I often give other people's kids rides to activities...particularly church activities. And as I don't mind listening to their music...i do mind when they are wearing headphones and I don't know what they are listening to. I feel it is my responisbility as an adult and parent to not let them listen to music that is inappropriate for their age.
And, not to mention that when the headphones go on, they separate themselves from the rest of the group.
I feel like it is important to help guide your children and their friends to make good decisions, and to do that you need to have communication.
Has anyone else encountered this and what ways do you resolve this? Have you heard of any studies that are focused on this issue?
2007-01-04 03:25:26 · 14 answers · asked by daisy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I just thought it would be nice to be a good model for all children and have some standards...the children that I have in my vehicle AND their parents see me as a sponsor or a teacher at the church functions that I am transporting them to.
The age of kids I am typically transporting are around the age of 12...and wouldn't probably see this as an issue if they were over 15 as I do agree that would be a little overboard.
I do agree with all of you that has stated that it's my vehicle and I should be able to have any rules that deemed necessary. It is not my business what they do outside of my vehicle, but it is my business what happens inside...i would not tolerate abusive behavior or vulgar language...Just because they are someone elses child doesn't mean I can lose control of my own vehicle.
THE REAL ISSUE:
How do I promote nurturing relationships in my vehicle, by limiting: seclusion by headphones and talk about how raunchy their song that they are listening to??
2007-01-04 05:50:37 · update #1
No, I have not. If you do not like it though I would tell my children's friends that when in your car they are not allowed to wear their headphones, and if they do not respect your rules they will have to find another ride. If they want to listen to their music, and if all are agreeable to it then play it in your car, and if everyone does not find it agreeable tell them they will have to wait till they are out of your car. If any parents call you about this I would tell them it is a rule all children must follow in your car, and if it makes them uncomfortable they can find other transportation for their children. It is your car and your rules should be followed, if someone don't like it let them find another ride. All children in my care follow all my rules, and if any are a problem, they are told not to come over then. I do not play preferencial treatment with any children, and all my friends are the same way.
2007-01-04 03:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound rude, but if they are not your children, its really none of your business what they listen to. Parents make the decision of what their children can and can not listen to. For all you know the children that your talking about are aloud to listen to music that you would not allow your kids to listen to. The only thing you can do is make a no headphone rule for everyone in yor car.
2007-01-04 12:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by angel01182 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is the same as yours. It is your car. I would simply say if you want to listen to music why dont we all listen to it. Another way to put it is I enjoy talking with you and would like to talk about how your day was. Or simply state you prefer them not to use the headphones in your car. I understand why you are concerned about what they are listening to. Today the lyrics have a lot of vulgarity and sexual content. I wish musicians would think about this and be better role models to our youth. They look up to them. I know that is what it is to have freedom of speech, I just wish people would be more responsible with the music they make. Especially for youth. You are smart for watching what your youth are listening to and I applaud you.
2007-01-04 12:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by janine b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can say no headphones and the like in your car. But you can't really tell other people children what to listen to. Especially if thier parents don't mind it.
2007-01-04 11:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by his wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I let the kids parents decide what they can listen too when they allow the child to have the music. You can of course decide what your own children can listen too. You also can say no ipod or personal listening devices in your vehicle.
2007-01-04 11:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Then tell them no headphones in your vehicle. Its your car. As a driver and not a parent, you really don't have the right to screen their tunes. But if you want, I think you do have the right to have them not use headphones in the car.
2007-01-04 11:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Velken 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To be honest I think that is their parents responsiblitly, whilst you are trying to set a good example try not to be too harsh - try putting good music on in the car so they don't need to listen to thiers.
2007-01-04 14:11:19 · answer #7 · answered by faithnack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont really think its a big problem...... if they get bored let them listen to there music, but when this happens most of the time w/ me a talk the 1st part, but when convo gets dry i listen, or if it is really short i dont even bother w/ music. i feel it is not ur resoncibility and it is out of ur hands if it is not ur child. sry. but most of the music is OK.....dependes on the age.
2007-01-04 11:45:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a teen, I believe its not your responsibility to be screening their music, thats their parents job. But you can say that you would like them not to use them in your car. Your the driver.
2007-01-04 11:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by REA 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really is't any of your business what another child listens to because if they r not yours then don't worry about it. They have on headphones so what is the deal
2007-01-04 15:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by Brand.New 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋