I found my husband emailing a woman asking for her number,giving away his number. He even told her to meet up with him a street away from ours and ofcourse she was answering him. This all happend when i was gone for 3days.I have evidence of it but now my head is spinning and don't know what to do.
2007-01-04 05:35:05 · 29 answers · asked by lizzie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
find out who the woman is first, if it turns out to be a friend and not a 'friend' then you could look quite silly, but saying that if you don't have any trust in your relationship, then maybe it's time to call it a day. just remember i don't know you or your husband so I can't say for certain that's what would be best in your situation
2007-01-04 05:39:15 · answer #1 · answered by adriantheace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell do you care about the slut he's cheating with? Who gives a sht if he's cheating with the dog in the backyard. That is not the problem. The problem is the fact that he cheated. You should only be caring about the reasons your husband is cheating! It's your marriage that's important. He cheated for a reason. Not because she has better legs than you, but because he isn't happy with the life that you're giving him. He's trying to find a better one somewhere else. That's why men cheat. Your husband already told you he is cheating, so guess what? HE IS CHEATING and if he's cheating, it's because he doesn't love you. So find out WHY he doesn't love you! You have to really communicate now. You should have alot of questions about your marriage, not about some slutty co-worker!! Hey either try to save the marriage or just file for divorce.
2016-05-23 02:59:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all relax and think about it for a while. It could maybe be nothing.... you never know. Confront him immediatly and your marriage will be ruined. Just think about it. If you have kids or assets take time to gather more evidence........ you will fare much better in court with proof of adultry.
Sure you could just confront him and say "explain".......of course his reaction will tell all. No fights, no nothing, just let him talk. You find out more that way. I personally wouldn't want to play that hand as he would change his email and be slicker about it. Then you wouldn't be able to find out anything more. All I am saying is weigh your options before you act and when you are spun up is not the time.
2007-01-04 05:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I confronted my husband straight forward. I didn't cuss, I didn't yell. Of course he tried to lie about it, but I had the evidence in my hand. Once I presented the evidence, I was then faced with the "why are you looking through my stuff" and "you don't trust me" questions. You will go through his anger, his denial, and then finally come to the heart of it all...that he loves you and that he wasn't going to do it...it was all just talk. WHATEVER!!!! Don't listen. He broke the trust and now he has to earn it back. I went through it 3 times with my husband until finally I couldn't take it anymore. He wasn't changing, and if anything, it was getting worse. You have to first ask yourself if you believe that he would cheat. If you say yes, then you have to ask yourself if you can handle living with this man any longer. You will have to forgive him if you decided to stay, and that's not an easy thing to do.
2007-01-04 05:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by It's Me 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You need to confront him and do it now. Don't take any of that.. "why were you in my email" crap either. He owes you an explanation as to why he was willing to meet up with another women and needs to know that you no longer can trust him. Put it all out there for him and watch him squirm. He deserves whatever you give him. But I would decide first if you are going to remain with him before he answers and what you will do when he denies it too.
2007-01-04 05:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
confront him if it is all innocent then he should have told you and don't let him off the hook by him telling you that he knew you would find out about it he needs to be a man and be upfront about why he was emailing that woman and if it is all innocent then why could she not meet him at your house if nothing is going on then why hide where he lives
think about it and then take it from there good luck hope it all works out for the best for you
2007-01-04 05:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by bright eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit of a slimeball, um?
HOW to confront him? Isn't that the easy part? Maybe the question is are you going to tolerate it? If it wasn't for sexual intent, it might still matter, a trust may have been broken, unless you don't mind his soliciting 'friendships' with females WHEN YOU'RE NOT AROUND (that sneaky dog!).
Some among us would let him receive divorce proceedings in the mail and let HIM approach the subject, ha.
2007-01-04 05:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him the evidence - wait for the answer. Be prepared for him to want a divorce. Maybe consider counseling but only if both of you agree. Good Luck
2007-01-04 05:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Print the emails and tell him to close his eyes, you have a surprise for him. Tell him to hold out his hands. Then present him with the emails and divorce papers. Tell him he's lost his damn mind if he thinks you're even going to go through this crap with him and he can spin on that.
2007-01-04 05:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could email this woman and let her know he's married, or you could confront your husband with your evidence and wait for an answer. If it were me, I'd like to hear his answer.
2007-01-04 05:53:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋