The guy is from work. I have two teenage sons. Please advise.
2007-01-04 04:47:02 · 7 answers · asked by solitude 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
how about this?....No. You're married. The age isn't the issue your potential cheating is. If you aren't ready to live up to your vows of for better or worse then you need to divorce your husband. His addiction might be some worse but it's just as bad if you cheat. What do your sons have to do with anything? I'm not seeing the correlation. Either you cheat on your husband because you don't want to honor your vows or you divorce your husband because you don't want to honor your vows. The children don't really enter into the situation because both of the options you've suggested will affect them negatively and both options are wrong whether or not your sons exist.
2007-01-04 04:56:58 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey W 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No- marital problems aren't solved by infidelity. Even if you wouldn't actually committ adultery, an emotional affair is just as damaging. You don't burn your house down if the roof caves in, it still has value, so you repair it. The same applies to your marriage. Get help if your husband is abusive, and talk to him about his addiction problems with love, explaining that you need him to get help so you can all have a happy family. Study a publication together such as "The Secret of Family Happiness" published by Jehovah's Witnesses.
Info on saving your marriage: http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2001/1/8/article_04.htm
2007-01-04 05:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by AMEWzing 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, at least get divorced first. Age isn't an issue usually; my parents were 26 years apart in age, and were married 39 years before my dad passed away. Age is a state of mind... well, for some of us it's a state of emergency. At any rate, do what your heart tells you. But dump the doper first. Your kids don't need to see you committing adultery, and they don't need to be exposed to a drug addict, or think drug addiction is acceptable behavior.
2007-01-04 05:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by link955 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're still married? Have you filed for divorce or separation?
I would wait until the divorce is final. You may not want to give your husband "ammunition" causing more problems and grief.
Also, you may want to seek out professional counseling. Marriage to an addict causes many problems- emotional, physical and so on.
Seek out counseling help first before jumping into the 'fire.'
2007-01-04 04:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Deal with the addiction as to how it affects YOU. A good AlAnon group is a place of support or a good counselor. Starting something with someone else before you deal with the bombshells of addiction will only lead you to possibly choose someone else with another addiction...and then the cycle starts all over again. Trust me...been there, done that.
2007-01-04 04:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny S. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're still married you shouldn't go out with anyone until that mess is cleaned up. As for age, that shouldn't be a factor.
2007-01-04 04:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by Wade 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sure- do what makes you happy! Seriously why wait for things to be good- make them good for you
2007-01-04 04:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋