...everything was fine, untill i found out about his ex-gf. They met, and six months later we're living together, a year into the relationship he asked her to marry him. through out their relationship she cheated on him 7 times. He always took her back. Finally after 2 years of being together they separated and 4 months later me and him met. We've been on and off for almost 2 yrs now. We don't fight, we don't argue that much, the relationship could be perfect only if he would try a little harder. When we break up it's b/c he thinks that if he commits to me, then i'll hurt him like she did. At least thats his EXCUSE. Well the past 3 months have been good, no breaks he says he wants to spend the rest of his life w/ me and we talked about living together and marriage. He broke up with me four days later, the excuse this time was that he doesn't want to commit EVER, TO ANYONE!? I don't think that he means that, i think he's running from it. Do I wait untill his ready and not push him?
2007-01-04 07:16:33 · 6 answers · asked by victoria 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think that you are wasting too much time on a puzzle with pieces scattered everywhere and pieces that are missing. What I mean when I say this is you are putting too much into this relationship and not getting appreciated enough, you are obviously commited to him, and all he keeps thinking is that you are going to hurt him, the problem can be swept into different areas as to why he may be acting this way, one is he may have freedom that he missed while he was living with her, and just wants to "test the waters" this time before getting tied down, and he seems to be trying to keep you around by telling you that "Yeah someday we will do this and that." he's going nowhere fast, and so are you if you stay with him, He obviously has major trust issues too, if he can't trust you then why do you trust him? Maybe its a guilty card because he's off doing something, and that could be another reason he's not so fast to move in with you, he could have secrets of his own , don't waste your time on him, he even told you himself he's NEVER going to commit, he's going to play with you as long as you let him, he may have been the victim in his past relationship but now he's not, you are, get out while you still can and find someone who is commited to you without any questions, good luck
2007-01-04 07:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by Summer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he has been burned in the past badly. He also apparently cannot let go of that and move on. He's stringin you along because HE CAN'T commit and never will. He sounds like he doesn't know what the hell he wants out of life or marriage. He's definitely not ready for marriage. You should be running for the door at this point. Every time he says he will "never commit to anyone" he's slappin you in the face! Give him his walking papers babe.....as Greg Berengnt says..."hes just not that into you".
2007-01-04 07:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by msjinx39 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's been burned. You want commitment and he's not ready for it...possibly not ever.
You would be better off without him. If he comes back to you for good, great. If not, you should move on.
2007-01-04 07:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not ready to commit! You would be better off with someone who deserves you, someone who is prepared to commit to a long term relationship and marriage.
2007-01-04 07:29:08 · answer #4 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be more concerned about STDs, if she cheated on him 7 times.
2007-01-04 07:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple - You're not "the one." If you were, he'd commit.
2007-01-04 07:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋