My husband had an affair. My revenge on him is divorce. I want to have my revenge with her. She knew he was married and had a family, hell, she had even met his whole family prior to the affair at an office xmas party, the xmas of 05. She met his whole family at xmas time of 05 and slept with him from april 06-august 06. I know most of you will say this is childish and its best to let it go, and deep down i know that, but what gives her the right to put me through all this pain and suffering and she walks away. I'm not looking for violence, i have two kids and dont feel like having a battery charge against me. I'm looking for a slick smart way to make her pay for what she did to my family. My hubby and her are both in the army, and adultery is against the law in the military, but if i burn her that route, it will bring my husband down, too, and i need child support. I know this is stupid, but i just want to do it, any ideas???
2007-01-04 03:24:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Consider this: If you take any sort of revenge against her, how do you know she won't report your husband to his commander for violating the UCMJ and committing adultery just to get YOU back? If he gets a dishonorable discharge, there goes not only the child support, but the free medical care for your kids. And then if he's not working, you will have to provide medical insurance for your kids. You've been living as a military dependent. Do you have any idea how ridiculously expensive health care is? She's not worth risking your kids' security and health care.
You're angry and hurt so you want to lash out, and that's normal. But if you do, eventually you'll only feel worse. Besides, I'd bet anything she's a little paranoid, wondering if you actually are going to do anything to her, particularly because she's in the military. Let her wonder. She'll probably make herself more miserable worrying about it than over anything you could do to her.
I hope things get better for you. Good luck.
2007-01-04 03:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, this is a difficult time for you and honestly, taking revenge on her is pointless and stupid and brings you down to her level. If you truely wanted to punish her, I would let her have him, after all, once a cheater, always a cheater. She would get to feel your pain soon enough, as he would/will cheat on her. Why be mad at her? Your husband KNEW he was married when he met her, he knew he was married when his family met her, and he knew he was married when he had his affair with her. Punishing him be divorcing him? Well, I would think of staying married, if I had two children, because as best I can see, they are truely the ones being punished here. And my dear, one should always leave the punishing of ones spouse and other infidels to God almighty, as thats what He says. Also, my very best advice for revenge on ANYONE is to recover quickly, live well, I mean really well, if one cheats on you, get another one who has more money, is more handsome, better job, more loyal whatever, just upgrade. Also, making yourself more attractive, new do, lose some weight more schooling so you can attract a better mate doesn't hurt and you look great while dragging them through court so they can truely appreciate what they have lost, just say no to every invitiation, every offer to have sex, lunch, dinner and so on. I believe the best revenge is to live well, go on with your life like they were dirt on your heels and just as easily scraped off. Ya know what I mean? Good luck my dear!
2007-01-04 03:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by Tippy's Mom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am personally all about revenge. It is bad, yeah, but sometimes it is SWEET. Right now, lay low or they will KNOW it was you because it's way too soon to act out. But one night a few months from now, wait until the party gets really loud, then call the cops ANNONYMOUSLY and say they are not only disturbing the peace, but you heard gunshots/shouting/fighting. They have to further investigate. SHould there be any gun/drugs/violations....jail time! P.S. You are really planning to take in all the neighborhood cats and get them shots?! Not your job. Take this one to court and you can win. Those cats are not your responsibility and just the two you own are.
2016-03-14 01:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By no means am I recommending this lifestyle but I know of one woman that got revenge on a cheating spouse with a military career by refusing a divorce and threatening to expose his adultery to his military commander if the affair continues. The justification here is she and the kids don't loose their lifestyle (child support does not pay that well), and the husband does NOT get to run back into the arms of his mistress. This way she'll always be just the dirty mistress and the husband will have to live with the fact that some friends and family will always know he is a low life cheater. Good luck to you on whatever path you decide to go.
2007-01-04 09:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you 100% sure you want a divorce? Are you asking for the divorce because your husband is not 100% sorry for what he did to you and your children? If he is completely sorry of his horrific mistake and you find it possible to find a way to forgive him, the best revenge my friend is making your marriage work. This will quite possibly work for you because your children will have a complete family, you will have your husband and the other woman will not. I know this because I was the "other woman" and this most assuredly was the best revenge and she didn't even know there was "another woman" in the picture. You deserve to be really pissed off and think of ways to hurt both of them but in the end the most important thing is what your children will go thru. Best of luck
2007-01-04 05:11:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The sweet revenge for her is that she got him. He is a cheater, lier, and an adulter. And so is she. Do you not know that they will one day cheat on each other. the best thing for you to do is stop thinking about them. Join groups of good people that are trying to do the right thing. You will meet someone new who is faithful to you. I would suggest a Christian group.
2007-01-04 03:48:37 · answer #6 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right it is stupid and it is not worth the energy. Try just dropping it and make a better life for yourself would be more productive use of your time. You are the classic women with baggage and the sooner you realized that the faster you will be able to get a better life.
2007-01-04 04:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Letting her have your cheating husband seems like the best revenge you can get on her!!! Let her be next!
2007-01-04 03:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would picket her house with a huge "WARNING: home wrecker" sign, or something like that. You might only get to do it once, before you're given a warning to leave the street, but someone will see it. If you're on post, that's even better....lol.
2007-01-04 03:47:22 · answer #9 · answered by salemgirl1972 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
This will just aggravate her but it is fun:
If you have her email addy you can go online and subscribe her to all the lesbian porn sites you can find. Some of them even have "daily updates" that will fill up her mailbox with smut. You could go further and do bestiality, old men, anything you can think of is out there. yes, it is childish and immature, but sometimes we just need to get even.
2007-01-04 03:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋