I need your help ladies.... don't know why she doesn't want to do anything. Our love life used to be very energetic, could it be that My looks are not appealing to her anymore. What do you think?
2007-01-04 03:05:47 · 15 answers · asked by DJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she does work and we have no kids. she does want to have kids though and so do I.
2007-01-04 03:14:35 · update #1
Send her to the doctor. Hormones drive these things.
My wife went on the Nuva ring and she didn't want sex for 7 months. Great birth control....keep her 10 feet away from me...no way to get pregnant there...
By the way she has to be clear to her doctor. A lot of people dance around and say "I don't feel good, no energy, tired etc". They need to come right out and say "I HAVE NO SEX DRIVE".
2007-01-04 03:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hormone answer is a good one. I don't think most women are that concerned with their partner's good looks fading. I've never heard a woman say "I don't want him anymore. He let himself go." Well, I take that back. I read a question on here from a girl who was married to man who was about 20 to 25 years older than she was, and she wasn't attracted to him anymore because his hair was graying and whatnot. But I doubt that's the case with you guys. Seven months is a long time. Even if the "looks slipping" thing was true, surely she would still want to before 7 months. Even the men I know who have threatened to divorce their wives for getting heavy wanted it more than that. It probably is a hormonal thing. Or maybe she's very stressed or even in a depression. Does she act irritable or sad or quiet? Is she healthy otherwise and eating well? Think about the other things it could be before you blame yourself.
2007-01-04 03:16:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From you question I can see shes of child bearing age.If she doesn't have a medical problem, theirs only 3 poss able answers.
1.she finds fault with you. 2. shes int rested in women 3 shes having an affair.Until you know which one of these is your problem, you cant come to a conclusion.
First I would try a new co lone trow out any soaps or shampoos I have. Get a haircut trim or remove any facial hair,you get the picture. Be more oral with her, have dinner out get her some sexy under ware. Women feel more sexy in them. Get her some perfume.Number 2 and 3 can`t be coincided until you try 1
2007-01-04 03:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by tonyflorida2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it has nothing to do with you! She could have hormonal problems, be overwhelmed with work and kids, feel like she doesn't look good, or a million other things. Give her romance - flowers, an evening out, whatever she likes and don't pressure her. Invite her to talk about it and see where it leads. Concentrate on treating her the way you want to be treated and it will get better.
2007-01-04 03:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be medical. Could be psychological. But either way, must be addressed. Go with her to the doctor. Don't think of it or speak of it as "her" problem but as "our" problem, and be very loving about the need to get it dealt with in order to stay close and eventually have the children you both want. Try not to show frustration about it, as it may make it worse. Only show your worry for her that some underlying medical or other problem could be behind it and should be discovered.
2007-01-04 03:22:21 · answer #5 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she not feeling good about herself did
she gain weight or maybe she always keep her
self and maybe she slack off. Maybe you can
do something like just hold each other or wash
each other up or simply enjoy time like talking
and laughing that usually do because you
start to remmember what love about this person
or a talk may relief tears that may be pent up
and kiss and you know the rest and you
two may need to start back dating again
I wish you all the best i know will be hard
because that is a way men show their love
please,please,please be PATIENT! trust me
it happen for you because I know that you
want your wife just start dating her again
change things around and surprise her.
2007-01-04 03:20:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one she could not be happy with your actions in the bedroom.
So change things up a little. Get out the whip cream,strawberries,etc act out a movie the two of you have enjoyed in the past.leave sexy notes for her to find
And if that doesn't work Lay her on her back and make her smile.
2007-01-04 03:29:54 · answer #7 · answered by Nina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she have a weight problem if she does that could be it. Do something together start on a diet together, go for walks or join a gym that should get her going.
2007-01-04 03:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see her gynecologist. It could be a hormone problem. Insist on it. Your marriage is in trouble.
2007-01-04 03:13:21 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answers here are sound. That hardly ends a relationship. I know been there.
2007-01-04 03:21:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋