There was a issue at my son's school where the teacher stood in front of the class, and made a announcement that basiclly drew attention to my son and his friend. She wants students to come to her if they have a complanit, exspeacilly if my son was involed. And if so she will make sure that he will be removed from school. I am not saying my son is a angel but for a teacher to singal him out like that is wrong, and all the school wants me to do is put my complaint in writing and they will look it over...I would like to add that my son is white and his teacher is black... I point this out because I feel if it was the other way around this would be handle in a different and more quickly matter.
2007-01-04 06:39:29 · 14 answers · asked by tracy s 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Teaching
Racism comes from all races. If she said something racist you should contact a lawyer. If you think she is UNFAIRLY singling your son and his friend out, without racist comments.....a lawyer probably won't touch it.
Hurting someones feelings is not against the law..what law did she break? Those are things a lawyer will consider.
My sons 6th grade science teacher singled him out. He has ADD, went through a traumatic summer when I divorced his dad, was on depression medication, and he drifted off a lot in school.....the teacher told him he was "useless, and just taking up space" in her class!
I was outraged, as are you, and demanded a meeting with alll the teachers. I went twice, the science teacher never showed. Never a call nor an apology.
So I pulled my son out and home schooled him the rest of the year and the following year.
That's not always an option, but maybe you could at least request that he change teachers or schools.
Hope that helps you some....glad you care, kids are worth it!
2007-01-04 06:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like many before me have said, there is a chain of command to follow. You must first begin with your son. Get a detailed account of what happened. Ask questions as he relates the story. Then make an appointment to meet with the teacher and your son to discuss the issue. Having your son there is very important. He may have left out some key information that will change your thoughts when you all meet together. If you are not satisfied with the outcome of this meeting then schedule one with the principal. Filing suit should really be the very last resort, not the first one. Everyone makes mistakes. Sometimes all that is appropriate is an apology. Teachers have a saying that is VERY true. If you believe 50% of what your child says about me (the teacher) then I will believe 50% of what he says about you (the parent). Don't play the race card. No one wins.
2007-01-04 14:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Valerie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write your complaint for the school and send a copy to the school board. I would also ask for a conference with the Principal and teacher to discuss in detail what the facts were. If you do have this conference make sure you approach it with an open mind do not go in ready to pounce on every thing the teacher says give her the opportunity to tell you her side. If you were not present for this "class announcement" than you need to get all the facts in order first. I work with children and I have had many instances where a situation happens with me and the child and when they get home the story changes completely. After the parent and I sit and talk about what happened they realize that the child was at fault and did not give them all the details or changed the details to make themselves to be the victims.
2007-01-04 07:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by catoa3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice ........ let it be.
Perhaps the teacher was wrong but your son is going to face a lot bigger challenges when he gets out in the real world. If you allow him to deal with this on his own, it might even have a positive effect on his future behaviour in class. I doubt that it's a race issue so at best you might have grounds for a libel action.....I say might.
Seriously, I think that putting your son through an intense legal action may adversely affect him more than the little drama that unfolded at school. Then there's the cost factor of taking legal action too.
No kid is an angel ...at least none that I know but having mom and dad fight his little battles for him may not be the best course of action.
Just a point of view from an old guy who was no angel either back in the day when teachers could just give you a whack if you acted up.
2007-01-04 07:20:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a teacher I would advise you to go to the teacher first and request a meeting, have an administrator present if you feel the issue is important enough...right now you are only hearing one side of the story, your son's...maybe it was a situation that has been ongoing for some time and other students have been affected, perhaps a situation was created where someone was unsafe or felt unsafe...it isn't unfair to single someone out for something they did wrong...without knowing what the issue is it is hard for people to advise you what to do...you seem to understand that he does act deviantly at times so it would be best to get to the bottom of the cause, not linger on the after-effects...if your son does not like to be singled out then you should probably counsel him to stop doing things that draw other's attention to him...but please avoid the race card at all costs, because most likely you are wrong and secondly it is scapegoating...the school nor the board will take you seriously...
2007-01-04 07:04:39 · answer #5 · answered by techteach03 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should look more closely at your son and what he possibly did instead of blaming others. The only thing you are doing is empowering your son and showing him that if he gets in trouble mommy and daddy will get lawyers to protect him. That's not setting a very good example. I am not saying that the teacher is perfect, no teacher is, but as a teacher I am tired of dealing with parents who threaten to sue me and empower their students that they can get the teacher in trouble. It doesn't sound like what the teacher did was all that bad. If your child learns anything from this experience, I would rather it be how to behave like a mature citizen by following the rules instead of blaming others and threatening to sue.
2007-01-04 09:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not teach your son to behave? You say that you know he's no angel. Why not work with the school to get him to behave better?
Don't you think that the teacher was probably fully alive to the possibility that if she singles a child out as a disciplinary problem, the parents will respond like you are responding? Doesn't that tell you that the situation with your son must be pretty bad for the teacher to take such steps?
2007-01-04 06:49:53 · answer #7 · answered by Karin C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please follow the "chain of command" and if you get no satisfaction then pursue legal measures. Talk to the teacher, principal, superintendent, school board, then go thru the court system. Most teachers belong to a teacher organization and will have an attorney to represent them. Be sure you have your facts substantiated and witnesses available.
If the teacher never mentioned your son's name specifically I am afraid you do not have much of a case.
2007-01-04 07:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by dkrgrand 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i kid acts up teacher draw attention to them. That is how it works tell you kid to behave. Then the teacher won't have to deal with his misbehavior and will leave him alone.
OK so the teacher is black get over it you racist. Being black does not make it wrong for a teacher to deal with a white trouble maker.
I mean the picture you picked for your profile says it all. Do people always screw you and you kid over. Maybe it's not everyone else it is you and your kid.
2007-01-04 06:58:32 · answer #9 · answered by thatoneguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to Board of education. Good luck with that. The teacher shouldnt of single your son out since im pretty sure half the class isnt innocent.
2007-01-04 06:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋