Any one in relationship that been 5 years more?

Question

Asking to find out how they last?

Answer 1

I've been married for 17 years. We have had our ups and downs. There are times when he drives me NUTS...and I know I make him crazy sometimes. We rarely get mad at the same time and we never fight over money (probably because we don't have any!! lol). We don't let our children come between us, and we never interfere when one of us is disciplining one of the kids...we also never override a decision made regarding the kids. (So if Dad says no...I say No.) You have to be honest, you have to make compromises, you have to learn that dirty socks on the steps doesn't mean that much in the long run and not worth having a fit about. It doesn't matter if you have lots of money or tons of stuff. It's about being there when your sick, holding hands in the car on the way home from your kids band show, open house, or softball game. It's about wanting the other person to be happy in what they do and who they are. And there is so much more....but yes, marriage's do last for a long long time. If you are committed.

Answer 2

I was inone for 9 years... we met at 23, and we had a great time together.... Unfortunately we didn't grow together. Neither one of us were to blaim - we just weren't mature enough to grow up together. After 31 we split - very easily - We were about to get married and it was time to go...
Although I am in a very happy relationship now... it was possible through my past relationship and one thing I do know is that you have to
1. Learn how to fight positively (Don't let them last over a day)
2. Pick your fights
3. Remember to do nice things for each other (If he isn't - keep doing them..... do not change the way you want to be treated because he isn't) If you aren't - start - nice things include
a. Asking him if he needs anything when you get up.
b. If he seems cold - get him a blanket (take this chance to cuddle up)
c. BJ in the middle of the night (rare)
d. etc

Its about being very pleasant to each other... as if you met someone for the first time.

My nine year relationship - could have worked if I or He would have worked at it... we decided it wsan't important enough to us... BUT you still can and look up those girly mags and do cute things they say to do.. they are corny - but you have each other...
Good Luck!
Oh and remember its oK to fight - it means you care - just learn how to - and yes there are many down times and you just have to grit and bear through it - if this is the relationship you see yourself in 20 years from now - work at it.
Someimes loving someone - doesn't feel like your "in-love" - It comes in waves.
Good Luck

Answer 3

17 years. We were close to divorce and found that marriage counseling didn't help at ALL. All counselors are good for is asking "How do you FEEL about that?" and suggesting trial separations. What we did find that worked was finding a strong church family and counseling from our pastor. I don't mean to sound preachy, but this is what worked for us.

Marriage is hard. You pretty much have to get to the point that you say the only reason for divorce is adultery, or abuse. Anything else, get over it. And there are still some days I want to strangle hubby, but it's much better.

Answer 4

I was in a relationship for 7 years when we got married. Been married for 4 years. We are now separated. So you see, a long term relationship does not guarantee it will last. I once heard about a couple that had been together for 20 years when they got married. They were divorced a year later.

Answer 5

I've been married for 9+ years. Have 3 children and it is still great! How does it stay great? Honesty. Value your partner! Do thing as a family, but make sure to make time for just the 2 of you. My wife and I have a standing date night every Wednesday. It may be nothing more than going out to the local lake at night, staring at the stars, talking and making out, but it time for just the two of us! Do things that keep the relationship interesting! I send her flowers from time to time for no other reason than I AM THINKING ABOUT YOU!!! This means more to her than flowers for birthdays or anniversaries! Love notes in her medicine cabinet or jewelry box for her to find! Anything that keeps the interest in the relationship that lets your partner know you are thinking about and value them. Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Been in a marriage for 19 years now, and am now 40 with two teenagers, one 18, the other 19. The love we once had is gone, so I am leaving this marriage for good this summer. Mine is ending for two reasons. My spouse is an alcoholic/workaholic, and he doesn't show any respect for me at all. This happens because of past behaviors that make him think its "ok" to walk all over you. We were high school sweethearts...now we are roommates. Alot of people go on married forever and look past things, however, when it begins to affect your being, you need to move on. To me, the way a marriage is ever to survive, COMMUNICATION all the time, respect, and having a common ground. You can't have a lasting relationship without all of those. Good luck!

Answer 7

5 Hours

Answer 8

YES! i been in a relationship now 14 year and been married 9 of those 14. Talking and wiling to change when the time come.

Answer 9

I was married for fourteen years and it ended. You never know where life will lead. Any relationship is a lot of work on the part of both people. You have to fight the good fight for each other. That means telling other people to mind their business and make sure you are both committed and ready to be loyal and loving

Answer 10

married 24 years...and going strong. We invest a lot of time into each other. We take a couple trips a year (just weekend getaways) & that really renews EVERYTHING!! It's great therapy. And cheaper & much more fun than those so-called counselors who charge $150 per hour.

For our 25th anniversary we are going back to Aruba.