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I do not know a whole lot about AA. My question is.... Is it a normal thing for other woman (married and unmarried )to phone and just talk about day to day things or relationships??? Should I be concerned???

2007-01-04 05:10:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

18 answers

dpends on if woman is his sponser..thats the person that he goes to when he feels like drinking, etc..if thats the case i wouldnt worry

2007-01-04 05:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

If he is there to just help support other people with their addiction then no, but obviously if he talking relationship issues or topics of the sort then you may want to be concerned. AA is a support group that gather to help recovering alcoholics quit their addiction.

2007-01-04 14:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by t t 1 · 0 0

Your fiancee is a recovering alcoholic and he is sober because of his involvement with AA.It is based on the fact that they need to talk to someone in the program because they have been through it all,and they are the only people that can understand what they are going through.In the program they are called sponsors and your fiancee is probably one being that he has been in the program for years.There is no reason to be concerned,talk to him about how you feel and maybe you can attend a couple of meetings so you can get acquainted with the program and how it works.Good Luck.

2007-01-04 13:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Lety 7 · 0 0

they are just friends, in AA you become very close to the other people because you are all going through the same thing at the same time. you learn to lean on each other for support, so you don't have to drink away your problems, which is a point of AA anyway. they are asking about the relationships because that is a trigger to make someone drink, and if there is a problem he is going to have to talk about it before he decides to drink. they arejust concerned. i wouldn't worry about it.

2007-01-04 13:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by pikachu 5 · 1 0

Do not be concerned. Support networks which involve telephone calls are common in AA. Be supportive of all he does to keep his addiction inactive. Ask him if he goes to any "open" meetings. If so, he can take you as a visitor to see what goes on. You would also benefit from going to AlAnon meetings.

2007-01-04 13:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hard to say. If these women are also involved with AA, then they are a support system for him. However, if that is not the case, then I would be concerned.

2007-01-04 13:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0 0

As long as thats all it is seeing how he is in AA he may have a sponser and the sponser talks to him because they don't want the person to relaspe as in go back to drinking. That is probably what it is they all look out for each other seeing how he hasn' had a drink in many years he maybe a sponser and people call him to talk because maybe they may want to have a drink and he talks to them so they don't.If you are really concerned talk to him about it.

2007-01-04 13:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0 0

My boyfriend is involved in that too. It is normal for these people to call. They call my boyfriend too. And if you what him to stay sober you have to allow them to call. It is part of his re-hab. And it going to last as long as he stays sober. There's know need to be concerned. I was like you at first. I didn't understand it. Believe me its nothing we have to be concerned about. Its people checking up on each other, making sure no one falls back. Its there re-hap.And please don't ask him to give that up. You don't want a drunk as a boyfriend. If you love him don't get upset when these people call. It might be hard at first, buy your going to have to live with it, just like I did. It's OK. In now if they call I just keep doing what I was doing.Sometimes I don't even stay in the same room when they call. It gets better.

2007-01-04 13:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Find a Al-Anon meeting and go to it!

Al-Anon is for friends, spouses, etc. of Alcoholics. If anyone can answer questions about behavior of someone in AA, there is where you will find them!

Besides, it will help you cope with being married to someone in AA.

2007-01-04 13:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by maj 4 · 2 0

It's perfectly normal. Recovering addicts of any kind use each other to keep themselves sober. Most have a sponsor they talk to but having recovering friends helps everyone.

To better help you understand I would suggest an Alanon meeting, these are for friends and families of recovering addicts and will help you understand what he is going through and is a source for you to vent your frustrations about his recovery.

2007-01-04 13:13:13 · answer #10 · answered by missyvixen1217 3 · 3 0

It's not uncommon for AA to issue "soul mates" to one another. The catch is these soulmates have to be of the opposite sex. If you attend meetings with him, you will never be allowed to have a soulmate, you're not one of them and "just don't understand." The only soul mate your finace needs is you and he should make that perfectly clear.

2007-01-04 13:24:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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