I am so tired of ppl making remarks because of the age difference with me and my fiancee. I am 31 he is 47 we have been living together for 2 yrs. We dated 10 yrs ago for awhile but split due to the age. Now were back together an planning a life together but we get so much drama. His friends make comments my friends make comments. Why is AGE such a big deal these days.
Our wedding has been post poned due to all the things our family and friends keep saying. Any suggestions on how to deal with all the negativity in our lives???
2007-01-04 04:53:46 · 24 answers · asked by Kim 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you love him, the age does not matter. Unfortunately, some people will look upon this negatively, but who cares if you are marrying the man of your dreams. You just need to let your family/friends that you truly love this man, and that they need to accept your decision.
2007-01-04 04:56:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've together for 2 years? Well first of all why does he consider his friends, freinds if they make comments about you? Is he not man enough to say give it up? If you are to be his future wife and you are the most important thing in his life he should be choosing you! Makes you wonder. If you love each other that is what counts.... you and he, nobody else. 31& 47 is not that big of a deal. Guys are less mature and women are more. He though should be old enough to put a stop to all of this drama with family and such. Makes me wonder...... but if you truly want to be together just go get married and spend the money on an awesome honeymoon. You could first tell the family this and they will begin to accept most likely and then you can have a wedding. Personally I would keep the wedding small to immediate family and a couple of really good friends. The naysayers don't deserve to attend. Again, what matters is getting married and all that means....... not how you do it.
2007-01-04 05:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell people where to stick it. I can understand at age 21 why a 37 year old man would't be ideal. But, at age 31, the age difference shouldn't be such an issue. If you guys are happy, who cares? Tell them if they don't like it, don't come to your wedding. If you let this bother you so much that you have to put your wedding on hold, maybe you should start asking yourself how you really feel about each other.
2007-01-04 05:03:46 · answer #3 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
31 and 47 are not far apart, and people should just be happy that you two are in love. I could see them making these comments when you were just 21, but you're truly old enough to make your own decisions--and that is not such a large age gap.
2007-01-04 04:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don,t remember, but you two are a splendid couple in the Chinese love sign,that,s what it says, and the reason why people are giving you a hard time is because, no one know who lasted a full marriage with out a divorce, unless there religion for they where forced to say marred, but my parents never divorced and they were 10 years 9month in daffiness of age but it,s because your interest are most likely not the same like he may like the 50,s and 60.s music and you may like the 70,s and the 80,s music and don,t for get kids if you had a kid at age 33 and he was lets say 47 your first kid would be twenty and his or her father would be 67 and it would be hard for the kid because the kids would be picking on your kid because him dad would be the same age as the rest of the other kids grandfather,s i know this because my youngest brother has the same exseancein his childhood.
2007-01-04 05:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other, what they say doesn't matter. Show them by your actions that they're full of it.
Age has always been a big deal, not just these days. Some people just like to have something to critisize because it makes them stop thinkng about their own problems. Don't let them screw up your plans. If the 2 of you are happy and really want to get married, just tell them all to smarten up and get with the program.
2007-01-04 05:00:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-29 23:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah for one, tell his friends and your family to butt out. Chances are that they are jealous.
Get together with him and tell him that you need to talk to him ALONE and have a list of all of the things that you love about him on a piece of paper.
see if you can type it up so that it can fit in his wallet. Tell him that you love him and that you will be there for him for better or for worse and that you are ready to be his wife.
Ask him to please refer to this list when talking with his friends.....and tell him that you will do the same in dealing with yours.
If there is a way that you could both move out of the immediate area please look into that.
I am sure you will both be much happier if you were able to move even an hour away.
Congrats on finding love. SOme people search an entire lifetime to find what you currently have. dont let it go because someone else does not approve!
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-04 05:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by lisa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop listening to gossip around you and focus on the relationship you have. Love has no age. You need lead a happy life with each other not with those around you. You are marrying each other not your friends. See where I am getting at? The focus is the both of you and not those that surround you. Who will take care of one another when you grow old together? Both you, not your friends.
2007-01-04 04:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about your friends, but age is never an issue.... as they said even about cars "It ain't the age, it's the mileage," If he's the guy for you and you the lady for him, who the hell cares go for it hon. The "oldest "person I ever knew was a student in my class -- 12 with CF, every breath was a struggle. Dead by 19 The youngest was a lady who practically raised me.... alive and kicking with a great attitude at 94.
2007-01-04 05:03:21 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋