I've been divorced for years and still cannot get rid of my exhusband and his psychotic girlfriend. We have three children togather so there will be contact with him until they are adults, but the games, he uses the kids to get to me. He's the biggest loser I've ever met...lies, steals and everything in between. His girlfriend has tried to get my hubby in trouble at work(he's a cop) by making false accusations, she drives by our house to check us out, tells the kids bad things about me and even went so far as to search me on the internet and even found all the questions I answered and asked on here. She proceded to say that I was a liar and didn't know what I was talking about and that I was trying to sleaze my mother-in-law with a question about vested interest I asked. How did she even find my questions? ANYONE KNOW HOW SHE DID THAT? She is so fixated on me and has been for a long time. WHAT CAN I DO TO STOP THIS MADNESS? Get creative for me people!
2007-01-04 05:02:13 · 16 answers · asked by surgicalmommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your hubby is a cop he should know what legal rights you have and know ways to use them to your advantage. Good luck!
2007-01-04 05:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jayna 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I don't have an answer for you. I am dealing with a similar situation, only it's ex-wife, and we've been married for 10 years. I'm hoping someone has a great answer for us both! Oh, I DID file a complaint on her when she followed us home one day, and we live out in the middle of nowhere, so it was obvious she wasn't just going somewhere else. You may be able to do the same, if it becomes legal harassment.
2016-03-29 07:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is too bad he doesn't realize that to get at a former spouse thru the child is not damaging to the spouse, but really damaging to the child. Unless you can get that across to him, I'm sorry.... your kids will always be having problems in school, and in later life relating to prospective partners, because of the way one parent acted. Children out of these kinds of homes aren't really successful parents and partners themselves,but it will take a counselor for that to be hammered in,,,,, for that, I'm sorry for your children..... Since it is unlikely you will ever get to the the two of them in counseling or to even reason with them, your only hope is to ignore them --so that at least the children see that you are not going to participate in these attactks--- smile when they say something to you, and do NOT react either good or bad when the children tell you what went on, or what they are saying about you. Ignoring someone is the "stonewall" effect, and just shuts off communication, because there is no reaction on your part..... a simple smile, or in the cases of E. mail, and the like, you just dump it..... don't EVER, EVER rise to the bait, not once, not ever. The only appropriate thing to say is noting more that, "Oh, how nice.or "Oh, how sad...." not even Oh, I'm sorry, or Oh, I feel so sad over that..." Never put "I" in the sentence, and never attack, nor defend, nor show emotion such as anger, or anything....Never never defend anything or engage in a second sentence NEver, never never....!!!!! Change your phone numbers, all passwords, e-mails and notify only those who you wish to have it that you have new ones , and request that they not share any of it with those you wish not to hear from... Your husband's boss should know that you are dealing with a family nut case. Change your internet name ---get a new one from Yahoo,,,, (I have 4).
Protect your privacy by changing numbers.... and screen phone calls -- all calls to that you talk with them only on your terms.
tuff, I know, but it will get old with them in a year or so.... You must be strong.... good luck hon
2007-01-04 05:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll answer with a question. who has primary custody of the kids? unless u have joint custody, u should just move. if that is too costly i would suggest u begin building a case against them so u can cut off parental rights and possibly get restraining orders. start recording conversations. when the kids tell u something she said to them about u, call her, while recording, and ask her (calmly) why she said it and record her answers. do the same thing regarding her online stalking. once u have enough evidence u can try gettin his visitation rights changed or rescinded and go from there.
2007-01-04 05:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your hubby's a cop, he probably knows what to do. Is it possible that you charge her for stalking? When your kids grow up, they will know who's telling the truth. If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about. Stop reacting to their actions. They wanted to see your reactions, thats why they do all these things to you. When you stop responding to their abuse, they will get bored and stop. They probably have a less interesting life to live, and are jealous of your happiness with your husband. So be proud of what you have!
2007-01-04 05:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take legal action and take it now! I'd say restraining order for you and in protection of the kids. Do you want your children around a psycho like that?! Go to court and try for sole custody, show them you aren't playing anymore!
2007-01-04 05:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer about your rights and the rights of your children. This woman sounds out of her mind. Be careful!
Oh, and never instigate or even speak to her. When speaking with ex-husband about the children it should only be about the children.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 05:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by CRNMinSD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not putting a restraining order on both of them as well as letting your spouse's employer know exactly the situation with these people that way they may be banned from the building and/or expulsed from creating such accusations towards him.
2007-01-04 05:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely look into some sort of a restraining order. The woman is obviously jeolous of you and needs help. Please see legal counsel as soon as possible. Especially for the kids sake.
2007-01-04 05:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by evilcharm1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she recognised your name... and if they are doing all this, then i think you should look up to an elder person whos understandable like your ex's mom maybe ? and try and explain what they do, take your kids with you too so they can atleast see your not a bad person. good luck my friend.
i pray to god you get out this mess.
email me sometime!
2007-01-04 05:07:01 · answer #10 · answered by Home Boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋