My friend, and I need help now !!!?

Question

I have a serious dilemna here. I have a friend, this beautiful
woman, from another country. I won't say where, they might
censor me". But anyway, she is very beautiful. And we are
now good friends. We may start dating soon, and perhaps
something more. But not marriage. She talked to me about
her past struggles, over there, and her current life in America.
Later into the discussion, she asked me to do something for her.
She looked at me with those dreamy eyes, and asked, "Will
you marry me? " I was flattered, and shocked all at the same time.
She told me to think about it. And she would pay me $2000, to
elope for a year. Then get a divorce. Yeah OK. Well I won't do
that. But how can I help her ? She wants get a green card, to
become an American, and move here for good, to the States.
What can I do to help without, selling my soul ?

She is from Bulgaria. And a very lovely,
and charming lady indeed. But I will not
marry her. No. Can she get a green card
to remain here, in the US, without
marrying anybody? Is it possible ?

Listen !!!! I am not gonna marry the
gal. But I want to know how can I
help her become a US citizen,
without marrying her ?

Answer 1

Why can't she get a green card the same way everyone else does? Don't marry her just to keep her here, their has to be a reason why she wants to do it illegally and not legit.

Answer 2

Wow...what a dilemma you really do have on your hands. Even just trying to help this poor ladie out shows that you really care for her. But at the end of the day for you to help her move to America cannot be your responsibility she is asking far too much of you. I know she has had problems in the past but we all do,and we have to carry on with life is all's we can ever do to overcome them. I really don't think that you can help her to move to America not unless you really want to marry her but as you say you don't and that should be enough of an answer for her. She should respect your decision. If she is saying you can get a divorced then think about it long and hard is she using you just for a green card? It sounds like that way to me i know i don't her or the full story but do you really know everything about her? And whats to say she hasn't asked any other man to do the same thing for her. If you do start dating then i'd just take things from their you never know things made evolve into a lot more than you both think. But just be very careful and weary of your emotions towards the whole situation. You need to have a long personal talk with her. Tell her how you feel about her but also tell her that there is no possible chance that you can do what she is asking for and if she doesn't speak to you then you know that a green card is all's she was after. You need to step back and gain her trust all over again. Am sorry i cannot be of much help but just be careful. Good Luck and take care x

Also if you do go ahead with this you can get yourself into so much trouble and i don't think anyone else's life is worth your own for a prison sentence. Cause that's what you will get in return. Also think about how your family will feel as this will effect everyone around you also. You seem like a really nice caring man and your life may be gone due to the outcome if this situation goes ahead.

Answer 3

well you better not. One, if you get on internet later, to REALLY try to marry a girl for love you will have a problem. Because you have already divorced a woman with a green card you will have to wait so many years. You can check on this but I think it is 5 years.. Now if she says you will get the money after you are married, run. Once she is here, she has 90 days to marry. She gets married to you in one week, then claims spousal abuse, and she gets "automatic citizenship." And she keeps the money. Now are you going to admit that she was to pay you money to get married and go to jail. hahaha Though you will have to prove it. She will simply say, he is mad at me, and is lying. Google the word "scammers" and read all the sites of women trying to con men. Besides, do that, just remain friends. Now if she can come up with $10000, then call me and I will do it. lol Also with the new Yahoo Messenger on top, there is a part where you can save your IM chats.

Answer 4

I too have had a proposal for an arranged marriage. The man offered me 10,000 to marry him for 2 years until he got his citizenship. Im sorry buddy, but I dont think so. Depending on the country shes from she shouldnt have too hard of a time getting either a work visa or school visa. Do not feel guilty because if she was a true friend / future lover she would have never put you in that predicament in the first place. She has options, she just wants the easy way out. I know exactly how you feel though. You want to help but in reality it is her problem not yours. I was completely appalled that this man would expect me to break the law, dishonor my values, and tie up my life for 2 years for his own personal benefit. Its completely selfish of her. Support her in her efforts but again, it is her problem to solve. If she really wants to break the law she can come over here on a tourist visa and just not leave. If being in America was that important to her she would do that and leave you out of it. Dreamy eyes can only get you so far. Dont let her ruin your life.

Answer 5

What she is asking you to do is wrong and you know that? Help her find a way to stay without selling yourself to. Life is too short to do what she is asking and a lot can happen in a year. It also sounds like she may be using the fact that you may have some feeling for her to her advantage. You may want to keep that in mind. People will do anything to become citizens here in the US sometimes so watch out. For you sake.

I wish you and her all the luck in the world and hope that you keep in mind what I said.

Answer 6

OK you made a good decision about not marrying her marriage is not a one way ticket to get a green card marriage is love and compassion her best bet would be to come here and do the things needed to become a legal American citizen

Answer 7

this sounds like an FBI sting set-up. Are you looking for takers on her offer, I pressume?

First things first, agent... what was it again? Anyways get yourself an education. The going rate is $10,000, not $2,000. After you get an education maybe you can look into getting a real job... Or is working for a living out of your realm of possibilities?

OK, now a quick review of your last five questions shows that all five of them are this exact same question. You really need to learn how to set this up better, officer. Poor entrapment skills are only gonna get you the really, really stupid criminals. Maybe if you're not willing to work for a living you would consider seeking out rapists and murderers instead of wasting your time on non-violent crimes. You are a disgrace to this country. I think you should go back home with this "Bulgarian friend" and live happily ever after in their country.

Answer 8

There is no way to do that. You have to also believe that people are willing to do all kinds of demoralizing things in order to be a United States citizen.

Do you believe (honestly) that you are the only person that she has asked? And even if you are, what will you do when she wants out of this relationship. You can also be charged with a crime by the INS if any of this information leaks.

Its not worth it.

Answer 9

I would date for a while, and make sure that the relationship is serious for both of you. Money is just money, but selling your heart away for pieces of green paper are NOT worth it...legally OR emotionally. You sound like you really want to be in a relationship with her. I would make sure that it is a genuine one - end of story. That way everyone will be happy, you won't be alone and used in the end, and she'll be satisfied on all levels.
Take care, and good luck! :)

Answer 10

I have done this my self. Your not selling your soul. The marriage she is asking for is not a real marriage its just a peace of paper. The only problem is, your intentions are different than hers. That may cause problems and hart ache. Keep in mind she looks at you as a friend and she is asking for your help as a friend not a girl that is in love.