ok when you first meet your husbend or wife. did you know right awy that they where the one or what
2007-01-04 03:32:40 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That thing about "knowing immediately" has proved to be so wrong, so often, that it is a wonder to me some people still go on using it as some kind of a guide. When some successful couples have claimed that they "felt right away" that this was "the one", it just means they happen to have fallen into the category of those who, by the very law of averages discovered that their earliest feelings went on to be proven accurate - and definitely not because that "first feeling" is an actual working, reliable guide.
The first time I ever laid eyes on my husband, he looked like a railroad bum. Oi, what a mess he looked! Last person in the world I would ever have dreamed I'd later fall in love with and marry. It was a while later that I saw some little tell-tale signs that he might, in fact, be the kind of man who would make a pretty darn good life partner, Just goes to show, first impressions - be they positive or negative - are more often than not, not the most reliable guide to who that person truly is. If your first impression is favorable, it is going to be favorable still a little bit on down the road when you have been able to see it verified in different ways. But to commit yourself too quickly based on that "right away feeling" is courting potential disaster.
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2007-01-04 03:54:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married several times. Each time I thought I was in love at first sight. All marriages failed except the latest. I knew within a year that it was not going to work. So, how do you know your really in love? My answer....... When you as an individual have a problem... work, kids, parents, etc.... doesnt matter. The only person you want to discuss this with is your spouse and you cant get to him soon enough. You dont run or hide... You dont water down the information. Why? Because you love each other unconditionally. You find peace within yourself after sharing whether you like their answer or not.
2007-01-04 11:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by seevers1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew I was going to marry my husband when I opened my door. We had been talking online (it's really hard to meet a genuine guy in the military) He was only stationed 40 minutes from where I was stationed, so we agreed to meet. I was 8 months pregnant when we met, but he didn't look at me like I was defective. We just talked all night. He ended up coming over every night that week, and we just talked. Then on Friday night, I let him sleep over (on the couch) and made him breakfast in the morning. I guess he knew he had to spend his life with me too, because he told me he was going to marry me (some proposal right?!?!:-) ) We have been married for 2 years now. We have 2 kids, and are happy. Don't get me wrong, we have disagreements, but what married couple doesn't. When you know- you know. Trust your heart!!!
2007-01-04 11:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by baby_girl_8881 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I meet my husband. In fact, I didn't really like him at first. As time went on and I got to know him much better I realized we had a lot in common. We lived together for 3 years before we did get married. I figured it was cheaper to move than to file for a divorce. We have been married for almost 19 years.
2007-01-04 11:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Chillin-it 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. We met when I was 15 and he was 13 years old. We did have a crush on each other for about 9 or 10 years before we started dating. Now we are married.
2007-01-04 12:07:40 · answer #5 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew within a couple of weeks of meeting my husband that I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life. It just felt right from the start and I had never felt like that with anyone else, so I knew I had to marry him!
2007-01-04 11:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Brian and Kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew by the end of the first date, that I had found my future husband. By the end of the thrid month he agreed.
Started dating Dec.26, 99
Married on April 20, 00
2007-01-04 11:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't know for sure because she had been seeing someone else when we first dated, but when I knew it was OK, it didn't take very long after that to know she was "the one". After 20 years of marriage she is still "the one".
2007-01-04 11:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I first met him, I knew there was something really special about him, I didn't realize he was the love of my life until a little while later.
However, with that said, just because you love someone above all others, doesn't mean you can live with them.
2007-01-04 11:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by AmyB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I met my husband, I knew pretty early on that he was "the one". It wasn't on the first date, but it was within the first three dates. We were engaged within 11 months and married seven months after that.
I was married once before, and dated my ex-husband for three years before we got engaged, and another year before we got married. It took me three years to think that he was "the one" and it turns out, I was wrong!
2007-01-04 11:38:02 · answer #10 · answered by kerry77 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋