Yahoo’s American beauty just opened up a complex issue! All right, I have a question that has been pondering my mind for the past year. this is my story I got married at the age of twenty-three I was a virgin I was brought up not to believe in sex before marriage my future husband waited for me for eight months he jokes about it now and says it was like holding his breath under water. Well I still feel the same way (God forbid my husband passes away) but if I became a widow, I still would not have sex before marriage! I am forty-something, and I thought what man out there would want me. I was having this conversation with my sister the other day, and she said the same thing I would be alone for the rest of my life! because there is no man out there that would marry you until he had a sample. MY QUESTION IS TO ALL THE MEN AND WOMEN ON THIS BOARD can this be true? Would you turn your back on a woman that has moral beliefs would you look at her as a misfit? What are your thoughts? (Serious answers only) and how many women feel the same way as I do, but too afraid to stand firm on there beliefs.
2007-01-04 04:30:57 · 28 answers · asked by Ms Pollyanna 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I believe women have sealed there own fate by having sex before marriage. Men will argue this point, because they are living in the best of two worlds. They can have sex, make babies, and enjoy all the benefits of marriage, without making a commitment. On the other hand, women are often left burdened with children and heartaches, with nothing to show for it but a sore behind. When a man has used a woman, he has no remorse. In his mind, she should have been smarter.
Hence, the very thing women want is lost in their fear of waiting for marriage. If women don't give up sex, men threaten to leave. So, let them leave. A man who isn't willing to get to know you, start loving you, and then marry you, is not worth screwing. Women need to understand this.
Men claim they need to know what they're getting before marriage. Well, that one's been done to death and it hasn't put a dent in the divorce decrees, or the unwed pregnancies. A man will say anything to use a woman's body; and women need to know this. In short, if women want a better choice of men, better husbands and fathers, and a happier existence on Earth, women must be willing to wait.
2007-01-04 05:16:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well i was not virgin when I was forced to have sex with 18 year old girl when I was 9 year old boy... question Am I still Virgin??? Of course ever since I could remember until I met a girlfriend we had sex before married it happen and she only person that love me and I broken up with her and married other woman and not happy and had sex 4 differ women and then have my ex friend back to my life and guess what it been 9 years of marriages. 3 kids but you know if she died I will not be remarried or have sex with other women. I married to this woman because I love her so much.
It not true how men have a sample from a women??? It just happen and when you love someone so much and it happen... so I know my question sucks but that only way i can tell you now.
2007-01-04 04:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very interesting question and I lookforward to the responses. But this one is mine:
First, there are many sexual ways to please one another without sleeping together, it is only limited by you as to how much you are willing to do and how far you will go without breaking your ties with your beliefs. Some are more subtle and prolonged than others, some are far more intimate and sexual than you may be comfortable with. What I am saying is, I myself would NOT turn my back on a good, open woman should she want to wait, even if she has already been... "had" for lack of a better term. Foreplay could be used as a substitute. And if that is not possible then I guess I will just have to wait until she is ready. However, with or without any or all sexual gratifications, there must be a strong bond that keeps the relationship alive and going. There has to be something powerful and interesting that would have both persons not wanting to leave or lose it.
Jonesy
2007-01-04 04:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by Jonesy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The world is made up of so many people with so many different ideas on how they want or feel they should live their lives. It is about respecting those ideas even if we don't share them.
In answer to your question, yes, there might be some men that think that way. But then they would be pretty shallow wouldn't they? Relationships are more than just sex. The men who love women for who they are not what they can get are the ones worth having.
2007-01-04 04:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the exact same. I'm proud to be a virgin, and happy with my decision till the day I marry. It's kinda sad how it seems everything has gone sex crazed, and that's it. I'd rather have a great stable relationship with that person before I jump into bed. There's nothing wrong with some moral beliefs now and then. If that person can't wait for you, or respect your beliefs, then they're not right for you.
2007-01-04 04:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by cleopatra_kitty_13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I were both virgins when we got married. We were 21 when we tied the knot. It's been 3 wonderful years. Saving ourselves for marriage was worth it. It is something that we always be proud of ourselves for, and never regret. The world would be a nicer, happier, healthier place if everyone were that way. Besides, people aren't born great lover! Nor are all people amazing together at first! Sex is something we learn how to have. And you know, the more feelings that are behind the sex, the better it is. God said "no sex before marriage" for a reason. We should trust Him on such a big issue. I mean, He's the one who created sex in the first place. He didn't have to make it so good! But He did. So if He gives instructions on how, and who to have sex with, I would listen to Him! All of His laws are to help US in one way or another. Look at how people are now that more and more of them are not waiting till marriage to have sex. Un-wanted pregnancies, STD's. Etc. God gave us guidelines to prevent all of those kinds of things. NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE!
2007-01-04 04:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Snow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the thing is okay you say no sex till marriage right. Well if you want him to play with other things fine its not sex but the more you do that the more the temptation comes around for sex. Now boob action no i don't consider that sex.... I hope I helped out good luck :o)
2016-05-23 02:50:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that some men would respect you and some would want to have a sample before they bought the goods. Just like there are some women out there that believe you should wait for marriage and there are some that don't.
2007-01-04 04:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by AmyB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like women with your moral beliefs. You may be considered a misfit in the promiscuous society that we live in but diamonds are rare. So i would think that such women are like diamonds in the present society who have the self respect to stand up to what they think is right. I would never turn my back on a person with strong beliefs even if their beliefs are different from mine. We live in a free society and each one of us has the freedom to lead our lives the way we want as long as it does not infringe on others rights. This is the essence of tolerance. Remember tolerance is also a rare quality these days.
2007-01-04 04:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with what your sister said. There are men out there that feel the same way you do. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you get married to have sex. Now, Im not married nor am I virgin. I do have child but I have friends who are older than me(Im 28) and they are still virgins.
2007-01-04 04:43:14 · answer #10 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋