Hi there, I was pregnant last year and gave birth on the 18th of Nov and 2 days later lost my baby.?

Question

I never went for counciling cause i think i'm fine. I cried a lot about it but now im ok. Do u think I should still go for counciling?

Answer 1

My thoughts go out to you. Now, do you mean last year as in 2006? Or last year as in 2005? If it is 2006, I would say that it is a bit too early to make assumptions on whether or not you need counciling. Sometimes the full impact doesn't hit until later. If the counciling is free, I would suggest going to one or two sessions, see how you feel about it. Play it by ear, and dig deep to see if youTRULY are dealing with it. Only you can know for sure. I lost my son when he was 9 months old to SIDS, so I speak from experience. I would say that I was "dealing" with it for a year for sure, and then after that began to be "ok" with allt hat had happened.

Answer 2

I had a stillbirth and 2 years later had a miscarriage. I was overwhelmed with grief. Counseling is ultimately up to you. Nobody can tell you how to feel, you have to make the decision to continue your life. You do still have a life and I'm sure you have many people that love/care about you and your well-being.
For some people, it helps to be around others with similar experiences to know you're not alone.
The sun will continue to rise every day and there is hope. Another baby will not replace the one you lost by any means, and you'll always think of him/her. I now have a beautiful 6 year old boy.
If your greif is interfering with your daily life, I would consider counseling. You didn't mention the father of the baby, but it's possible he's greiving, too. He lost the same child you did remember. Consider counseling together.
Good luck.

Answer 3

First off, I am very sorry for your lose. I am sure your baby is with the Lord. Counseling is there if needed. BUT that doesn't mean you need it. If you are dealing with it in your own way then you should be fine. I lost my brother when he was only 49 years old. Very sudden and unexpected. Yes it bothered and bothers me. BUT I also deal with it. And believe it or not I once had to sit with a deceased baby and the whole time I sat there the baby had a knife sticking out if his chest. I was NOT allowed to remove the knife. To this day that bothers me MORE than anything else in my lifetime. I have done many things as well as been many places over the world. BUT this, by far bothers me more than anything else. This was like 12 - 13 years ago. Will I ever get over it, most likely not. BUT Everyone is different and can sometimes deal with things in their own way.
I wish you the very best for this coming year. I will say a prayer or two for your baby, may God Bless you and yours.

Answer 4

If your okay with it then I don't htink you need to go to counseling at all.Yea it was tramatic but I had almost the same problem. It was the day of my due date and the baby wasnt moving and she hadn't droped and I went to the doctor to see how she was doing. They couldn't find a heart beat. They did an ultrasound and the baby wasn't moving. They induced me so that I could have her the day that I did the cord was wrapped around her neck so bad that she stopped breathing and died. It was hard because that was my first born and I so looked forward to being a mom. I was a wreck for about 2 months and I never went to counceling. I am fine now. I have a healthy baby boy that just turned a year and I am pregnant again. I am okay with it. It just wasn't ment to be. IF YOU ARE OKAY THEN YOU ARE OKAY IT IS HARD BUT YOU DON'T NEED COUNCELING TO MAKE YOU BETTER YOU NEED TIME AND FAMILY THAT IS ALL.

Answer 5

I am terribly sorry for your loss. You are the only one that can decide if you really need counciling. If this does not interfere with your normal everyday life, I wouldn't think you would "need" it. If it does, I would recommend you get therapy. There will always be that grief, that is understandable. Talk to your family or spouse about it....see what they think. It is really hard to tell someone about such an important thing with just a question. These people know you better and can tell more about how it has affected you.

Good luck with whatever you decide dear!

Answer 6

My sincere sympathies to you are theloss of your baby. I don't imagine there is anything more difficult to cope with. You may find comfort in joining a parents group who have also lost children. Many people cannot understand that even though your child lived so briefly you loved the baby. During your pregnancy you were also bonding with your baby and planning a future together. Please seek comfort and support in a parents grief support group where you will be able to feel free to openly express your feelings with people who will truly understand what you are going through.You do not have to go through this difficult time alone. My prayers are with you.

Answer 7

Oh my God, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I couldn't imagine what you went through......if in your heart of hearts, you feel that you've grieved and are able to deal with the situation, I don't see why you would need counseling. However, if you think that you still have a way to go before you can move on, it may be a good idea. Try out one session to see how it goes and work your way from there.

Answer 8

Yes you should. Although it may seem ok you never know when you are repressing something that is really bothering you. I would atleast go to one or two counceling sessions and see how you feel about it- it can't hurt. If you really don't want to talk to someone about the situation, maybe you can try writing a journal entirely about your experience. Write about the good, the bad, everything! It really helps to get it all out. I really find writing things down helps me to realize how I really feel about something. I'm sorry for your loss and I wish you the best for your future.

Answer 9

First of all, let me say how sorry I am for your loss.

Until fairly recently counseling and therapy was not something the average person even considered. All of this therapy craze didn't start until the last 25 years or so.

I am not saying that therapy is good or bad, just that the average person, since the beginning of time survived without it.

If you have the support of friends and/or family, and feel that you can move on without counseling, more power to you!


M

Answer 10

Yes I think you should you need to deal with your loss. I had 3 miscarriages and I know how it hurt me on the inside, its probably nothing like you feel. You still need to talk about it even though you may think that you are ok, its still always going to be there, it may be ok for the moment, but later on it will really hurt if you don't go ahead and confront your pain. Best of luck.