i just had a huge breakup with my boyfriend.im spending the night at his house tonight to try and patch up a few things.my parents have not yet aproved of this so i got a friend of mine to help me out by asking my parents if i can spend the night at her house.but im really not going to.if they say yes.cha ching!but my dad always checks up on me with a phone call.what can my friend say to cover up for me?i know this is lame but i really like this guy and wanna make this work.so any ideas?
2007-01-04 06:21:12 · 25 answers · asked by the best thing he never saw... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell her that if he calls tell her to tell him your asleep
2007-01-04 06:58:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need to spend the night with your boyfriend to patch things up. You can simply meet, talk during lunch or after school, meet after school, or talk on the phone. There is no need to spend the night with him and break your parents trust.
If your parents find out you lied to them because of this boy, they will not trust you and they will not trust him. Then they will get a bad idea about this guy and not want you seeing him (if and when they find out). It will only be harder for you to be with this boy if your parents disapprove.
Once you've lost your parents trust, especially over something like this, they will take a VERY long time to take you seriously and they will take a VERY long time to ever see you (and treat you) as an adult.
I realize that you are very young and desperate for this relationship to work out but you are also too young to realize that communication is the way to make a relationship work and a relationship can not be patched up and fixed over night - these things take time.
I know this is not what you want to hear and you were hoping for some good excuses but I promise you that the best thing you can do is not spend the night and not lie to your parents about this. I know from experience that lying will only make it worse. I also think you have the wrong idea thinking that spending the night with him will make your relationship better overnight. I cannot stress enough that there are plenty more oppurtunities and time(s) to work on your relationship. If it's worth it and this boy is mature enough - he will understand that this is a risk you shouldn't take.
2007-01-04 06:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Don't Feed the Trolls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I tried the same thing when I was a teenager and my mom found out and I was grounded for a long, long time. I wouldn't lie to them, they are trusting you and you are going to blow it. You don't need to stay at his house to patch things up, sounds like an excuse to me. You could always meet for lunch or after school, something that doesn't mean you staying at his house.
If your father finds out (and he sounds like he will) he will forever hate your boyfriend and really be on your case because he will know that he can't trust you. He won't let you stay at your friends house and won't like your friend much for lying and won't trust her either. You forget you parents were young once and they ain't stupid. Be smart and don't chance it. If your boyfriend and you truly are meant to be with each other you will find a way to make it work that doesn't include sleeping together which we both know is what your intent is.
Good luck and I hope you do the right thing which I think you already know it is otherwise you wouldn't ask.
2007-01-04 06:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is the friend (not to be nosey but it will dicate the answer) Ideally, your friend could tell her parents that she is going to pick you up and the two of you are going to the movies. Make the movie around 9pm so that she is not expected home until midnight or so. No way would your dad call anyone's house at that hour. If he does call, tell the friend to tell your dad that SHE is on the phone (long distance with a sick grandma)and can she have you call her back! Dont wait for him to answer just have your friend click over (hanging up on your dad).
YOur friend should call you on threeway then she should call your dad using her phone to initiate the call (caller id will show the call as coming from the friends house) that should do it
2007-01-04 06:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my opinion as a parent is that first of all i am thankful that you at not my child because there is nothing i hate more than a liar and clearly you have been doing it so long that all trust has been eroded with your parents. I am hoping you are at least close to 18 and if so you could sit down and tell them listen I like this guy and don't want to sneak around. I want to work to gain back your trust and admiration so we can have an adult relationship. And if you are less than 18 then stay home and keep you legs closed.
2007-01-04 06:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ready for sex? That is the only reason you would be spending the night with him. Sounds to me like this is at your boyfriends request. He does not love you. If he did he wouldn't ask you to do this! That is disrespect. And you are allowing it? Not only will you pay dearly by losing your parents trust you will also lose your friend and your bf and your respect for yourself! Do you want an std? Maybe a baby as young as you are? Think this through. No one is worth all of that.
2007-01-04 06:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to tell you what I learned a few years ago... Your parents should always know where you at. The reason why, you ask??? Well, let me tell you. I was out on a date that my parents never knew about... they knew the guy (family friend) and I thought, "oh, well, they know the guy so why should I tell them that I'm going out with him???" Wrong answer! I had a very close call with this guy. I was lucky to make it out alive. But if I had gotten killed and police came to my parents door and asked me if they knew I was out with this guy and they said no??? I feel horrible just thinking about that. You just need to be careful. And... if they find out about your sneeking away the trust is gone and believe me, it's hard to get back.
2007-01-04 06:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by christinae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u need to think the fact that no matter what u tell your parents always know where u are. The truth is that at the end that one that's is been fool is you, Do you think is worth spending the night with some one that already break up with you. There a lot of thing that u can do if you want him back but lying to your parent is not worth it. Respect yourself, I think you can be more intelligent than that.
2007-01-04 06:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by lady_morriganus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang out with your friend until you dad calls. After the call, then go to your boyfriend's house. Your dad will call probably at around 11:30. After that, he'll be too tired to do any more investigating after that.
Then in the morning at around 10 or so, call Dad and tell him you are having coffee with your bf.
As a back up, in case he calls at 8am, have you friend tell him that you just left to have coffee with your bf. Have your cell ready at all time.
2007-01-04 06:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, can the exboyfriend come over to your friends house? i know i am not your mother but we dont want you to sleep with some guy or have break-up sex. Tell your dad you will be seeing a late movie with your friend and spend the movie time with the boyfriend. Then after time is up go back to your friends house and then you can talk to your dad and he will never know. good luck
2007-01-04 06:24:44 · answer #10 · answered by Kyon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to spend the night with your ex to patch things up. Lying always bites you on the butt, so why not just meet with him and spend some time, then go to your friends house that way you will be there when your dad calls.
2007-01-04 06:24:37 · answer #11 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋