave asap.
Love is only a part of what is needed to make a relationship. Communication, trust, respect is also needed.
2007-01-04 07:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋