How does a criminal's mind work in taking advantage of and abusing women?

Question

A man can be charming and kind to women who can become attracted to them but then the guy becomes strange and start showing the darker side to others, making the women feel bad and like they are the ones with the problem. And, the guy could have a background where he has abused women. What drives a guy to act as he does towards women charmingly and the negatively? There are a lot of cases like it.

Answer 1

Lack of empathy.

Answer 2

OK, gonna jump in here with the male point of view. Such men are pimps - of a different nature - but their motivation and methods are much the same. They are truly emotionally immature and are incapable of establishing an honest relationship with women. They have an inferiority complex, yet view women as inferior. And they are dangerous, so women beware. If a guy is truly charming and draws all women (and men) to him, pay attention if he selects you as his date/mate/woman. If after some time together he still acts like he has to be Mr. Charming wherever you are, there might be some issues, especially if he treats you less nicely in private than in public. Women often still go for the guy, feeling they can change him, they can be the one to make the difference and turn him around. Here's a saying that fits very nicely: Women marry men, thinking they will change - but they don't. Men marry women feeling they won't change, but they do. That doesn't always fit, but it's very true in many aspects. And by God ladies, if a guy ever hits you, you should get out of that relationship yesterday! No adult has the right to hit anyone else, period.

Answer 3

Well, some of these men are psychopats, some were just born evil... and some may have become so because they were hurt. :) I know there are many cases, in most cases, such men are just evil and like doing bad things. It's true, women are often attracted to them, not only because they are charming, but women also sense there is something special about them.

After all, they really are special, even if it's in a bad way... All we can do is try to be careful and try not to lose our heads when we meet such men. In fact, the type of emotion that the presence of such a man gives us is intense but somehow negative, 'cause deep inside we may sense who he really is. :)

Such emotions are bad, no matter what kind of person we meet. Being careful never hurt anybody. So let's be careful. :)

Answer 4

i can only answer from two views, one personal, the other from working with inmates in the prison.
I was married to a good-looking charming, witty, seeminly intelligent, good natured, life of the party "good ole boy", when we were in public, he was one personality, as soon as we were home by ourselves, he was another. Mean, sullen, non talking, he would take off for days at a time, spent money(mine) like there was a bottomless bucket of it. When I confided in a friend, they just could not understand, cause he was best thing since slice bread! Men envied him, women loved him. We had a business, which I started, I had an inheritance that could afford me to do it, the business was a money maker too, but he never seemed happy...always looking for something or someone else. As I got to know him better I saw his "dark" side, and let me tell you, it was dark. The end was near, but I kept hanging in there for the kids, his and mine, we had a great farm, good business and all was well to the public. Then he beat me bad, I was unconscience(sp) for 2 weeks, had 2 brain surgeries, and from that point on I have developed seizures from brain injuries. I will be on medication for the rest of my life. As I was in the hospital, he took all of our money, bought his daughter a new car, cleaned my jewelry out, most of the livestock, farm equipment and left.
It took me 2 years to get a divorce from him....like I said it was a good ole boy town, small and everyone is kin to everyone. I finally got away from him by tricking him, got papers to prove he defrauded people for around 100000. dollars, he was different then. He is a repeat louse. He immediatley moved in with a barmaid in the bar we went to all the time, did her the very same way, left her and he has gone through several more since then.
They are charming like snakes in the grass, dangerous, but then there is just something about them that draws you too them, sure was not the sex...just his personality.
Life has gone on, he is on probation for DWI-7 go figure.
The inmates that were in our department at the prison would talk about bilking women, for love and money. They are insecure, yet cunning, they just live off women. When one gets wise, they have another lined up...they tell them a good sob story...booo hooo....One thing to pay attention to in a relationship or at the beginning of dating someone, pay attention to the way they treat small kids, small animals, listen to things they say, he used to say everytime an ambulance went buy, there goes the meat wagon...that was gross, but he has no concern for human life. The only thing he hates about our break up, is that I did not die and leave him all the money and other stuff....fooled him, I am like a timex, take a beating and keep on ticking! Just beware and have a criminal background ran on them.
Oh, another thing he did, when I first moved to his town I did not know anyone, so he kept me away from all the old people that really knew him, he just let me go around his new good time friends....but then he screwed them over too....

Answer 5

If we knew the answer to this, our jails wouldn't be so full. Sad thing is - there is always some scum out there looking to take advantage of others. No moral fibre, no compassion.

Answer 6

It's all about his childhood and how he was brought up.

Answer 7

You would have to ask his mom...