My mom is totally against me "partying".. I am 17 years old and feel like i should be able to go out and so stuff.. My cerfew is at 12:00!! I am a good student and on the cheer team.. shouldnt i have some more privalages?? I want to stay out till atleast 2 on saturdays, but my mom says that 12 is the latest its so unfair! Or am i being un rational?
2007-01-04 05:40:06 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
im not a "hoe" either..
and when i am out i
dont "give myself and
get high"..
2007-01-04 05:49:31 · update #1
if i were to stay out till 2 me and my friends would just hang out.. talk..so stuff that all teenagers do..
2007-01-04 05:54:38 · update #2
i feel the same way..
why do ppl make these mean comments judging u>>they dont know u
2007-01-04 07:45:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
imagine that you were at home alone . and knew your mom had just left the house with a person who was prone to extreme mood swings irrational behavior and even from time to time
states of psychotic behavior .
that is pretty much what it is like for a parent to know there child is out at night at a party with friends.
instead of asking her if you can stay out later all the time how about suggesting you call her at a set time and promise to tell her if there is any chance your friend s will be driving drunk or stoned . then see if you can work that into a deal to make it 1 am
none of your friends with caring parents are going to laugh at you for having to leave a party at 1 am . and if some one does hassle you about it ignore it that person is either drunk stoned or comes from a place where caring and consern for others wasnt a big deal.
wow after i read all the other posts it make me think i am not hitting the mark on this one . so i say 12 almost always you can leave to go to the party at whatever time you like try going earlier.
1 am is the time i would use only if the phone home update system was used. i would use that for say a rock concert or
some event that you go on a bus to and you would miss most of it if you had to be home at 12.
2007-01-04 06:37:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think 12 is a good curfew, you have no business to be out till 2 a.m. Most cities anymore have a city wide curfew anyway. In my city it is 11pm if you get caught out you get taken home by the cops. What good things happen at 2 am for a 17 yr old except trouble. She just wants to help you stay safe. That is what parents are for. Good luck and God bless
2007-01-05 09:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is a senior and he's 17. Great grades, plays baseball--AND has a midnight curfew. Your town might also have a teen curfew that your mom is using as guidance. If you are caught out past the city imposed curfew, she can get into trouble. I know you don't want that. My son can stay out until 1am on special occasions--like if there is a school dance or something.
Just try to remember, one of the reasons your are a good child and not a "ho" is because your mom is a good mom who sets good parameters for you. Appreciate her for that. She probably doesn't go to sleep until you get home. She may be in bed, but not sleeping.
2007-01-04 06:17:25 · answer #4 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi there. I can see both sides here. You see yourself as being responsible and wonder why you don't get the trust you feel is due to you. Another way to look at it though is that maybe your mom does trust you..it's other people she's worried about. Your mom would be up all night worrying about you so if you're coming home at 2am, she doesn't get to bed until 2am either..hardly fair on her. You're still very young and there's a lot of people out there who aren't very nice as we see evryday on the news. It's not that your mom doesn't appreciate your maturity, she just doesn't want some sicko to hurt you. What would you do anyway? You're too young for clubs so where would you be that you'd need a 2am curfew?
2007-01-04 05:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you mom worries that you are a skank, judging by your picture. She probably doesn't want you going out looking like that and getting humped by some guy with tattoos and a wallet chain that's connected to his nipple. If you are still in high school then 12 is good curfew. Your mom was young once and she remembers what goes on and how guys can be. The later you stay out, the more of a chance that the kind of thing she worries about could happen. Later curfew is an earned priviledge. Prove to her that you can be responsible and come back on time for a couple months and then maybe bring it back up later. And please for your sake, be careful how you present yourself to people unless you want them to get the wrong idea.
2007-01-04 05:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by Johnny Z 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
As the saying goes......."her house, her rules"
I think 12 o'clock is perfectly reasnable. I don't know what state you live in but most states have "Cinderalla" laws for drivers under the age of 18, so at 17 you would not be allowed to drive past midnight.
Being a good student and on the cheer team has nothing to do with being underage, and under your parents control. When your 18 and out of their house AND supporting yourself - party on til dawn if you want. Until then - deal with it.
2007-01-04 06:01:23 · answer #7 · answered by Susie D 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I agree with your mom. Did you ever stop to think that it is not you she has a problem trusting, but others? I have a 16 year old daughter who cheers and is on serveral sports teams and is honor roll and JROTC. Her curfew is 11:00 on weekends. She is not allowed to single date and is not allowed to go to a party unless I know and meet the parents. Yes, extreme, but my daughter has goals and it is my job to make sure that she has every opportunity to reach them. It seems your mom is being very resonable, more them even I am. So, Respect her be cause she cares enough to set this boundry to protect you, not from yourself, but from others. There is nothing that you should be out doing after 12:00. Sorry I agree with your mom and keep up the good work in school. I am sure your mom is very proud of you.
Best wishes and have some fun too.
2007-01-04 08:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is something every girl fights about with her parents. Even though you feel like its a going to be the end of the world, it really isn't. And after all she is right. What is there to do after midnight for a 17 year old to do? And its good for you too cause cops are always out after midnight just looking for underage people.
Besides its only a year till your 18. So just give in to her for a little bit.
2007-01-04 05:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by jennababe_68 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not to be rude but I think your being unrational, your still in school and 12:00 seems reasonable. When I was 17 I was never school night or weekend ever allowed to stay out that late,. what is out there for you to do at that time at your age, most clubs don't allow 17 year olds bars are off limits. Appreciate what your mom is doing you'll thank her later.
2007-01-04 05:49:41 · answer #10 · answered by emery_sage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your curfew should be the grade that you are in, 9:00 for 9th grade, 10:00 for 10th grade and so on. That is what I had and I never got pregnant or arrested so I guess it works. You can stay out all night when you are in college. If you are living in your mom's house and eating her food you have to follow her rules. Someday you will be glad that you did. She only makes rules because she loves you more than you know.
2007-01-04 05:45:53 · answer #11 · answered by mom-knows-best 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋