all my perants do is argue?

Question

all my perants do is argue all the time. they never stop and they be fighting. my dad is a drunk,my mom isnt. and im tired of hereing all of it.my dad be telling me he wish ill die tomorrow,one time he beat me up.i dont know what to do no more. im only 15. im stressed out from hereing my mom and dad fight and argue. all the time and then when they get through its all my fault and i dont even how to have been at home when they started arguing. i dont know what to do.my mom and dad will start arguring and its afecting me a whole lot and i try to tell them but they wont listin. i even been tryna get pregnant so i can show my child the love and attention that i dont get.and now it has just got to the point where i just wont to just go away and never come back. i dont know what to do. any advce on how i make my life better??????

my school councelars on deal with school stuff. not at home stuff. and i try callig the police but the police told me that i love to se that type of stuff. my dad works for the police dpt.

all of my realtives have 5 or 6 kids already they cant affored another one. and they family members that dont they wont let me come stay with them because of my mom has convenced them that im crazy,and im not. its just my mom is stressed,and taking it out on me

Answer 1

Whew... ok...
School counsellors are there for at school stuff AND at home stuff. That's their job description. And it is actually illegal to listen to this sort of story and NOT alert the appropriate people and help you find help. So whoever your school counsellor is, they are not doing their job.
Second: if the police officer told you that- he should be fired. Again, it IS their job to protect everyone. You are important and worthwhile and they should have gotten their asses in gear a LONG time ago on this one- like as soon as you said anything about violence. So they are not doing their job either.

Please please please please don't get pregnant. You are so young- you have your whole life ahead of you. Do you have dreams and ambitions and things you want to do once you get out of your current situation? Maybe you want to go to school. Maybe you want to travel. Having a baby at this point will put any goals on hold for the next 18-20 years. Plus, if your dad beat you up, what makes you think he won't hurt your child if you don't get out of this situation? All around, not a good idea.

My suggestion is to phone the police again. Record the conversation. If they tell you they can't help you, go to their superior with the tape. Not only will that help you get help, but it will make sure the next person that phones in for help will not get the same dumbass cop as you did.

My other suggestion is to talk to your school counsellor again. Again, if they offer no help, go to the principal. They have all sorts of resources for this.

You will get through this. Take a deep breath. I'm not saying it will be easy, but be strong and take it one day at a time.
If it gets tough, find a friend to stay with. If no one else helps, perhaps your friend/friend's parents can! Build a support network for yourself of friends and parents of friends.

Be strong- you'll get through this. I hope this helps.

Answer 2

The last thing you need is a baby at 15. You aren't old enough to take care of it properly (I'm not talking about loving it, I'm talking about MONEY) which means both you and the baby would be stuck with your parents. Now wouldn't that be fun? Not! Is there an adult in your family (Aunt, Uncle, Grandparent) you can talk to? Maybe you could go live with one of them. Maybe talk to a counselor at your school? If your Dad has hit you or threatened violence you can get the child welfare people on his case but foster care isn't usually much better than what you have now. If you can hold out till you're 16 you can get a job which will keep you out if the house more. Save as much of your pay as you can and make tracks once you turn 17.

Answer 3

If what you describe is exactly what your father has said then he is not only a drunkard but he's been physically, verbally, and emotionally abusive to you.

Your mother isn't much better for putting up with his behavior and subjecting you to the arguing and to believing its your fault.

Talk to a school counselor first. He or she will tell you who to talk with next.

You're right. You need to have a different environment in order to be able to finish growing up and being able to keep from being too damaged from what you've lived with.

You will not be a fit parent to any baby you ever have unless and until you get a better life going for yourself and then are allowed to mature into your 20's (at least) in peace.

Never mind thinking about giving a baby the love you haven't gotten. Imagine yourself as a little girl of, say, three; and ask if this is what you want for THAT little girl. YOU do for YOU what your parents have not done for you, and that is talk to someone who is outside of your home (a professional like a guidance counselor or even a teacher) to get something changed for you.

Answer 4

One things for sure, getting pregnant at the age of 15 just because your parents are screwed up isn't going to make your life any better!! Since your parents aren't listening to how it's affecting you than you need to tell someone that can help you like a school counselor or a family member. It may be better for you to be removed from the home until your mom gets her head on strait because your father is an alcoholic and most of the time, they never change. It's not your fault your parents fight a lot of it prolly has to do with your dads drinking problem. This situation is not healthy, tell someone especially how your father hits you, he needs help.

Answer 5

Adding a baby is not the way to solve the problem. Think about it. You don't want to be in the situation. Why bring your own child into the same situation. You are still very young and can overcome the tragedies placed on you by your parents. Are there any relatives you might be able to live with? If not go to your school counselor and they will be able to give you more options as to what path to take. Don't give up on yourself or your parents. There is still hope for your family. Godspeed.

Answer 6

First, having a child will NOT help.
Second, get as much education as you can as it is what will give you power over your life. Education is the ONLY THING that will set you free. It will be the only thing you can call your own and keep to yourself.
Third, talk to your school councilors and get their help for financial aid to go to college. They can get you on grants, scholarships and loans.
They can also help you deal with the stress and give you some ideas to help the situations.
No babies, forget romantic involvements. These will only stress you out more.
Go learn. Get the education. Then you will have the power to make the choices that will enhance your life.

Answer 7

The best thing for you to do is find a close family member you trust and talk to them. Tell them everything that is going on, and tell them all about your feelings. Maybe they can make arrangements for you to live with them if they can. Talk to your school counselor that you trust and they will give you some insight on places to turn for help.

Don't get pregnant at this age, it will just complicate things further for you.

Answer 8

u should try to ignore them because if u don't u can be more affected. u should also do more school activites to get away from your parents when they are arguing. maybe some sports. that's all i can tell good luck and hope u can find a better way of life.

Answer 9

Schedule an appt with your school counselor. S/he maybe able to help you with the situation or even find someone that will.

Answer 10

Hope they get divorced.

- Bride