Is there any textbook way to do it without being an a**hole? When women want more form you than you want from them....it's the crying and the pouting..... gets me everytime.
2007-01-04 03:47:52 · 17 answers · asked by j.bertie 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Tsk. You need to start getting over your weakness to the crying thing. Any time I see a woman crying, I just roll my eyes and wonder what drama she's trying to create now. Remember this (it will help): women's tears are often crocodile tears. That is, they are NOT always genuine tears. They know men are weak against them, and they will use it to guilt you into seeing things their way.
By the way, I'm happy to see a few women admitting they do this. I don't really hold it against them, either. Seems like a pretty effective weapon against a guy who doesn't know better.
2007-01-04 04:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, that gets almost every guy everytime. Hence why females do that. If a girl really likes you and wants to be with you then there is no way of letting her down without hurting her feelings, sorry. You just need to make sure that if you say one thing (ie "I'm not looking for a relationship right now") you don't go out and do the opposite (start seeing someone else). That is what hurts and that's what makes you an a**hole.
Just be genuine to the girl and hope for the best. You just need to try your hardest to not look at that pouty face and ignore the crying. It's usually just a ploy to get you anyway!
2007-01-04 03:57:04 · answer #2 · answered by afichick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are doing yourself and these ladies a disservice by not saying what you mean, when you mean it. If you back down, it will only give these ladies the idea that men can be worked on. You need to say no, and mean it, that way you are allowing these ladies to find the meaningfull relationships that they want with another man, rather then stringing them along just because you dont like to see crying or pouting. You will feel better about yourself in the long run if you are open and honest about your standards in a relationship.
2007-01-04 10:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
More than likely their feelings are going to be hurt anyway. You DO however want deal them the softest blow possible. Anytime you're rejecting someon you have to build their self esteem. Rejection is a hard shot to the ego for anyone. Build the individual up. Tell her about herself. Share with her the great qualities she DOES have. Let her know the things your looking for are just different and not that she's inadequate. You want her to leave understanding the position you're taking but also understanding that it's not Her it's you....Dig it?
2007-01-04 04:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you say no I do not have the same feelings as you do. Be straight with them. Don't beat around the bush and don't mislead them on or even indicate any thing that would give them such an idea.
I had a guy friend whom I had a crush on once tell me I like you as a friend and yes he did like me as a friend. He also respected my feelings to let me down easy with out rejecting me as a person.
He taught me how to be that way with other males that I didn't feel attracted to and in turn it helped me to be more sensitive towards others.
2007-01-07 18:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Genny G, we girls are Drama Queens, and if you boys dont give us what we want we jus think a little less bad of you,.. but to aviod that problem if its happenin when a girl asks you for somthin..n u no u dont want to, dont jus say no. try to smooth them in and tell them why if they wont listen jus give the girl some time and let her cool down by her self n later on the day come back to her and say sorry and maybe get her some flowers.
2007-01-04 04:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't let the waterworks get to you, it is a defense that I wish more women would use a lot less. Just say no and keep it moving.
2007-01-07 21:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with this " In order to honor our relationship I need to tell you the truth "...... this will definitely soften the blow of any "bad" news a person needs to deliver.(relationship being friendship, family, friend etc)
I use it and it works just fine not on girls of course but with all people.
2007-01-04 07:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by serenitykay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always say u will call them to talk about it but then never call, women realy dig that kind of stuff.
2007-01-04 06:16:17 · answer #9 · answered by pie-jur-wot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other answerers hit it. I would rather be told up front "no" than be in a relationship because you felt sorry for me.
2007-01-04 04:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by coutterhill 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋