i am 8 months pregnant and my husband recently let me. In one of our arguments he stated that "I did not know how to be in a relationship."
even thought
To him i have always been
supportive
caring
open minded
loving
loyal
big hearted
and he has agreed to that!
Does anyone know what he ment by this? How should you be in a relationship?
2007-01-04 03:03:16 · 11 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
With all of the things he agrees that you are, you know how to be in a relationship. It seems like he feels guilty about leaving you while you are pregnant. During a pregnancy things change mood swings may sit in and so on. Maybe he is using things like this to say you don't know how to be in a relationship. Don't take this personal. This is a issue he has with himself about leaving. Sometime people will find an excuse to leave someone rather then just admitting that they no longer want to be there. If you don't have two willing people you don't have an relationship. Doesn't seem like he is willing to work at the marriage. Pull yourself together it will take time but you will soon be able to understand your situation. Focus on having a healthy baby, right now. Take care of yourself.
2007-01-04 03:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by relationcounseling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How to be in a relationship? wow this I am trying to understand myself after getting out of two one with two children that started when I was 14yrs-till I was 28 14 yrs., and the second with my 3rd baby for 10 yrs, but we both never remarried to one another but had been both before....so that was a 10 year b.s. thing, relationship, jopke, whatever you can call it. Now close to 40 living for the first time,single after 24 something years and only been for 18 months I ask myself How to be in a reltionship? Sorry did you say he left you andyour * months? Well first congradulations on your baby? Chin up be strong this is now your first priority! Not this so called person who calls himself a man maybe who leaves... not juft you but his child,, it is not a problem the pregnancy but if it ever seemed to be unexpected and was brought up in a conversation?argument as it was,, its not just yours but his problem as well, and bringing this child into this world should not be called a problem , but the love you both made together, if he can just throw up the relationship thing ..who cares don't questioned yourself if you are all the kind-hearted things you listed about yourself , concentrate on the baby, and be these things you are, and the love you will and already feel towards the life growing inside of you. Let this person figure out himself, as he needs to as himself ALOT more questions to himself.. As in can he go to get a reality check, Do not waist your energy figuring out this crazy question on the world of relationships but focus on the life and the relationship of the child that will adore you and love you all of their lifes.The question isn't dthis relationship thing and not to reverse it but this guy... does not know how to be a husband, in a married/commitment. fatherhood, in time, but ok if you want to give him a little bitty slack, he could be just nervous himself, of the changes that will take place. but if he keeps throwing around these ???? ignorant words... cause he can't think of anything else, let him stomp out leave, and keep on stomping,,, good luck with you and your baby. There is no perfect relationship, as there are no perfect ways to be a parent, just be thebest parentThe parent that you always that you always wanted to have. And the good qualities from the one who did raise you
2007-01-04 11:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by homespaparties4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have had some type of stress he is trying to deal with. If all you say about your self if true, he knows that, he knows how lucky he is. Do not be getting all bent out of shape, because if that is the worst he has ever said or done to you, be thankful.
2007-01-04 11:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not worry about this. It is just a passing phase. May be he was in a nasty mood. When 2 people argue, they speak all kinds of stuff which they do not mean, just so that they win the argument.
It happens in every relationship..you are not alone. Just let go and enjoy your pregnancy..good luck..Practice deep breathing.
2007-01-04 11:19:15 · answer #4 · answered by SP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have to point the finger at someone else. They have a problem and they know it but can't admit it. He wants out and does't want to be the one that ends it so he is pushing it off on you. what a loser you will be better off without him you sound like you know how he is the one that can't handle it.
2007-01-04 11:11:04 · answer #5 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask HIM,don't ask us.We are not your husband.
All the answers in the world won't amount to a hill of beans unless they come from your husband.It's real simple,ask him to NOT talk in riddles and communicate with you honestly,openly,and in terms you can understand.
2007-01-04 11:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it look good to me maybe he don;t know how to be in a relationship lol try not to fight alot that might help
2007-01-04 11:19:13 · answer #7 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that list is a good one and that is a relationship + love and youll be fine
2007-01-04 11:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by ino M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
someone does know what he means by that statement.. Him so ask him not us...and as far as how you should be in a relationship commited..and thats not in your list.
2007-01-04 11:11:53 · answer #9 · answered by samshel1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has issues and wants to blame it on you.
2007-01-04 11:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋