my man of 7 years no children cheated on me and man a set of twins and another woman got pregnant and now this child is like 3mos old and i forgave him and im still with him but i hurt so much the baby is starting to come over and its hard for me and the thing is i love children and want one of my own. please serious reponses only
2007-01-04 03:52:36 · 54 answers · asked by bebe06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
For the same reasons that women cheat.
2007-01-04 03:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why do women cheat? The reasons are pretty equivalent. Excitement. Lust. Immaturity. Wanting to get out of an unwanted relationship. It is all the same.
I'm sorry you are going through this. It must be very difficult. You are probably asking the wrong question. A better question is this: why are you asking? Odds are it is because you do not trust him and worry it will happen again. If there is no trust in your relationship, then maybe it is time to move on to someone who will treat you right. If you feel you cannot leave, then consult a therapist who will help you understand why you put up with being treated poorly. Good luck!
2007-01-04 03:59:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those that do this are usually self centered and care only for their selves or are unhappy with the marriage . If you've done nothing wrong he's lucky you haven't dumped him already though you have every right too and perhaps should still consider doing that since your face is being rubbed in the dirt by him producing another kid outside your marriage. He's shown you a great disrespect . Now would be the time to dump him before you have any kids with this man . You shouldn't sell yourself short there are better and more respectable men available.
2007-01-04 04:01:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no children with this man, I would seriously advise you to divorce him. Not only was he cheating, but he didn't even care enough to use protection. He has hurt you in the worst way possible, and there is simply no excuse for his behavior. Let this man go and build a new life for yourself. He's done enough damage.
There is a man out there who will love you with all of his heart. Don't miss the opportunity by staying with this monster. Best wishes!
2007-01-04 04:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human beings haven't changed in thousands of years with the possible exception of our technologies. Men have had and always will have the drive to spread our seed. That is part of the reason we have been so successful a species. It is only the religious concept of monogamy that has caused most of the problems, some outdated christian moral code that suggests that men and women must be faithful as though that should be our true nature. It is not.
I am not attempting to pass any judgments, or make any statements in defense of his or your actions. But you must understand, we, all of us have the same kinds of problems. You have now two courses of action. On the one hand you can stay and try to resolve the situation within your mind to make peace with it. Or on the other hand you can leave and resolve the problem in that way. Both ways have their advantages and disadvantages, but either way you will have made your decision and gotten past that part of it. It is usually the decision to be made that is the hardest. The outcome is usually easier that the decision.
2007-01-04 04:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tom H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters your with a guy that cheats. If you decide to that(it's been more than once) you're only hurting yourself. As far as why do men cheat- rephrase- why do people cheat. If you want a child of your own you may want to find a father that will concentrate on what he has at home, a cheating spouse will only bring upset to a family.
2007-01-04 04:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by annette_642 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that same situation. It is hard, but answer to your question is they think it is okay. They say they love us and want to be with us, but in their mind its "i don't know what I want but just in case i am going to stay with you and browse at the same time." My ex fiance did that to me and got 2 girls pregnant 1 baby came around and i ws hurt it was a weekly reminder what my ex did. I know you love him but ask yourself ' does he honestly love you?" maybe he does but Why would they stray? My guy Friend said usually a guy will cheat b/c we do something wrong. That's a lie ! I did everything from laying out clothes, breakfast in bed make lunch, dinner, started his truck when it was 10 degrees out side i was there emotionally and physically for him. so that's a wrong answer. some guys just think it will be okay. I left him after 4 years, scared i didn't want to start over and as much as i loved him i deserved better. now i am married no kids yet , happy and i trust him. ( he has no kids yet either ) he is 30 how hard is that to find. good luck, no matter what just make yourself happy.
2007-01-04 04:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sweetheart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married 35 years male. Remember even women due. First answer for men and women, weakness part of a human trait. Me and my wife have been threw allot but love is to me more important than a mistake work on forgiving for Love and let the past be in the past because you're always moving forward.
2007-01-04 04:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by Jack lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see this question posted everyday. Men and women cheat because they are selfish and have no respect for themselves, their spouses or the the marriage vows that they took. Now, you said that you forgave him for cheating right? Well, he has a child with this woman now and as a father he is obligated to care for that child and spend time with him. You are still very angry with him which you have every right to be. He betrayed your trust. You need to talk to him about this.
2007-01-04 04:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple, you are making it possible for him to cheat on you. You give him the opportunity and you stay with him even if the does stray so why shouldn't he do it again. Why! You deserve someone better than that. You deserve someone who will want to have your babies and lay with you. Move on! I think people cheat because they get board with their significant other. Sad thing is it only gets better with time and love. If they cheat they are not only cheating their partner but themselves as well, of a true loving relationship. Cause if it were me being cheated on I would kick his sorry *** to the curb with stilettos on !!!!!!!
2007-01-04 04:23:07 · answer #10 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm so sorry that happened to you. My advice is to leave him. Cut all ties you have with this man and find a new man, that will be faithful, to have babies with. You deserve better.
P.S. To all the above posters. Men and Women do not cheat for the same reasons. Men tend to cheat because their sexual needs are not being met. Women tend to cheat because their emotional needs are not being met. But, either way, people cheat because their current partner isn't fulfilling their needs. This is why communication is soooooo important.
2007-01-04 03:56:23 · answer #11 · answered by cutie22 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋