I've been in a relationship with a great guy for about 6 months now. Recently he told me that he loves and things started getting alot more romantic than it used to be. I felt very good about that but for some odd reason I cant stop having doubts. I cant stop the confusion. I discovered that I have trust issues as I dont trust he really loves me like he says eventhough he shows it. I sometimes feel as though I love him very much and some other times I feel like I'm better off without him. I cant get myself to actually break up with him because I know he's a great guy and I'm afriad I might regret it later. How do I stay stable and in love with him all the time? How can I convince myself that he loves me and that everything is okay?!
2007-01-04 04:56:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I kinda have that same problem too but I've been going out with my boyfriend for 4 years. You feel how you feel, you cant change that. I dont know what to say to make you stop feeling that way so all I'm going to say is that if it happens to not work now, it might work later. Maybe you'll have things figured out and you'll get another change. Things will happen the way they're suppose to happen. Trust that, thats what I do... keep reminding myself of that. Sometimes you need some time and just know whatever you say to him or do, be honest about it.
2007-01-04 05:01:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you were put thru the fire by more than one guy in your past! I think there are some valid trust issues with you. The best this for you to do is sit down with this guy, explain your feelings for him (honestly) and explain your reservations about the situation (because of the trust issue) to him. Ask for his response and felling and go from there. Just remember, very, very, very, very important! This guy is not any guy from your past that has hurt you, and for that he deserves and honest chance at making you happy! He should not be punished for the sins of past men! But at the same time, trust must be earned, not given. If he has been honest with you so far, he deserves your trust and a chance to
be happy and to make you happy! Hope this helps.
2007-01-04 13:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Lonnie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't need convincing.
I have to wonder if you jumped on the band wagon and started to say I love you, just because it felt good. If you have issues, maybe you need a break( Not breaking up), but just time away from each other to see how you really feel. If he loves you he'll understand, but you have to be honest with him. In the long it'll be better for the both of you.
2007-01-04 13:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like trust and esteem issues. You'll need to work on these within yourself before you feel stable in a relationship.
2007-01-04 13:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u need to tackle your trust issue to find the answer to your question. u may also wanna ask yourself whether u, in your heart, believe you are worthy of being loved. sounds like u have a hard time believin him because u may not believe u deserve to be loved. try dealin with these issues.
2007-01-04 13:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by feetal2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about why you wouldn't trust him and than figure out why you think you don't want to be with him. If he says he really does, than maybe he does!
Besides, has he given you any doubts or done anything to betray your trust in the past? Think about it.
2007-01-04 13:06:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be complete with yourself before you can invite someone else into your world. Fall in love with yourself, and see how easy it will be to fall in love with someone else. Maybe you have trust issues with yourself and not him. Are you trustworthy?
2007-01-04 13:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by luckycharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you've had bad expieriences through you life?
if you have and been through bad relationships in the past just remember this, our memories remain in the past and our fate lives in the future. give it a try!
try it and dont be heartbroken if something does happen...once love does that to you, you've had it.
good luck.
2007-01-04 13:01:11 · answer #8 · answered by Home Boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take some time to take care of yourself. I mean, you need to love yourself, so you can think you are worth other person's love.
2007-01-04 12:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's not the one and you are subconciously telling yourself that. just try to work it out with him, if it doesn't work out it doesn't, if it does then good for both of you. at least if it doesn't you know he isn't the one.
2007-01-04 13:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋