I am a straight woman. Have never been attracted sexually to women, but now???? It's almost all I can think of. BUT when I think of ACTUALLY doing it.....I get cold feet, but I can't stop thinking about trying it.
Part of me wants to try it and get it out of my system, and the other part of me thinks maybe it is just fantasy, BUT I have never had fantasies THIS overwhelming.
I am divorced, have kids, am a professional woman..........
WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON WITH ME???? What should I do?
I am so ready to try it.....I'm about to burst. When I have the good ole hetero encounter with my 'friend with benefit' (who happens to be my ex) I am satisfied for a few hours.....then it's back to the obsessive bi-curious thoughts.
Should I do it? Should I see a counselor or something? Am I flipping out? I just turned thirty. I know about dirty thirty, and I am DEFINETELY reaping the 'benefits' of this high sex drive, and the ex is loving it. But is it causing this bi-curiosity too?
2007-01-04 05:28:19 · 22 answers · asked by Lilac B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are normal as anyone. Bi thoughts are very common so don't sweat why you have them.
Since you are single you are in a better position then many to try. Only you can know if you want to give it a whirl. Try this, find a close female friend that you can talk about things like that. It would help if she's good looking....lol Let it come up in conversation and see what happens. Maybe something maybe nothing. Good luck and tell the ex he's a lucky SOB...lol
2007-01-04 05:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by Thomas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it....there's no chance of finding yourself in anything other than a "sexual jaunt" because your're not (romantically) attracted to women and there's no chance of you getting caught up in the emotional tangle that can happen when you have sex with males. Besides, from MY viewpoint....many men go at a woman's body without any clue about the sensations they are feeling (or not feeling) and WOMEN know what WOMEN like. I would have to say that it sounds like a purely sexual fantasy. You're not crazy. (If you are, then so am I - lol)
2007-01-04 05:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it - dirty 30. I am going to be 32, and my sex drive keeps increasing. My 35 year old boyfriend does not have the same sex drive (3xwk is fine w/him) I too have been thinking about it again. I have been with a girl about 6-7 years ago. I too was nervous at first. Just like with a man, you have to be with someone who makes you feel comfortable and takes their time. I can sympathize - I too have been thinking about it alot - mostly because my sex drive has been ridiculously high, and my boyfriend has not been on the same page as me - and he is incredible in bed, with his mouth, his hands...whew! And I know I am not going to get it tonight either. So, girl, All I can contribute is my sympathy!
2007-01-04 05:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality is a complicated thing. and one should accept all his fantasies or curiosities with an open mind and no shame. obviously you will never get this out of your head.. or if you do, it will come back later..and so on. so just do it, but make sure she s the right person, someone you won't regret doing it with.. or not someone who will use this against you in any way. someone you think you can relax with. you don't have to go 'all the way' with her. maybe just kissing and fondeling will make you either more sure you wanna go for it, or know that it's not for you.
2007-01-04 05:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it's time for a vacation. ALONE. go somewhere where no one knows u. where u can feel free to go crazy W/O worrying about runnin into someone u know. research it online. maybe Hedonism in Jamaica? research swingers clubs in your area and maybe try one in the next state over. maybe become friends with a guy (*like me*) who u can talk to about your desires so u can begin to become comfortable with the idea and realize it doesn't make u weird or strange, just curious.
p.s. why still sleep with the ex? u broke up for a reason right??
2007-01-04 05:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheesh, what's the big deal? Why should you NOT do it? You want to try it, the risk of unwanted pregnancy is zero, and there is almost no stigma toward lesbian sexuality. Just do it.
2007-01-04 05:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! You should have a man present to give you reassurance. Since you say your curious, he can be there to keep you from completely flipping the switch.
2007-01-04 05:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try it
get it out of your system
it will tell you if its for real or not
it might just be a phase
but you never know right?
and the world is short so that risk wouldnt hurt
so give it a shot
and see if its for you or not
2007-01-04 05:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by MightyHyphy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop WHINNING about it and just try it. You may LOVE it. And if you do love it just think how long you have been going without something you LOVE SO MUCH. GO FOR IT.
2007-01-04 05:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So go out to a gay bar and see how that goes. If it goes well then take it a step further.
2007-01-04 05:35:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋