My parents don't like me on Myspace?

Question

My parents don't like me on Myspace. I don't see the big deal about it, all you do is talk to people. It's not like I give anything out but they're going to delete my acount. I don't know why, what's wrong with Myspace?

Answer 1

You know? is a hard question to answer when you are a parent... I personally I'm a parent and I have this weird feeling about MySpace...

I hapen to know how to turn a computer on and actually use it... I spend many hours in front of a computer every day, and when I even come here to answers very often, and I go straight to the computers section, and I like answering questions about hardware, how to solve problens with software and all geeky technical stuff, and for some rteason, when I see this quistions about MySpace, I feel that there are too many people trying to graduate trough it, and I hate it, I feel like they could be doing something else, the internet and all of the information in it does not revolve around MySpace, although many young people tend to believe so.

Another thing I have noticed, is that is almost like a place where young people can be "themselfs" and then they post tasteless, and pointless pictures, maybe not everyone, but most... they tend to say the most shallow things... I guess they act and talk like that in real everyday life, but I can't help but feel afraid that a child of mine would have any of this things hidden in him... look around, girls acting like hoochies, guys like thugs wannabe gangsters, very very shallow conversations that could have had place privately over the phone, but there they are for the world to see how class-less a teen can be.


on top of that it seem to be the place where "popularity" can take you to the extreme, how many friends do you have?, ok now, tell me how many of those friends would sit next to you for days at the time in a hospital waiting for your recovery, or how many of those cyber-friends would send you at least a dollar to your account when in need? maybe some, but is just that: maybe. Now tell me, who would (and will) be there for sure, your family. I don't know about your parents, but there is NOTHING i wouldn't do for my kids.

For now I'm not afraid of a predator stalking my kids, I think I talk to them much enough to realize that they are not that stupid to fall in a trap, nor they need any more love, but who knows. In the end as a parent, we cannot protect our children forever and against everything.

So, there it is. sorry if I went to far with my points of view, but also as a fair parent that I think I am, I would probably say that if you were my child and want to be on mySpace, I'd probably let you, trying to make sure that, you don't become obsesive, and that whatever you do would never come back and bite you.

Answer 2

Some parents think kids get exposed to too many adult things when they are left alone on the Internet, like they will chat with other kids who swear, make dirty jokes, make up stories about doing drugs or having sex or fighting their parents, etc.

Of course, kids do this with or without the Internet, but that doesn't seem to affect parents. I think the Internet makes parents more afraid, because a lot of parents know nothing or very little about the Internet. The fact is, parents have *always* been shocked at what their kids learn from other kids no matter where it is -- the playground, the lunch room, their friend's houses, or the Internet.

One more serious possibility is that there have been cases of older men who go on the Internet, pretend to be younger (sometimes), and meet young girls on the Internet and try to meet them in real life, intending to hurt them. I don't believe this happens very much at all, but it's a possibility that many parents are afraid of.

The best thing parents can do is be open with their kids, and for their kids be open with them. It wouldn't kill them to join MySpace themselves, and be able to see what goes on.

Your parents don't want you to turn into a bad person, and on MySpace (and probably lots of other places), they can't control what you get exposed to, or even find out.

It might help if you asked your parents more questions about things you hear from other kids and other people, not only on MySpace and the Internet but on TV and at school too. Hopefully your parents will want to explain them to you, or tell you something about them that you should know. If they trusted that you would come to them for that sort of advice about the world or life, maybe they'd feel better about you being on MySpace.

Of course, not all parents are like that, but it might be worth a shot. No guarantees; some parents are just lazy and don't want to deal with the inconveniences of the the mature things their kids might learn.

Answer 3

What's a teen to do otherwise? There isn't anywhere for kids to hang out anymore, everyone keeps chasing them away..."No loitering"
This is a definite sign of the "Generation Gap". Most parents don't even know how to turn on a computer let alone know what it's all about. They just follow blindly on what the news tells them. Oooo...big evil internet...Stalker, pedophiles, rapists,...oh my. IF parents would take the time to teach the kids about the bad people out there, then there would be less of a problem.
It's like cars...When they first came around with the gas engine, the horse-and-buggy people freaked out because of the "new technology".

Answer 4

If you feel that your page is legit, then let them see it, show them what you do, if you have joined any groups, let them in on it. That way they feel that you are not hiding anything, and see that it can be a positive thing. There are lot's of sketchy *** people out there. My husband and I are both on it, an dI saw my stepsons' page, and it was NUTs! The way he broke it down to him was this "if you have a laptop in your car, and you are going to enter a store, do you leave it in the front seat for all to see and possibly steal?, or do you put it in your trunk?" This is the way preditors think. If youa re showing everything off, talking to people you don't know, telling them everything about you, then you are putting yourself in that front seat. Make your profile private, but again. Show your parents what your doing, and groups (if any) that you are part of..

Answer 5

Myspace has been the cause of many unfortunate events, such as missing children.. Sadly there are not a lot of honest folks out there.. A lot of weirdos.. My daughter is 25 and I don't like her on Myspace, because I worry about her, but as she is an adult I can not stop her. If you are a youngster your folks have a right to be concerned. Good Luck

Answer 6

Myspace is causing internet addiction. Not to mention old men like to find little boys on it.

Answer 7

im unsure i understand this question. yet i decide on mom and dad. through fact they're concrete products and right here for me whilst i choose them. whilst i choose myspace, I continuously get an "unpredicted errors"

Answer 8

Because kids are obsessive about it and want to be on the stupid site all the time. There's more to life than Myspace.

Youngsters should be having fun, not being stuck on the computer 24/7.

Answer 9

There are dangers to getting to public on the net. Remember, dont talk to strangers. Though I am a stranger, I'll give you this advice. "Listen to your parents". They have your best interests and safety in mind.

Answer 10

Have you ever watched Dateline NBC's "To Catch a Predator"? Week after week, they show disgusting men getting into sexual conversations with kids who they believe are 12-14. If I were a parent, I don't know how I'd feel about my kid being on it either.