i feel that she just with me because i pay all the bills and she is very lazy when it come to me but let some one ask her for somthing she'll go out of her way to help them i just don't know what to do we have no sex life and i can't tell if she love me or just trying to hang on till i get feed up
2007-01-04 05:18:09 · 25 answers · asked by soontobefree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why you complaining? You made her that way.
2007-01-04 05:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realistically, if she's used to you always playing the bills do you really think she'll change? It doesn't sound like you have much of a relationship. Do what's right for you because you deserve better and take this as a lesson learned. Good luck -
2007-01-04 05:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd sit down and say 'look, if you don't get a job and start respecting that it takes 2 to make things work then you are history. One person can not run a marriage and pay bills for two on their own!' Maybe you'd want to refraise it though, lol. I'd separate and see what she does or suggest a divorce!
2007-01-04 05:30:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can only walk on you if you let them. Show her you have self-respect and want a 'partner' in life, not a 24/7 patronizing boss. Leave her. Ask yourself what good you are getting from this relationship. It sounds like little to none...Good luck!
2007-01-04 05:27:59 · answer #4 · answered by bfwh218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get some counselling, but it sounds like she will not be willing to do this. I have just heard this same story from someone else, but they have decided to end the marriage as it no longer seems to be one for them. She would not go to the counselling as he had requested, so he chose not to continue the abuse any longer. Give her an ultimatum.. work or walk. Act like a wife or walk, etc.
2007-01-04 05:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants out of the marriage but is trying to make you so crazy that you initiate the proceedings and she can play the wronged woman. Trust me.... It happens all the time. Get moving...throw her lazy as5 out, pay her off, get on with your life. Life and time are too short for this kind of shite
2007-01-04 05:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have children? She may have refused to work full-time if so. Maybe part-time work would be better. Respect is earned - you give it, you will receive it. No sex life then work on it. Sounds like neither of you communicate your feelings to one another either.
2007-01-04 05:25:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wife's role is to take care of her husband...she is his HELPER....and before everyone starts giving me the "thumbs down" consider this.....women DO NOT have to get married! A wife's role is "Helpmeet"...she is to Help Meet the needs of her Husband....his role is protector and provider, a pretty big plate to fill I might add.
Your wife needs cousel on the proper role and duties of a wife. really she does. You are not wrong for expecting her approval, her acceptance and her affection.....thats what a man marries for!
Geez, I am not married, but when me and my man are married, I plan on making him the happiest man in the world!!!!!
Good luck to you!
2007-01-04 05:37:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Transfer all the bills to her name. Sell the house and take the equity. Then get on with your life. She is just a parasite looking for a suitable host. Unfortunately, this means YOU.
2007-01-04 05:31:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she talks to you with disrespect, doesn't give you sex, is lazy, and you can't tell if she loves you or not, why are you there? Tell this woman you've finally reached the point of being fed up, and leave!
2007-01-04 05:24:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to her about it and tell her how you're feeling. If she can't change for you then you shouldn't have to put up with her. Love is making each other happy! go out there and find someone who gives super sex if you can't find love with your wife!! good luck
2007-01-04 05:21:43 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋