I am 36 yrs old and have 4 children ages 17 daughter,twins girl and boy age 12, and another son age 7.I am remarrying my first husband who i was married too for 7.5 years before we divorced and who is the father of my twins.My other ex. is the father of my youngest and eldest children i was married to for only 3 yrs.I am having problems though with my eldest child who see's her dad as a saint when in fact he is a con artist who spent 5 yrs in jail for white collar crimes.She has been acting out a lot and rebelling against everything.My future hubby is 13 years older than me and will be retiring soon from being a stock broker and would like another child with me .I dont want to hurt him but i feel my plate is pretty full at the moment!how can i tell him without hurting him?
2007-01-04 06:01:27 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know how much another child would mean to him but i am exuasted!
2007-01-04 06:08:28 · update #1
If you don't want another and he does, you should not marry,it is a recipe for discord and disaster. There is no sugar coating tell him "There will be no child" Simple as that. Do not be ambiguous and have him thinking it 'may happen' That will only lead to future trouble.
2007-01-04 06:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no. He has children with you. He is retiring and income will be tighter. Four kids to be put through school and your 36 (not old - just getting up there for another child to take care of). Make sure he understands before you are remarried.
2007-01-04 14:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that? Has your new husband have kids of his own? If not that might be the reason he wants to have kids. Maybe after interacting with your children he realizes that something is missing from his life. Tell him how you feel about it and maybe you can compromise and see how things progress. Be upfront and honest with him communication is the key to any relationship.
2007-01-04 14:14:58 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just straight up tell him. It shouldn't hurt his feelings. Just be like, "We're gonna have to wait on that, because I've got a lot on my plate already without another child. I'm not ready for another baby just yet. Maybe sometime down the road."
2007-01-04 14:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you divorce the first husband in the first place? What is going on here. You should be on Dr. Phil or Oprah.....Where is Tom Cruise? Where is Pat Sajack? Where is Vanna White?
2007-01-04 14:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you looked into it and there are some medical risks associated with your age and you would rather not have anymore children. Ask him if he'll be understanding of that? Otherwise you maybe having another baby.
2007-01-04 14:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
By being HONEST. If you are not up front and he does not understand your position he will resent you later.
If it means you don't get married - well, better not married than bitterly divorced.
If I were you I wouldn't have a baby either.
2007-01-04 14:07:48 · answer #7 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hurting him?
what about you?
If he cant handle NO, then you have no business marrying him. OIpen and honest communication is the backbone of any marriage!
2007-01-04 14:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS AN ISSUE YOU WILL HAVE TO RESOLVE B4 MARRIGE....BELEIVE ME
2007-01-04 14:13:22 · answer #9 · answered by dce1dg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋