I think i'm falling out of love with my fiancee.?

Question

We have been together for eight years. The last year and a half have been nothing but arguements.
For which i think she instigated things.
It feels like she is trying to make me hate her ( Its working)
Since the new year started everytime i come home from work it seems like she finds her self in the bedroom, and within 30 mins she's sleeping.
We do have two children and she does say she loves me all the time but i'm not buying it!
She undermines me when i try to decipline the kids.
This one a classic,
When she aske a question and i answer it, if its not the answer she wants to hear she say's" No that not true its blah blah blah"
You get my drift...........................
Any sergestion on what i should do??????????

Answer 1

Since you already made children with this woman...why don't you marry her?

Quit making a career out of being engaged...both of you always have one foot out the door when you're not married..

Married couples have to try harder..ESPECIALLY with kids...the kids need you and their Mama to commit to marriage and be kind to each other, no matter what.

When they turn 18...then you can escape from this woman...but until then...be NOTHING but kind...just nod your head and say, "uh-huh", to whatever she says. Your children will see what a wonderful Dad they have....they'll lose respect for their Mother later, if she keeps acting terrible...

Just blow off the frustration by playing Golf.....playing with the children...anything you can....

Answer 2

It sounds like the 7-year-itch. (That's about when it started, right?) You really can make it past this "bump." It know it seems horrible right now when you're stuck in the middle of it. But when you look at the big picture, a lifetime together with someone, which could be like 30, 40, 50 years, a year or two of bickering and not feeling like you are swooning in love over each other is not really such a big deal. Every couple goes through their own version of this, sometimes shorter, sometimes longer. At least one of you (but ideally, both of you) needs to recommit to finding the things that attracted you to each other in the first place, rededicate yourselves to finding the bond you had. It's as if you are married since you live together and have children. Since you call her your fiance, I guess a wedding is planned? Maybe if you two can sit down and realize that you'd both be happier if you worked on getting a little romance back into the relationship and being a little kinder to each other, you can try to rekindle the flame. Good luck with it. The biggest thing you can do is make it really clear to her that you love her and you want to refocus all of both your energies onto making your relationship stronger. This should mean something to her. Tell her you want to do whatever it takes and ask her if she feels the same.

Answer 3

Not always, but sometime after a girl has a child with a guy, she thinks that she has him trapped. It is then that her true colors come out. This also happens with guys doing the same thing. It is sad, two children and this happening. If she will not communicate with you and straighten out the problems, you might need to start making plans for you and your children to have a happier life. If there is a way to save the relationship, be the one to make ever effort, even counseling. It will make you the better person.. Good luck.

Answer 4

Do you think you could love her again if she changed? Maybe relationship counselling would be good so you can both be honest with each other, how you're feeling and she can tell you why she behaves the way she does.

She sounds like she's pushing the self destruct button on your relationship, whether that is deliberate or not I don't know. She may very well be being honest saying she loves you. She might have her own issues that she needs to work through that are nothing to do with your relationship but are interfering with it.

You and her need to get to the root of why she's behaving this way and counselling would do that.

Answer 5

I say it's time to go. you have children and it's not good for them to be seeing or hearing what is going on. you can still be a good dad to the kids and support them and visit them. or even take custody yourself. but i say sit her down and let her know your unhappy with the way things are going and tell her that you really are starting to hate her and you and her must come to some kind of understanding if not then i just you have to do what you got to do. lol

Answer 6

well tell her that you always feel like she is undermineing you and you are just tring to be a good father. tell her that you care about her but the agureing is to much. stick it out because in the end if something were to happen that would just kill the kids. comeing from a kid whose parents broke up because of the same thing i know how hurt they will be now my mom got remarried and my dad did to and i have 8 brothers and sisters from them both me being to second youngest i love my parents but i wisht that they could have thought it though you deserve to be happy but not at the cost of your sanity i wish you luck and god bless you and your family

Answer 7

I don't think you love her I think you are USE to her which is REALLY BAD. SOmetime when people are together too long they are just comfortable with that person. yOu know getting use to there everyday moves, know almost everything about them so it becomes routine. BUT don't confuse this with love. Its more of a conveince. If your having 2nd thoughts get out now before its too late>

Answer 8

that is a hard one it just might be because you are controlling. if not you need to sit her down and tell her how you feel, if she doesn't know how you feel she can't do anything about it