My boyfriend's sister is one of my best friends. We were friends after him and I started dating. A few days ago his sister told me that she is "seeing" one of his really good friends but the friend hasnt said anything to him. My bf is really protective over his sister and is one of those people who hates it when he is out of the loop. He would get more mad knowing that I knew the entire time than knowing from the beginning. I decided last night to tell him although he couldnt say anything which would be really hard. He was really upset and now I feel horrible for telling but yet he was my bf before she was a friend. It put me in a really bad predicament. Any thoughts??
2007-01-04 07:19:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
u did ur part...they should handle it from here...i was in the same spot w/ a friend of mine too...someone is gonna come out unhappy when this ones over.
2007-01-04 07:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by wizzpack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when we speak we have in mind that we are doing something good for someone else when all the time we just don't want to lose what we already have. You told your b/f because you didn't want him to be mad at you for knowing about his sister and one of his friends. Maybe his sister wanted it kept secret for a reason and maybe in her own time and way she would have told her brother about his friend that she was dating. You were wrong for saying anything and then you are cold about it by saying he was your b/f before she was your friend. Some say: with friends like you she doesn't really need any enemies. You should tell her what you did and ask her forgivness because you were wrong. You were looking out for self and not your friend. You have to remember: YOU ARE JUST THE GIRLFRIEND AND THEY COME AND GO BUT SHE IS HIS SISTER AND SHE'S NOT GOING ANYWHERE.
2007-01-04 07:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about this. Sister and Brother's relationship was established way before you came into the picture. They both have established what each other would feel, if one, or the other, would date a "Friend" Now, here you come. I would not have said anything, however, you did, but do not knock yourself out for being human. Try this next time. I would have told my new "Best Buddy" to inform her brother that she's dating his best friend. Let them know that you are sorry, but you are not coming between the two.
2007-01-04 07:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All in all you did the right thing. Besides you did not mention that she wanted it kept a secret from him, she just never told him because she knew how he would react. You did an important thing for your relationship with your boyfriend. You showed him that you can be faithful and honest with him. He probably now knows that you would not hide anything from him. Your boyfriends sister will also in the long run appreciate what you did. It saved her the agony of looking in his face and saying it or letting him end of seeing it off guard or hearing it from someone else. He now has the chance to absorb it and then approach them about it when he is ready.
2007-01-04 07:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by chocolate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silence is the abuser's best friend. This guy is a potential rapist. Tell him to stop and make sure he knows you're serious. If he doesn't, tell everybody: Tell your boyfriend, tell his parents, tell the cops. Carrying a can of mace around this guy and not hesitating to use it would also be a good idea. He's most likely doing this to you because he feels you don't have what it takes to hit back. Prove him wrong. Showing mercy to the pathologically selfish serves nobody's purposes. He's not enamoured with you; This is about power and control.
2016-03-29 07:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless your boyfriend's sister was telling you her secret in order for you to break the news to her brother, it was not your place to get involved. You should have told your friend that both her and her new "boyfriend" should sit down with her brother and explain things. You should have offered to be there for moral support, but not have been the one to spill the beans. Now, most likely, your friend and your boyfriend are both angry with you. So, your involvement only got you hurt.
2007-01-04 07:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't tell u not to tell him then u did the right thing. He should know as that is a very touchy situation. He'll be fine, just give him time. That way when they tell him he can act like he figured it out himself.
2007-01-04 07:22:48 · answer #7 · answered by bdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing. He'll have to accept that his sister has a bf too.
2007-01-04 07:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by whosit? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you did the right thing. Don't feel bad about it. This whole issue will all be over soon.
2007-01-04 07:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should've let him find out on his own and then you would've been minding your own business. (Not being rude) Now he's mad at all three of you, right? It'll blow over.
2007-01-04 07:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by saturn man 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋