now a days children dont care for parents when they are old can some one tell me why??

Question

now a days kids dont care their parents like before.in olden days kids gave lot of importance to parernts happiness but now a days no one really cares for their parents.they grow up and forget what their parents did for them .can anyone tell me why this is happining???

Answer 1

Not too sure, I guess society has changed so much from then, so have people

Answer 2

A lot of what I've seen, is the parents are selfish and they have a sibling to take care of the other siblings so the bonds are between the siblings not the parents. I've seen this and some even if they were mistreated as myself still take care of there parents. I've been sick myself and no one helped even when I had surgery I disobeyed my Doctor and mowed the grass for 4 hours. Done house work, and I still have selfish parents that don't care about my health, and cause a lot of problems with gossip between the other siblings so we will not talk to one another. Some become mean two year old when they get old and it frustrating, hurtful, and its hard to deal with but I still don't want no one to take advantage of my parents. I get mad an I express my hurt and anger sometimes like a small child. My mom is worse than ever wanting pity and its awful at times, and the anger I feel makes me feel terrible. But if your not helpless and can do a little, then do it. When there is a sick sibling and the parents have condemned them with stupidity, not knowing and thinking that they know what wrong is a bad thing. The other siblings will not help because they have bad mouthed the only one that is helping them. So when you treat your child good and they don't return the favor maybe they didn't get the meaning some where in life as they were being brought up or there just selfish and don't care about no one but themselves. I have made my mistakes in raising my own children. and they are just as selfish as my siblings. But where did I get how to raise my children? My parents! And I tried to change it at the very end as they were in there teens. And its my fault. Not theres. Its sad because I'm only in my forties and my health is bad and I have to have a lot of surgies and I died in one, but I feel like a burden on them and I see them not wanting to be there when my recovery takes longer because my kindeys don't want to work or other problems occur. I would rather be in the hands of a nursing home when I have problems rather to feel the hurt of being a burden.

Answer 3

In mordern iife the society has changed in such a manner that children forget their parents.They get used 2 the society.the only n only reason y children do not care their parents is society or may be jus becoz they become very close 2 their partners that they forget all the pains taken by their parents 2 bring them up.

Answer 4

It's simple really. Parents aren't teaching their children values and respect anymore. Just look around at all the younger people who are disrespectful and arrogant to other people. What happened to the children is that the govt. got involved and started telling these parents to use techniques suggested by "experts". These children are from the "time-out" generation and were never taught about consequence or values. This is what happened to the children today who refuse to take care of their parents. By the way, I am going to take of mine when the time comes. Least I can do is give back what was given to me. Thank you and GOD bless.

Answer 5

I think it is a sign of the times...unfortunately. Families don't sit down to dinner together anymore. Everyone is in a rush. Both parents work, kids grow up pretty much alone. We always want too much STUFF. Parents try to make good money to by their kids everything they want but as hokey as it sounds, parent's time with there kids would be a much better gift. Then, maybe the future generations would see the importance of caring.

Answer 6

I was so close to my Mother that when she died there was such a void in my life that I went into a deep depression. In Therapy, my Dr. once said that we were to close to be healthy. I felt responsible for my My Mothers happiness and its a long story.

Each generation seems to be a bit less devoted to one another.
I don't hear from any one of my 5 as often as my Mother heard from me, but I do hear from them often enough. They are all working, have long commutes and they are busy keeping up with their homes and children and activites. If I need them as my husband did in 2002 when I fell ill suddenly & had 2 brain surgeries and was in the hosp. for a month, they came,they stayed,they stood by with their Dad. We do a lot for our children as we see the need. Rarely have they even hinted for help. WE are now 76 and 80, been married 54 years, still active, have a living trust set up and our affairs in order. So we arn't relying on our children to take care of us. They were a joy to us, not a burden and that's what we hope to be to them. We are Christians of the Southern Baptist faith. and active in it and I think that is one of the things happening with families of today, the lack of spritual training. There are no values, no morales, no disipline. To much outside influnce, peers, TV, and etc...There is a lot of sin stuff going on in this world and I don't see it getting better. All that I see that I can do is be an example and witness for the good life.

Answer 7

In the past parents only lived to be in their 50-60's now parents may live into their 90's or 100's. Its the parents fault if the kids don't take care of them. Mothers go back to work (if they leave at all) before the kids walk. by the time a kid is 12 he can cook his own dinner and be relatively self-suficient except for paying the bills. so he owes his parents 12 years of care at most.

Answer 8

Probably because parents these days don't actually raise their children...daycare does. A child seems to be more like a piece of luggage that parents tote around than an important part of the family

Answer 9

I believe people are less family oriented then they used to be. Americans more specifically seem to embrace this new way of living. Selfish it may be but people today don' have enough patience to raise children properly, let alone take care of an old parent in need. We don't want to be reminded of getting older. We also don't want our images of our mothers and fathers to be tainted with changing their diapers or feeding them. It's a shame but it's looked at as an inconvenience. So we send them to a home and put them out to pasture.

Answer 10

I think some of it might be upbringing,but you can teach your kids the best morals and ethics in the world,they are going to do what they want to do anyway.A lot of it is no respect.For themselves or anyone else.There's also a cool factor,I know this 'case my son told me,"I ain't taking care of you.it ain't cool."Society has changed the way we look at things.Fortunately and unfortunately things have changed for now a days kids.I took care of my grandmother for 3 years after my grandfather died,and I wouldn't trade one minute of it for anything,not even gold.

Answer 11

Kids are moving farther away from their parents in the United States. With college and opportunities often being across the country, the kids settle there instead of at home.

However, I know a lot of my friends are still back home taking care of their parents.