2007-01-04 05:21:19 · 29 answers · asked by Letty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds as though he really isn't much into this marriage with you. Any guy that has a wife and daughter and is out diddling with other women is not worth you time or effort. Give him his walking papers pronto.....................
2007-01-04 05:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don;t write to to many of these, but you seem to need some sorting out here.... hope this is helpful....
This is rather a typical thing to occur between two people not yet ready for a committed relationship... You and he probably went together for a few years, and thought a baby would be nice, and now are finding out that screaming children at 2am, terrible two, temper tantrums, etc., are divisive, not bonding. He's not ready to be a parent, so he is outa there, and you get stuck with the kid, because that is just the way it is....you're at home, and he leaves for more fun with his buddies or whoever....(screaming kids, household duties, ain't fun......)
Marriages, and relationships are Admiration Respect, Passion and Trust, with a whole lot of lovies, kindnesses, sharing, being a team, providing a loving home in which to raise children together, time together to just talk in front of a nice fire, kind words, learning how to solve differences without rage, shared hobbied, and hobbies on your own and time out with your child together......yadayayayday.... and I'm guessing you don't have much of this.... You and he need to reconnect, and that involves some sessions of bonding, and counseling. The fact that you say his is "your man" indicates a "bad boy" kind of thing, no marriage and that you rather lack trust in him..... he's gone lots and you are resentful of that, as well you should be...i'ts his child too..
Marriage says to the world that you are a team, a bonded couple, working to provide love and comfort to each other, and to your family..... From what you have written, even you don't think you have much of this this, hon. There is no shame in a few sessions of counseling to see how you can improve your relationship..... every relationship can use a tune-up every now and again, from an outside source. Good luck, hon.... hope this is helpful
2007-01-04 13:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to sit him down and tell him that he can no longer just go out when the mood suits him. He sounds a bit immature and must realize that he is now married with a family and his place is home with them. An occassional night out with friends is fine, but if he keeps going out, he is neglecting his duties as a husband and a father to your little girl. If he refuses to change his ways, then you must decide whether to remain with him or move on and take care of yourself.
2007-01-04 13:26:13 · answer #3 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you mean, with other women, take him for all he is worth!!
If you mean, just out, find a sitter and go out and have a good time with him, and do that regularly! Also, find ways to make him happy at home! A happy marriage does not just happen by chance. It takes work, on both parts. Girl, you should be getting out with the girls too, that is what keeps us sane!
2007-01-04 13:29:22 · answer #4 · answered by D Marie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has responsibilities now and those days of going out are over. If he insists on going out, you can make it happen that he goes out as a single man.
2007-01-04 13:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does keeps on going out mean?
2007-01-04 13:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
u must decide if this is the kind of life u are satisfied with, confront him tell him how this is hurting u, and if he refuses to change than what u see is what u get, and maybe u need to divorce him, if he won't act maturely, and stay at home like normal husbands and fathers.
2007-01-04 13:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go only if hes goin out with the guys.is he the main money bringer in the relationship if so let him go if not tell him to stay home and change some diapers u need to go get ur drink on
2007-01-04 13:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by wil w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going out for what? This can't be answered without further information from you. Do you mean dating? Divorce him. Do you mean "boys night out"? Then get a "girls night out" for yourself going. Each of you is entitled to some "me time"....
2007-01-04 13:37:28 · answer #9 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u mean "keeps going out"?? meaning he's hittin the titty bar 5 nights a week with his boys leavin u at home? or is he responsible for the most part but goes out once or twice a week?? MORE INFO!!!
2007-01-04 13:30:56 · answer #10 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋