I have a best friend that i have known since freshmen year in highschool.I am know in my first year of college and so is he.We both attend the same college and hang out a lot.Recently though i have been developing feelings for him beyond friendship and i sense he may be having some new feelings about me too.Problem is he is engaged to his gf of almost a year and its a long distance relationship she goes to college in virginia and he rarley see's her.I feel guilty when i go out with him to the movies or out to eat with him to hang out.I feel even worse when i sleep over at his place sometimes in the same bed .Well last night something happened after we went out clubbing.One second he was kissing me and the next he was inside me literally and thats the last i remeber.I feel horible and confused!?
2007-01-04 06:56:57 · 13 answers · asked by Flora S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His gf called me and asked me if i want to be one of her brides mates at the wedding this morning and i feel sick?I dont remeber what happened and am afraid to ask?should i just forget that it happened?
2007-01-04 07:00:30 · update #1
Tell him how you feel, it is important. Sometimes those drunken nights will show truth in actions others aren't so lucky. If he is into you he will dump the other and then you guys can hang out or go out or hook up. If he is not, it's not the end of the world. Set your sights for something new and something better. Good luck!
2007-01-04 07:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by reptmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest you should feel horrible what if you had a boyfriend better yet fiance and some other chic was dating him cause that's what your doing, seeing is that he's not man enough to handle the situation correctly meaning either break it off with his girl or step back from yall friendship for a minute. Even if he is breaking it off with her to be with you he should take a step back. And you as a woman...you wanted it to happen deep down you were expecting him to realize that he loves you or likes you or whatever. Then he'll choose you. You knew what you where doing. You need to sit him down and tell him that this needs to slow down and can't happen again unless he breaks it off with his girl. Because woman to woman your shady(no offense) and the same way you get him....(him cheating on her cause he's so called falling for you or whatever yall want to call it) is the exact same way your gonna loose him. To another woman. that's not how you go about getting into a relationship. Do the right thing hey maybe you two are meant to be, but your going about it the sneaky sleazy way. Be a woman about yours make him be honest with her if he wants to spend time with you. And until you know he has you shouldn't hang out with him like that anymore, because your relationship has turned romantic you know ... do the right thing good luck.
2007-01-04 15:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by sky g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you literally don't remember what happened beyond a certain point, it's possible your drink was laced. This points to either a random act of drugging or else your 'best friend' may not be such a great friend.
Even if you had coherently and willingly slept with him, he's not such a great friend. Good people make good friends and good people don't screw around on their girlfriends.
2007-01-04 15:21:49 · answer #3 · answered by CR329 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to each other about these feelings.....engaged men don't sleep in the same bed with other women, even if they are best friends.
You had better find out what's going on before you do more damage.
2007-01-04 15:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to talk. Honestly.
Does he have more in common with you or her.
Are there things that each of you do that the other can not stand and would have to change. (No changes, find another person)
Are you sure you want to be the center of his life?
Take up ALL his time.
Make sure his eyes are ONLY on you (and you make sure you keep yourself so he can't turn away).
2007-01-04 15:02:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to discuss your feelings, and you need to stop being too close while he is engaged. He needs to break it off with his fiancee as there is no excuse for infidelity. If you both are that close than maybe your relationship would work in a romantic one. It's worth exploring as long as he is NOT in another one. You both deserve better than that and think of his fiancee...she deserves better too.
2007-01-04 15:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by bdgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men will stray right before their wedding. friendships like yours often develope into sexual relations. Just stop now and continue your friendship and never cross the line again.
2007-01-04 15:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fight the feeling. let nature take it's place. Why deny a good thing. Friendship is meant to blossom and I think that is what might be happening.
2007-01-04 15:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like the part where you don't remember, could something have been put in your drink?,I would end this relationship if I were you, sleeping in the same bed, what are you thinking?.
2007-01-04 15:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by audreylea1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and find out whats going on. Even though long distance relationships are hard, he still should have had enough control not to do what he did. he just cheated on his fiance...whats going to stop him from doing that to you one day?
2007-01-04 15:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by . . * h o n e y * . . 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋