I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now, very much in love, have no complaints. However i still find myself randomly thinking about the first girl i truly loved. Is that normal? I also ponder constantly about what i would do if the original one asked me back. Are these normal thoughts? Any ideas how i can stop thinking about her, we broke up 5 years ago after dating for 2 years. Thanks.
2007-01-04 02:47:29 · 15 answers · asked by Drew 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In addition, my g/f doesnt know, and as of right now, i would not get back with her, but it troubles me that i have these thoughts.
2007-01-04 02:53:30 · update #1
There will always be a special place in your heart for your first love. Thats all . I think this is normal.
2007-01-04 02:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you have fond memories of the first girl you ever truly loved. Were there qualities, or components in that relationship that are not present in the current relationship where you have no complaints? It is obvious that you harbor feelings for your original girlfriend, but it has been 5 years, half a decade. I would not contact her under any circumstances and not mention it to the girl you are with now. You need to go through a process of silent mental closure that her memory becomes a very distant one. Start with loving your current girlfriend more.
2007-01-04 11:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think love has anything to do with it... the thought s of this one from the past... if you think are you in love? really or just love for this person. but no love has nothing at all. The past gal, maybe it ended with no closure, or it was a hurtful unsettled, break up? Why did it end? Also, think about it, was it your first, was there certain memories that you can't let go cause it was a happy time.. Try to forget about this person, unless you think is she wondering about you, just she think of you? Maybe you miss her, get in touch, for closure, and then you will realize ...why you even waisted your time, cause maybe you will see after all why you two aren't together. There was someting that ended it, Maybe she was a beeoch???? Good luck, try to let it go the past is past and don't jepordise the present, the future. some things somepeople..you just got to let it go, let it fade,it's all just a memory once upon a time ago..
2007-01-04 10:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by homespaparties4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think this is very normal, but do not ponder on it. My husband and I have been married for 26 years and one day we were talking about past relationships and he did mention his first love and said that he did wonder about her at times and I said “hey me to” as long as you do not have any regrets about the person you are with its normal.
2007-01-04 11:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Pollyanna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal I also randomly think about the first guy I ever loved but have not seen him talked to him in over 11 yrs so I think that I really would just like to see how he is doing and stay friends
2007-01-04 10:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by Maria Laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever forget your first true love. As long as you don't let it hurt your current girlfriend, then don't worry about it.
The main thing is to realize that even if you were with the first girl again, it would never be the same. The time you've been apart, you've both grown and changed. Enjoy your memories......
2007-01-04 10:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very normal to think about your first true love. I still think about mine and it's been 25 years. Before taking your relationship with your gf to the marriage level however, make sure that you would turn down the first if she asked you back.
2007-01-04 10:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is totally normal. As human beings we can't help but wonder about the "what ifs". I wouldn't worry about it, deep down you know who it is you truly love. If you really love your girlfriend your passing thoughts shouldn't be a threat.
2007-01-04 10:54:12 · answer #8 · answered by majones83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is quite normal to think of someone we loved in our past. but if these thoughts totally consume u, than that is not saying much about the love u have for the present girl.
2007-01-04 11:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch .. well first of all you will always care for your first true love .. real love doesn't just completely disappear .. what you really need to do is figure out why your new relationship is lacking in some way .. if it's truly NOT .. then you gotta just let it go and focus on your future
2007-01-04 10:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by love me only 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋