We were really good friends and ended up hooking up .......... We were so happy but i had insecurity issues,,she put up with my insecurity so much and all along she was doing nothing behind my back now i feel stupid because i found out she had been real with me, i broke up with her, made her cry and fell so bad, and now doesnt want to get back together but she still wants me around
but i she stilll says she love me Is is possible?? Posible that we can still get back together??
2007-01-04 03:29:31 · 20 answers · asked by chipp 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Prove yourself
2007-01-04 03:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by ginny3282 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were friends before you hooked up, and as a friend she still probably wants you around.
You have to show her you no longer feel insecure about her, and that you have resolved this issue.
I think that anything is possible you may have to do a bit more growing up yet but I wouldn't give up on the whole thing if I were you I would try to remain friends they are so hard to come by, the real ones I mean. Luck
2007-01-04 11:36:17 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to work on you before getting involved again. You have issues that need dealing with and probably are best dealt with not being in a relationship. Since you ave demonstrated you are unstable and emotionally needy IN a relationship, I would suggest taking care of yourself right now, get some counseling, get help and then try to rekindle your relationship with your newfound understanding of self. I would ask your former love interest to be a friend to your during this time and ask her to be patience and understanding while you do this on your own. No, she doesn't need to hold your hand, she doesn't need to promise you she won't fall in love with someone else, just to be your friend and see if you can work through this. After all, this is your problem and you have hurt her with it. I wouldn't expect her to continue to be the walking wounded for you, its unrealistic and unfair. Deal with your issues and then see it there is an opportunity to start fresh with her. If so lucky you, if not, you will have new found info to help you make a new relationship with someone else. Good luck my dear!
2007-01-04 11:43:57 · answer #3 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, you've got alot to prove. You've deeply hurt her. And nothing hurts worse for a woman than to be accused of wrong doing when all you do is try to be the best partner and man could have. Its a form of verbal and emotional abuse which does more damage than any type of physical abuse. Simply because it almost doesn't seem real and its not something you can see...but the pain and damage ARE REAL. Take baby steps....be her friend. And maybe, just maybe she'll see that you've changed. But remember, even the slightest apprehension on your part will set her reeling backwards. And your behavior and mistrust will eventually cause her pain to become contempt and disgust toward you.
2007-01-04 11:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave things the way she wants them , you are in no position to give orders. let her take her time and you should be glad she even wants you around, i say try and show her instead of telling her send her flowers and let her decide what she wants and what ever it is you should respect. and hope for the best and what can you do or say that will let her see that you have changed. and that you will never be like that again you sound like you have control issues and low self esteem most people who accuse is because on or two things your cheating and covering up or your just plain insecure and when your insecure rest assure your relationships will always end in disaster.
2007-01-04 11:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine spent 2 years being friends with a woman before, he had a chance at hooking up with her....If he could wait for 2 years and stand the pain of just being friends, you can to....by the way they are married now and expecting their first child real soon, so patients could very well pay off....but she better be worth it, because lets face it 2 years is a real long time
2007-01-04 11:35:15 · answer #6 · answered by smm18951 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you recognize where you f'd up! However, insecurity isn't something that you can wipe off like dandruff on your shoulder. She does want you back or else you wouldn't be around, but right now she likes it better with you just being there without the negetivity of your accusations. I don't know what you SHOULD do, but I'll tell you what not to do. DON'T hook up with any other ladies and DON'T act nonchalantly about wanting her back. Be sure that everyone who knows the two of you knows you f'd up & that you're sorry!
2007-01-04 11:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think u can easily fix this, by changing the way u think, and changing your actions. she loves u but wants to avoid the pain u caused her due to your immature and insecure ways. go to her, agree to whatever she needs to forgive u, forget your ego at home. forget childish ways, if u love her u are going to have to grow up, and start trusting her. some of your trust issues may come from your own childhood or your past relationships. but she is a different person, and should not have to suffer due to thoughts in your head. paranoia will destroy ya
2007-01-04 11:37:27 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think that it would be very posible
2007-01-04 12:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is possible. if u 2 really love each other and it is meant to b, then she will come back. just give it time.
2007-01-04 11:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by booshnack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋