My ex wife is married to an abusing man?

Question

he has been arrested twice now for domestic, he has beat her up in front of my two kids 10,14, is there a legal way for me to get an order of protection if she doesnt, what can I do? my kids are seeing way to much verbal and physical abuse any suggestions are greatly appreciated

Answer 1

Hell with her. What do you care about her being stupid enough be stay with an abusive husband? You should let the courts know she's been abused by her current husband. Once they (the police and courts) are aware, request custody of your children on the grounds of child endangerment.

Answer 2

I know the legal system farely well so let me see if I can be of any service to you. First of all I think it is great that you are wanting to advocate for your children. Chrildren often times don't get heard and we as parents have to look out for thier best interest and advocate for them even when it seems hard to.

On a legal stan point you have some great standing. Every state is different in thier laws. but every state is usually pretty similiar in my expierance. My first action would be to go file for full custody for both of your children. ( Iknow your point is not nessisarly to take them away from thier mother!) However, in doing this this may give her a view of how far things have gotten out of hand. Often battered women can't see what you and I see! You can file thsi yourself and save on attorney fees. There is a how to on the internet for your state. Writing an additional letter to the jude addressing the issues and concerns is always a great idea. Letting him know that your intentions are good and if you ex wife leaves and is safe without the deadbeat then you would be more then happy of them reuniting. I know that this will go through a family curcuit judge who will not appreciate the verbal and physical abuse. Also getting a print out of police reports is a good idea. remember to always have your ducks ina row.

There is a way to get INSTANT temporary custody. You can go down to your local courthouse a file a restraining order. I would see if your state allows your children to go file the actually restraining order against the the husband in the home. If the judge aprooves this you will have automatic temporary custody.

I would caution you on calling protective child services (It may be named different in your city) What I can see happening is them taking the report going to the house and not doing anyhting about it. (Thier case loads are usually preyy high) This will only anger the wife and husband and make your life worse! I was raised in CSD's care since the age of 6. So trust me I know every good and bad thing there is to know :)

Finally I would go to Legal Aid. See if you qualify. They can be of great service. There is so much information and resources out there. You just have to find them. I don't care if my awnser is chosen or not. I really feel for you. I may be of more help if you e-mail me. (which you are welcomed to do) [e-mail] Hope this helps some. Good luck, and Take Care :)

Answer 3

Wow dude, what an awful situation! I went through a similar one, but left the abusive bf. I hate myself for staying for so long, it hurt my kids bad! I wish I had an answer for you, I just had to respond. It seems that there should be SOMETHING you can do to protect your kids. Are you in a position where you can take them full time? If not, I'd try getting into one. Go on line and find a site where you can ask legal advice. Better yet, right now, I'd call your local Police Dept., tell them the situation. They can probably tell you exactly what to do. Your kids aren't safe! Get them out of there!! Good luck!!

Answer 4

She might have been threatened by her husband if she leaves and she is probably to scared to get out. Either way, she'll end up dead if you don't do anything. You need to get a hold of health and human services and report this to them. If you have any boys, they might end up violent like him or your daughters will end up dating men like him. Please help your children and your ex-wife. So many people end up dead that are in domestic abuse relationships because others are afraid to do anything, or they want to stay out. A woman is not stupid to be in a violent relationship, that is not a woman's dream of a man, abusers are like hunters, they lure the prey (the women) in, act all nice until they pounce (hit and abuse, isolate the women from family and friends), then they control every aspect. They demean the woman do much that they actually feel that the mans words are the truth. Soon they feel that they can't do better, or they will be alone. Your children are impressionable, and that is still their mother, you need to get them first (in your custody), and get your ex alone to talk about this. Tell her you care as a ex-husband, father of her kids, and as her friend. Good luck, keep me posted!

Answer 5

YEs there is something u can do about that. I would suggest contacting Child Proctective Services, filing a report, and even talking to a Justice of the Peace, for an some kind of order. U best act pronto., for ur kids sake,

Answer 6

First talk to her and ask her if the kids can come and stay with you while she gets this straitned out. If she says no go to the court house and or an attorney and ask how to get temporary custody of the kids because of what is going on. It is public record of his arrest. Remember the court says its what is in the best interest of the child. And you are right.

Answer 7

go to child protective services, tell them what is going on, but has your ex ever filed a complaint on him, where there is documentation on him? maybe u might want to bring the kids so they can tell the children's services their selves. your children are old enough that if they wanted to come live with u, that the courts would not object given the circumstances. have u spoken to your ex? can u provide her a safe place in the event she wants to leave him? or have u remarried and this is not an option? maybe she doesn't complain and allows this to go on because she sees no way out of it, and thinks there is no one who would be willing to help her. so if u are concerned step up to the plate and offer to help.

Answer 8

yes you can go to a lawyer and take action but maybe you should have a caring talk with your ex and ask her to maybe let your children come live with you until she can get her life in order and that you will not take her children away from her but if she does not feel the same way go to a lawyer and take it from there try the friendly way first for the kids sake

Answer 9

I am so sorry to hear this and find your concerns so understandable. I assume that you live in the US and hope that another poster can help you with concrete advice. I can ony wish you the very best and hope that you can take some sort of legal action to stop this.

Answer 10

Nothing you can do for her if she isn't willing to do for herself. But I suggest you fight for full custody on the basis that the children are being raised in a violent environment. That may motivate her to change her life. But none the less its your children who need to be removed from the situation.