my significant other and i have 6 years together. we have 4 kids and we love each other to death, but lately we have had some serious arguments, more than ever. we both know that we are the one we want to spend the rest of our lives with but yet we have these fights. i need to know some signs of when a man or women is falling out of love. i love him so much we laugh and talk for hours on end sometimes and it has been like that from day one. but other times we just dont agree on things and we fight. he is an awesome dad to our children and he would never leave them. what could be the problem? are we loosing our love or are we just stressed out and can we find ways to solve our issues together?
2007-01-04 04:03:13 · 18 answers · asked by A Proud Marine's Daughter 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like the stress of raising 4 children and maintaining a household has caught up with you. This happens to everyone.
You're not falling out of love with eachother, you just need to make time for eachother.....you need to have some grown up time together away from the house.
Good luck and best wishes!
2007-01-04 04:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still talking and laughing, that's great. It could all be related to stress. We have just exited the holiday season and that puts alot of stress on everything. People put bills on hold for Christmas and when that happens they get backed up and it is very overwhelming. Think about what the arguments are about. This will give you an idea of whats happening. Are you making love, or is it sex, get it done and over with. How is he acting towards you when you make love? These are all things to think about. What ever you do, don't jump to conclusions without first thinking about what you are arguing about. Anything can be worked out with open communication. Sit down and talk to you husband, preferably when there are no children around. Believe me, that's hard. I also have 4 children. But if you both want to make it work, you will. It's real easy to give up and call it quits, but a marriage worth saving is worth more than anyone could possibly imagine. I have been with my husband for almost 17 years. We have had some terrible problems, but even though they were/are issues that most couples would divorce over, we still believe it is worth saving. God bless you and good luck.
2007-01-04 04:32:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there can be a lot of things that put strain on a relationship like yours like financial, communication, etc. but the fact is that people that LOVE each other fight. Not because they want to but because they care and think that they can say anything and the other person will not leave them. Which is true in this case. Maybe the arguments could be toned down and become discussions but make sure that while you are growing as parents you are also growing together.
2007-01-04 04:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Big Mak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's stress .Just went through the same thing have some alone time make a date and go out and relax I know it's hard with kids trust me .Find a babysitter and go on a date and talk about old times or the first kiss you guys had you know bring up old memories make this a weekly thing like every sat. or mon. is date night some times when you parents it all about the kids and you forget about your relationship.I am a sahm and I am all about my kids and I put myself and my relationship last and you just can't .Or even if the kids when the kids go to bed that is your time together. I find that it is easier to find a babysitter to come over after i have the kids in bed.Good luck and you do have a good relationship cause you are able to talk to one another .
2007-01-04 04:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by shorty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you talk for hours and get along great why can't you also talk about the issues that bother you and the ones over which you disagree? Is this such a hard thing to do? You have to communicate to get along and to understand each other otherwise your marriage is headed for the rocks. I don't think from what you have said that your marrige is in trouble but you do need to stop the fighting and find solutions to your problems and if you can't do this on your own then maybe you need to consider marriage counseling.
2007-01-04 04:10:05 · answer #5 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The signs that someone is falling out of love, could be anything negative. You can make up all kinds of things in your mind, if you concentrate on the bad things. So, you two don't agree, no two people will agree on everything all of the time. The fact that you even argue about something, means that you really care. I would be more wary, if the other just gave up.
2007-01-04 04:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like just a normal marriage..you go through times that you are close ,then it levels off and then its back on again.No marriage is perfect,it goes through phases,like anything else..There is no such thing as constant harmony in any marriage..Soundslike you two are in Love...Wait until you get teenagers and then you will have a whole new set of problems,but i can assure you your marriage is not on the rocks.all thes people that say they never argue is lying..ive been married for years.there will be times when the sex cools off,the marriage cools down and it seems like its headed for divorce court ,then things get better ,,,Its so easy noe days to just run get a divorce and marriage is taken much to light,that instead of sticking around until things get better they run to divorce ourt....Maybe you are not married,i don,t know but I do know marriageand its the same thing,good sometimes and bad other times....Just make up your mind as you already have to stay through thick and thin,and all will be fine.
2007-01-04 04:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this happens to the best of us most of the time. I don't think it is anything to worry about I think that just lately you have just been in a bit of a hump in the road that's all. Your just not agreeing on things right now but talk them over let him know how your feeling and things will brighten up.
2007-01-04 04:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to everything you are saying. What you need is time for each other....away from your children and responsibilities. Try to arrange for a sitter and set up a date where you both can get away alone together. You'd be surprised at how much you'll regain in your relationship.
2007-01-04 04:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All relationships hit a rough spot and it's then that things can go either way.
If you two can't figure out how to get past this a good idea would be to seek some couples counseling.
2007-01-04 04:18:44 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋