my whole life people have made fun of me, how do i change my state of mind so that i can feel better about me?

Answer 1

learn not to pay any attention to sh!t unless you step in it.......

Answer 2

It's really interesting, but what you think you attract. For example, there could be someone not making fun of you behind your back, but you turn around and find them laughing and looking at you... right away you assume they are making fun of you.

Approach people and say hello, you may be surprised to find out that they are not.

Being made fun of hurt you. So, now it's all in your head from the past. This is damaging your ability to see clearly. Clearly, you are deserving to feel good about yourself and others.

Hang around with people who have ambition. Stay away from people who don't have anything better to do. You will then change your state of mind and all the being made fun of feelings will simply fade to a dim memory.

Create a great day, create your future. After all, it's not anyones responsibility to change it but your own.

Answer 3

Our whole life everyone is made fun of; we only really see it when it is aimed at us.

That said...

For me it was kinda a zen thing. My parents were hippies and always taught me to accept other people's beliefs and feelings.

When I had to go to school with other children, I learned that it was very weird to be accepting. Most other children I met were very critical of each other and had been taught to be that way by there parents.

We created our own social group of people that were (sometimes violently) accepting of almost everything -- except other people who were not open minded. We even had a few token normals and jocks in our group (as it got bigger) - as long as they were open minded they were allowed.

Somewhere along the way, and with great support from friends, we learned to be accepting of ourselves.

Having talked to newer friends that I only met after my teens, I have found that having grown up with the support of a tight knit group of friends is why I have so many fond memories compared to some others who were unhappy growing up.

Answer 4

i know it's hard to take a stand after being treated mean for so long but you can. first get some couseling so you can talk to someone who only wants to listen and won't be judging you. it really helps to get your feeling out there and learn to deal with them. next do something for you! go get a new hairdo, maybe a new outfit to to go with it, changing your look can make you feel really good about yourself and help you get rid of old feelings. then go out and do something fun, take a class you have been interested in, writing, reading, cooking, an excercise class, join a group in something you like. all these things will help you to meet new people and you might even meet a special someone. whatever you do always keep in mind that you are as special and just as good as anyone else and learn to keep your head up and not cow to others. GOOD LUCK!! i know you'll feel better soon!!

Answer 5

I wish I knew what it was that they are making fun of just to answer you better, if you want to feel better then do it thats all just a matter of choice, you know life is 10% what happens and 90% how you react to it, you just come to a state of mind where what they say means nothing to you and blow it off, i'd also suggest only having people in your life that accept you for who you are and you to them as well, then what anyone else thinks that isnt in your day to day life really doesnt matter then does it, good luck Kim

Answer 6

Do not care what people say. Do not waste another minute of what people think about you. I was the same way. BE SELFISH and think about what you need and want. Go for long walks, enjoy a great movie, make new friends, go back to school. People who make fun of you, are really jealous of something you have, or think you are an easy market so they can feel good about themselves. Ignore them, you are better than that.

Answer 7

My opinion: This is probably more about perception that people actually making fun of you. Yes, you may have family or long term friends that make fun of you and that has created a sensitivity to it and you are taking things that other people say personally.

Start by calling people on it if you feel they're making fun of you in a firm but polite way. "I feel like you are making fun of me and I don't like the way it makes me feel." If they are making fun of you, hopefully they will stop. If it's an entrenched behavior (like in a brother or very close friend) it may take more than once - and some people are just hopeless. You may find a lot of people saying "No, I didn't mean that I meant..." and learn that you are taking things to personally.

Also, try to focus on good, positive things that you like about yourself and not dwell on things you don't like, especially if it's something that you can't change. Feeling will immediately follow thought so if you are thinking about bad or upsetting things you will feel bad or upset. This is harder than it sounds, but consciously focusing on positive thoughts is the true path to happiness. You can't control a lot of the things happening outside you, but with discipline, you can control your thought patterns.

I hope that this is helpful, best wishes!!

Answer 8

So you want to change your state of mind huh ok listen up
First STOP caring what people say about you
Second start to listen to the only person that counts and that is you!!!!
Care not what others think the only one that matters is you and how you feel about yourself.
You need to be at peace with you not the world around you it is up to others to except you as you are if they can't that is on them not you.
Cassie in order to feel good about yourself you need to love and care about yourself and i'm betting you do or youd never ask your question and that dear girl is half the battle won.
Now to win the other half care not about how others feel about you and care only about how you feel about yourself.
I use to be as you are now a wise old Indian once told me to Care not what others think of you Care only of what you think of your self.
And to this day this is what i do if people can't except me for who i am then they are not worth my time or effort.
Following that wisdom i now have lots of friends a great wife and children and i tell them the same thing its worked for us it can work for you.
Good Luck Cassie but i don't think you'll need it :) just go for it and trust your heart.

Answer 9

Don't pay attention to what other people say. Think about it logically: the people who were in your elementary school, do you even give a **** as to what they think of you now? NO, you shouldn't. Same goes with Jr. High, High School....but it usually takes removing yourself from that negative environment to realize it. That just won't do with every situation in life. You have to think about your situation NOW and realize that these people mean NOTHING to you and in the future WILL mean NOTHING to you. Live your life and be happy. Let the good people in, never cease to trust and have hope of finding lasting relationships of all types (friendships, romance) but if they're abusing you mentally and emotionally, don't involve them too intimately in your life.

Once you stop caring about the negative things others have to say (with the exception of constructive criticism from loved ones and trusted friends), you will be happy.

Answer 10

You have low self-esteem. You first need to love and accept who you are and consciously tell yourself that...... you are the best you. Making a mind shift is not that easy if you dont have the self-confidence to get you through the shift. No one can put you down unless you allow them to. Its a power play with yourself. If people dont bring out the best in you, dont bother with them. And never change who you are to please others. An its not a sin to do something that makes you feel better about yourself. Take back you power!!!!!

Answer 11

I feel like that to once. So I drop all my friend and school. Then i went and got a job, meet my first girlfriend at work, meet new friend and changed college. Everything work out great for me. Just forget the loser in your life and move on.